how to transition without breaking my daughters heart - Page 2

[chfriend]

I wouldn't change an educational choice that was working, especially if the subject of the decision would be heartbroken.

What is making you want the change?

[Lisa1970]

My children hated their school so this was not an issue for us. But I have been very worried they will change their minds. SO, I made a list of all the things we can do that we cannot do otherwise if they were at school. Then, we do them and while doing them, sometimes I will point out that the other kids are stuck at their desks and look at us, look what we are doing. Then we have a little saying "Home school is so cool" like in a rhyme-y way.

[Tassy]

Is seems to me the conversation has strayed from OP's question of HOW to transition....not IF or WHEN to transition. She is the mama and she knows her situation. We all made decisions to school or not to school for our own reasons and we should trust this mama did the same for good reasons and help her transition her daughter with love.....

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Tassy

Is seems to me the conversation has strayed from OP's question of HOW to transition....not IF or WHEN to transition. She is the mama and she knows her situation. We all made decisions to school or not to school for our own reasons and we should trust this mama did the same for good reasons and help her transition her daughter with love.....

I think she needs to explain WHY to her child. If she can't explain to a bunch of adults who feel homeschooling is a completely reasonable option, I don't see that conversation going well.

As parents, we have the power to over-ride what our kids want from their lives. We all differ in how often we use that power. I think that sometimes we need to make a call that they don't like, but I do it as seldom as possible and explain it to them in terms they can understand.

(And I would say the exact same thing to a mom whose child was happy with homeschooling but transitioning to school. )

[chfriend]

Originally Posted by Tassy

Is seems to me the conversation has strayed from OP's question of HOW to transition....not IF or WHEN to transition. She is the mama and she knows her situation. We all made decisions to school or not to school for our own reasons and we should trust this mama did the same for good reasons and help her transition her daughter with love.....

My answer to how would depend on why.

[GoBecGo]

Originally Posted by Tassy

Is seems to me the conversation has strayed from OP's question of HOW to transition....not IF or WHEN to transition. She is the mama and she knows her situation. We all made decisions to school or not to school for our own reasons and we should trust this mama did the same for good reasons and help her transition her daughter with love.....

My advice if the reason were a bunch of teachers with numerous reports of, but no convictions for, sexual abuse (and before anyone says it doesn't happen, it happened to my family!) would be different than if the reason was "i miss her during the day" (not very likely, just a lame sleep-starved example! ).

[Lillian J]

Originally Posted by Tassy

Is seems to me the conversation has strayed from OP's question of HOW to transition....not IF or WHEN to transition. She is the mama and she knows her situation. We all made decisions to school or not to school for our own reasons and we should trust this mama did the same for good reasons and help her transition her daughter with love.....

I think the "when" of it is an important part of the how. Timing is a crucial element in lots of things of that magnitude. Lillian

[moominmamma]

Originally Posted by Lillian J

I think the "when" of it is an important part of the how. Timing is a crucial element in lots of things of that magnitude. Lillian

I agree! And KellyandKatie raised the timing issue in her very first post:

Originally Posted by KellyandKatie

I thought about slowly transitioning so she could be enjoying it before I came out with the big bomb and told her she was done with school

I think the original question was about "when" as much as "how." They are linked.

Miranda

[Tassy]

Well then by all means continue discussing if and when.... I was just speaking up in support of the OP....

[phathui5]

How's it going, OP? Have you made any decisions yet?