Cry it out for daycare infant.

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He's not mine, and it's none of my business. But, he's with me every day for the next three days. (He's been here since last monday). He has a regular provider.

They are not American, and they do things differently in their country. I totally respect that.

They want him fed (some awful smelling baby food)... No biggie! He's five months old, it's spicy, but he seems fine with it. They make his formula from scratch. Every morning, mom spends an hour making this. Mom and dad ADORE this little baby.

But, he goes in his bed for two hours in the morning, and two hours in the afternoon. No matter what. He can cry the whole two hours, or he can sleep. But, he may not be picked up. He can't go to bed early either. He is in his bed from 8:00-10:00. And, again from 12:00 til 2:00. If he's sleeping at 2:00, I am to wake him up. Even if he just fell asleep.

The poor kid is only here seven hours, and he's in a bed sleeping or crying for four hours of that.

He does sleep pretty well most days. But, today, he cried the entire afternoon nap, and just fell asleep. I should have gotten him up 1/2 hour ago, but I haven't. Yesterday was just as bad.

His last day is Friday? Do, I just suck it up til then?

[childsplay]

Aw, poor little guy... personally, I'd put him in a sling or just hold him and read a book/watch tv (if that's possible) during his naptimes.
As a provider I have in the agreement - which the parents sign - that there's no CIO in my home, I go with the flow of the child-especially in the first month.
If you only have him until Friday I would simply do what works for you and him. If he's screaming in bed, I'd rock him or just hold him.

The first three weeks to a month is the normal (for me) adjustment period for such a young baby, so a few days? He's going to be pretty stressed. I'd do whatever it takes to comfort him and soothe him to sleep.

[just_lily]

My nerves wouldn't be able to take it. I would comfort him to sleep, and let him sleep when he is tired. Ideally you might have said this to the parents upfront, but for only three days you just have to do what works.

A two hour nap for a 5mo seems really long! My DD didn't sleep for more that 45 minutes at a time during the day until she was nearly a year old.

I would be ok if a parent let me know that their child fussed for a couple of minutes before falling asleep, and if they asked me to just leave them be for that time - I am thinking less than five minutes max of fussing that gets more calm rather than more hysterical. But two hours? Not a chance.

That has to be distressing for the other kids in the house as well. None of my nappers would be able to sleep with a baby shrieking in the house.

[Minxie]

Originally Posted by nextcommercial

He's not mine, and it's none of my business. But, he's with me every day for the next three days. (He's been here since last monday). He has a regular provider.

They are not American, and they do things differently in their country. I totally respect that.

They want him fed (some awful smelling baby food)... No biggie! He's five months old, it's spicy, but he seems fine with it. They make his formula from scratch. Every morning, mom spends an hour making this. Mom and dad ADORE this little baby.

But, he goes in his bed for two hours in the morning, and two hours in the afternoon. No matter what. He can cry the whole two hours, or he can sleep. But, he may not be picked up. He can't go to bed early either. He is in his bed from 8:00-10:00. And, again from 12:00 til 2:00. If he's sleeping at 2:00, I am to wake him up. Even if he just fell asleep.

The poor kid is only here seven hours, and he's in a bed sleeping or crying for four hours of that.

He does sleep pretty well most days. But, today, he cried the entire afternoon nap, and just fell asleep. I should have gotten him up 1/2 hour ago, but I haven't. Yesterday was just as bad.

His last day is Friday? Do, I just suck it up til then?

Respectfully, the bolded sections are in opposition to one another. While I don't agree with CIO AT ALL, it seems as if you agreed to their guidelines when you decided to care for their child.

Were it me, I would talk to the parents when next they bring the child to you and explain to them that you are uncomfortable with the CIO. Ask them if it is acceptable for you to sling him instead but please respect their wishes as you would like them to respect yours.

As for the two hour naps, my DS has always taken two hour naps and still does at the age of four (when he takes a nap; he's trying to give up naps now! )

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Originally Posted by Minxie

Respectfully, the bolded sections are in opposition to one another. While I don't agree with CIO AT ALL, it seems as if you agreed to their guidelines when you decided to care for their child.

Were it me, I would talk to the parents when next they bring the child to you and explain to them that you are uncomfortable with the CIO. Ask them if it is acceptable for you to sling him instead but please respect their wishes as you would like them to respect yours.

As for the two hour naps, my DS has always taken two hour naps and still does at the age of four (when he takes a nap; he's trying to give up naps now! )

I know. I think that's what I'm fighting with. I actually DO respect their wishes. He's healthy, happy, his needs are met.

Today was much better. He took two two hour naps, and woke up happy both times. However, MY day didn't work out exactly like they would have liked. So, because of how other things were going, I put him down almost an hour later each time. By the time I fed him, and got him ready for bed, it was at least 45 minutes late. So, I kinda gave up on trying to keep the particular schedule for the day.

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When I did home daycare, leaving babies to cry was not a service I provided, regardless of how parents did things at home. I was up front with everyone about it.