Originally Posted by Chamomile Girl
I'm seriously appalled that a "friend" would give a vegan kid meat on purpose. Or find it appropriate to hold a belief system that includes the thought "all kids do/get ___".
You totally did the right thing. You know these ladies...how do you think this is going to play out?
Thank you and everyone else for responding.
To answer your question, it's not playing out well at all and I don't see a happy ending here. The vegan mom is a very relaxed and easy going mama and from my experience it takes a lot to tick her off and she is very hot right now. The other mama is hot with me but I can live with that. She called me again today to air out her issues and I let her have her say. She says as a friend I shouldn't have "ratted" her out. I told her another friends child was involved and if the vegan mom was feeding her son something she clearly knew she shouldn't, I would have done the same thing and as mothers we have to understand how important it is for us to respect each others parenting choices even when we disagree. I'm surprised and extremely annoyed that she's not getting this!
The vegan mom wants nothing to do with her. She's wondering if her son was given meat before and she feels violated and is extremely hurt.
I'm happy to take on the extra day of babysitting for the evening she and her DH need it if she still wants it. She may be uncomfortable about leaving him with anyone at this point and I can't blame her.
This is a very touchy situation because all of our kids get along and we've enjoyed some great times together but there is a major lack of trust going on here. Vegan mom for obvious reasons, meat mom doesn't trust me and I can't trust a person who can't respect her friends choices about child feeding. It's so easy to feed the child what his mom and dad have sent with him. I'm careful to not fuel the fire when vegan mom talks about what happened. I listen. This is just a not good situation. I hope someone would say something to me if the situation were reversed. Meat mom's what's the big deal, you ratted me out thing is juvenille and it's just making me
Oh, I think another poster asked if the vegan child is emaciated. He is a very healthy child. The other mom would have no reason to think he's unhealthy or needs to eat differently.