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[Norasmomma]

Do you eat sesame? Nuts?

My DS is allergic to those(sesame, most nuts) and not the other biggies.

Does he grab at his head or anything while he cries? Have you taken him to a pediatrician? I take crying as trying to tell you something is wrong, especially the amount he's crying.

[changingseasons]

Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy

or maybe I'm just not cut out to be a mom. I don't know.

I know how frustrating it can be!! If he was better on vacation, I would look really closely at what was different. Did you eat different foods than you normally do? Maybe something in your water at home? Or your environment (like hidden mold in your home, or environmental allergens, pollens, etc.) Or something as simple as a different sleep schedule?

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by changingseasons

I know how frustrating it can be!! If he was better on vacation, I would look really closely at what was different. Did you eat different foods than you normally do? Maybe something in your water at home? Or your environment (like hidden mold in your home, or environmental allergens, pollens, etc.) Or something as simple as a different sleep schedule?

I'm wracking my brain but can't figure out anything that was different. He slept the same hours, we ate similarly to at home (minus some possible gluten cross-contamination) and brought a lot of our own food. The water was different but he is only 20mos so doesn't drink much water, a sip or two a day at most. The hotel was gross (that's a whole 'nother story) but I suppose it's possible there is some mold or something at our house that wasn't at the hotel. I think a lot of it was just having both my & DH's attention rather than us trying to do housework etc. while playing with him. It's like you can distract him from whatever it is that bothers him but when the distractions are over he starts crying again.

[OJazzy1]

I have a very sensitive child as well, he has been "difficult" since he was a baby and he is really going through a stage right now that is very very trying, he is 27 months old. So here are my thoughts, of course I don't think the same things work for every family but this is what has at least helped with us.

Maybe eliminating the nursing all the time so that he is not able to demand from you all the time and starts eating other things, night time nursing is a comfort thing but maybe no more mornings and nap, like I said just a thought, you need to feel less drained and maybe he would get in to the habit of it being a night deal and like I said start eating a bit more.

I have used the stairs as our corner a lot lately, my son will start the screaming/crying where he won't stop and I have elminated everything else besides the fact that he is being fussy... usually I say something like "I can see you are having a difficult time organizing yourself how about you sit here until you can do that?" and then I put him on the stair, sometimes he stops immediatly and sometimes he screams harder for a while. I am never out of his line of sight so he does not have to be afraid that I have left him and if he gets up before he has calmed down I just silently return him to his step. It seems to work for us and he has learned to start "organizing" himself which is what it seems with my little guy, he likes to organize everything, even his toys so he sometimes (ok, so right now a LOT of times) needs time to get himself together.

Just some thoughts and (((HUGS))) because I know it is a really hard.

As a p.s. I personally think that unless you have some hard evidence that there is a food allergy then it is just going to put more stress on you trying to avoid certain foods and taking away the only foods that he does eat. Just my thought though.

[HolliM]

Crunchy_mama- Have you read the book "Raising Your Spirited Child"? Omg, I've heard about this book and the term spirited child for years, but honestly never thought it was my child...UNTIL I started to read it 3 nights ago...It's word for word my son. It's hard coming to terms that all this might just be his temperament, but at the same it's so validating reading about other children that are the same way and finding new tools to deal with him.

Right now he has a cold, so things are even worse, with constant crying and no sleep. But I have hope that I can try my best to accept him for who he is now that I've come to terms that this is his temperament and find the best in it.