Originally Posted by changingseasons
Maybe some of those women have had REALLY bad decisions made for them by their care providers because they trusted their doctors knowledge/education/experience over their own.
And nowhere do I say that women should trust doctors over their own experience. I said that women had stopped giving themselves the credit we deserved in knowing what was best for us. I said that women should take back their power.
In that process, they should be mindful that those Doctors do know a bit more then we probably do about when pregnancy diverges from low risk/ normal. So, no.. we dont just act like little obedient good girls, letting the Docs have full say.. but it makes me want to bash my head into walls when I see women in later DDCs or Im Pregnant talking about how their doc is over reacting about pitting edema, or how there really wasnt "alot" of protein in their urine, or how a blood pressure of 140/90 is perfectly normal and fantastic because they read on Ronnie Falco's archive it was OK. Or scaring the crap out of women by telling them that a simple doppler exposes their baby to 30X more U/S then imaging U/S.. or asking a mom why she is having another ultrasound, or cant have a VBAC or why she is listening to what he Dr is saying about xyz.
So, what do we do with normal/ low risk pregnancies to stop birth trauma, to stop interventions and surgeries?
We stay at home to have our babies or we pick hospital or birth center care providers that are trained in low risk pregnancy.
If that isnt an option because of money or location...
You go into your OB with the best possible attitude of partnership and you help educate them in natural birth. But what you dont go in there looking for a fight, acting like a know it all and expect anything less then the same treatment in return. So, when "enlightened" birth folk needle women about why they are doing xyz, dont they know that it isnt safe/needed/yaddayadda they are doing no service to that mother. Now, when they present studies that a woman can print out and take to their doctor, or well thought out concerns or questions.. that is helpful. When we treat women like they have power, then they will use it. When we berate them on why they arent using their power, they feel even more helpless, alone and marginalized.
Ive watched so many doula clients get the full meal deal doing that in hospitals and it just isnt nessecary to have such a combative and negative idea regarding your care provider if it happens to be an OB.
Barbara Herrara wrote a good post kind of about thishttp://navelgazingmidwife.squarespac...al-ticket.html
I dont label myself, but I *am* on MDC, so some would think I'm a hippy. Ive put a decade towards become a homebirth midwife. I believe in low risk birth. I just dont believe this attitude of OBs being bad that pervades alot of the NCB community does any favors to birthing mothers. It sets most women up for a double bind, and that is not a psychologically stable thing. That hurts women.