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post #21 of 41
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You're related to Dick Cheney and George W?



You win.
Okay...that totally made my day!!!
post #22 of 41
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Originally Posted by momtoS View Post
probably not as bad as what you are dealing with. Yes. A scandal. The relative commited suicide.
How is that a scandal? I always view someone committing suicide as horrible sad, but I don't see how it is scandalous. Anyone who decides to commit suicide is obviously suffering greatly and not thinking clearly.

My grandfather commit suicide in the 1970s due to untreated bipolar disorder, my mother attempted suicide multiple times for the same reason, I attempted at 17 before I was diagnosed bipolar and my own little son was suicidal at the tender age of 7 before his diagnosis and treatment. I don't view any of this as a scandal.
post #23 of 41
Oh and I am related to several pedophiles, two of which also molested me and my sister. None were convicted.
post #24 of 41
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You're related to Dick Cheney and George W?



You win.
Not Cheney. The first guy is Prescott Bush, George H W's brother.
post #25 of 41
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You're related to Dick Cheney and George W?



You win.
That was my guess, as well!

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Not Cheney. The first guy is Prescott Bush, George H W's brother.
Holy cow. Though I think he's Bush Sr's dad, not his brother.
post #26 of 41
I clicked on this thread out of curiosity because it keeps popping back to the top of the forum. I know this is going to sound sappy or like it's just not enough but, damn guys, I'm really sorry that you've all had to go through all of these terrible things. I wish criminals mentioned in this thread would have had the capacity/heart/foresight to consider the families that would have to deal with the ongoing consequences of their crimes. You're all in my thoughts.
post #27 of 41
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Not Cheney. The first guy is Prescott Bush, George H W's brother.
Yeah, but first thought reading that was "wait... You're related to Bush! Why the heck would you admit that!"

post #28 of 41
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How is that a scandal? I always view someone committing suicide as horrible sad, but I don't see how it is scandalous. Anyone who decides to commit suicide is obviously suffering greatly and not thinking clearly.

My grandfather commit suicide in the 1970s due to untreated bipolar disorder, my mother attempted suicide multiple times for the same reason, I attempted at 17 before I was diagnosed bipolar and my own little son was suicidal at the tender age of 7 before his diagnosis and treatment. I don't view any of this as a scandal.
Ooops I am sorry. I meant they were accused of something, arrested and then committed suicide before telling anyone whether or not they did want they were accused of.

I should have explained.
post #29 of 41
momtoS, I think it was understood what you meant....and either way you have the right to feel any way you want about your relatives suicide. don't apologize....(hugs)
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That was my guess, as well!

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Not Cheney. The first guy is Prescott Bush, George H W's brother.
Holy cow. Though I think he's Bush Sr's dad, not his brother.
It was both. There are three Prescotts. Bush Sr's dad, Bush Sr's brother, and Prescott III, who has not been around for a while. Prescott Sr. and Jr. are both linked to nazi sympathizers, though more of the dealings with actual nazis was Prescott Sr. But I never met him.

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Yeah, but first thought reading that was "wait... You're related to Bush! Why the heck would you admit that!"

because it's hilarious, if you know my political leanings. And, frankly, the political leanings of most of my generation of my branch of the family.
post #31 of 41
Yes, and it would really be ok with me if I never got a 5am call from SWAT again. To this day the DOD, FBI type folk come around looking for 'xyz'. Said incident happened 4 years ago this october. I remember the moment the phone rang and woke me up, I remember what the officer said, I remember that day like it was this AM.

'xyz' is properly detained and the folk should be able to find him so why they come here is beyond me.

I still cry about it, the day is still stressful. My son is still dealing with the aftermath.

I haven't read all the responses but PM me if you need to talk or want details.
post #32 of 41
Not a relative but a co-workers daughter was murdered. She (the daughter) was taken from a bar after a night of drinking with her co-workers. It was several weeks before her body was found. When they went to arrest the guy who supposedly did it, found he had commited suicide in his Parent's garage.

