"Shake it off" ? - Page 4

[mommy212]

I don't think it's some horribly negative thing. Kids don't need to be fussed over and made big of every single time they fall over, in my opinion. Especially not in the falling age. Although, that being said, I would certainly go get my child if he was crying/bleeding/really hurt or anything. I mean the little tumbles and scrapes. A lot of kids I know (not all certainly) wait to see an adult's reaction to their "injuries" before they know what to do, and smiling and saying something along the lines of "you're okay sweety" or in this case, "shake it off" works out great .

[eepster]

When DS falls, I say "are you OK sweety"

• 80% of the time he yells back "I'm fine" while running off to play.
• 19% of the time he comes to me for a quick hug and a kiss.
• 1% he actually starts to cry and I go get him and contemplate taking him to the ER.

DS isn't even vaguely prone to over reacting to minor bumps b/c I never told him how to feel. Actually I often worry that he under reacts to injury. There is a scar on his chin that I think might be less visible if I had taken him to the ER to get fixed up instead of just listening to him when he said he was fine. DS never cries for anything less than spurting blood.

I don't think I should tell DS how he feels when something happens to him. I feel I should ask him how he feels then base my response on that.

I don't see why asking ones child if they are OK is considered fussing. Telling a child that they are hurt when they aren't would be fussing. I would see that in the same light as telling the child that they are OK.