I'm good friends with two women and we all spend a decent amount of time together. One mom and her family are vegans. Me and the other mom aren't. We've been taking turns watching the vegans son for her twice a month while she and her husband have a date night. All three of us are often at the other persons home and have what I thought was a good relationship. During the other moms turn to watch the son I was there dropping off a DVD I borrowed and hung around to chit chat when she offered the vegan child a piece of hamburger. The mom and her husband always bring his own food and snacks for him to eat if we're watching him. It works out great because our food is non vegan but on occasion I've gone to a vegan bakery to pick him up a treat all of us can eat. FYI- I checked with my friend to make sure this was okay. Anyway, I asked her if the vegan mom started eating meat again and forgot to tell me and she said "no but a little piece of hamburger isn't going to hurt him. it's what all kids get" and offered him a piece again. When she held it out for him to take I told him I think his mom brought something for him to eat and he should probably eat that instead. The mom rolled her eyes and when the little boy left the room (he's 3) she told me he needs meat and went on a tirade that really had nothing to do with the other moms rules and regulations for her son. I mentioned this to the other mom but waited until the next day to do so. I told her casually. "I just wanted to let you know so and so offered him a piece of burger while I was there." She was really upset, contacted the other mom for disrespecting her feeding choices and asked me and DH if we'd mind taking on the other moms night to watch her son. The mom who offered him the burger is P.O'ed with me for saying somethng to her about it. I told her I would have wanted her to do the same if I were in her position and that we may not like each others parenting choices but we have to accept them especially if we consider each other friends. The other mom isn't talking to her and she's not talking to me. I hate drama but I think I did the right thing my saying something. Would you have just stayed out of it? I would be highly upset if I found out the person I was trusting to watch my DD was feeding her items I specifically asked her not to.
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9/22/10 at 11:44am