My co-worker sat behind me. It was heartbreaking. I remember the day they confirmed hair fibers in the guys vehicle were the same. My co-worker got a call about it. She broke down sobbing. I remember running around the corner to get my boss to come help her.

It was so horrible. Something I will never forget.
post #33 of 41
Well, my husband's cousin was all over the news a year or so ago for drunken breastfeeding while the cops were at her house.

Hugs to all you mamas who have survived these horrible experiences.
post #34 of 41
No, fortunately.

We do have a close friend who was a felon as a young man, and turned his life around.
post #35 of 41
Not me but DH's family. His aunt and uncle died in a murder/suicide (uncle killed his wife, threatened her co-worker, then killed himself) that was big news around their area. My SIL is actually not DH's sister but his cousin who MIL took guardianship of after her parents died.
post #36 of 41
Well, a big part of the reason I didn't take Dh's last name when we married was because of this guy. Poor DH grew up hearing about how wonderful the man was how great he was as the patriarch of the family bringing them to mormonism... he never even knew the truth until he was in his 20's. It doesn't freak my hubby out to think he has murderous DNA, though.
post #37 of 41
Yes. My brother was accused, tried and convicted of something I would rather not say. I don't talk about it with anyone. I supported him as much as I could, but if he did the crime he had to do the sentence. I still love him but I feel badly for his victim.

I haven't really talked about it with DH, just my mom and other brothers. DH's family doesn't know and neither do my friends. It helps that I live in another country than my family does.
post #38 of 41
My dad was in jail for 18 months accused of murdering a woman he knew. He was aquitted when he finally got to trial. There was absolutely no evidence...The fingerprints, etc all were the woman's ex boyfriends, not my dads..And the police never did question her ex-bf about the blood stains on his clothing. But because he had a smart mouth when the police came to question him, they considered it a confession. He said, "Well if you know I did it, then why don't you arrest me?" Thankfully, when it got to trial they realized he was innocent, and he was released. He passed away due to a heart attack a year later.
post #39 of 41
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My dad was in jail for 18 months accused of murdering a woman he knew. He was aquitted when he finally got to trial. There was absolutely no evidence...The fingerprints, etc all were the woman's ex boyfriends, not my dads..And the police never did question her ex-bf about the blood stains on his clothing. But because he had a smart mouth when the police came to question him, they considered it a confession. He said, "Well if you know I did it, then why don't you arrest me?" Thankfully, when it got to trial they realized he was innocent, and he was released. He passed away due to a heart attack a year later.
I'm so sorry. That's so unfair. Peace to you.
post #40 of 41

Been there...

So sorry you are going through this..My uncle, who was a sherrif's deputy, was arrested for child molestation two years ago. It was all over the local news and the internet because he was a cop and because of how the disclosures unfolded. I have no problem cutting him off completely but it was particularly painful because he was the only one in my father's family I still had a relationship with. His father molested me and all my female cousins (and most likely his own children, including the boys as well). The genetic issue scares the shit out of me. I spent most of my first pregnancy in therapy coping with the "what if a genetic light switch gets flipped on at some point and I molest my children..." and that was years before my uncle's arrest which underscored this fear. Needless to say, that is part of the trauma of it all. My therapist kindly reminded me again and again that people who come to therapy to talk about such fears openly and work to heal their own trauma are not the ones who gone on to molest children. It has significantly impacted my relationships with my own father and brothers though. I had just started to feel like I could trust my fathers and brothers with my children (because of my own neglect as a child) when my uncle was arrested and it made me requestion everything about my family once more. In a perverted way, this was the only uncle who stood by my cousins and I when we disclosed. And the whole time he was a pedophile too. That sickened me. So there is no unsupervised visitation with my family now.

I haven't had contact with my uncle since his arrest (for which he was convicted but only spent 6 f'in weeks in jail for due to statue of limitations). It terrifies me that when his probation is up in 2 more years, he'll show up in my city because my grandmother and some of his siblings STILL (despite his conviction) act like he is the victim.

I wish you as much peace as you can thorugh this.
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