The whole point of this thread is how long before you call it quits?
DD2 will be 4 next month, she just started 2 days a week a preschool at the end of August. She goes from 8:30am-3pm, half day is till 1pm but isn't an option because DD1 goes to the same school and has to be picked up at 3pm. DD2 has to go all day or doesn't go at all. The school is a small, crunchy, private school, it really is amazing, less then 100 kids PK-8th grade. The preschool is completely play based, they cook their own snack everyday, do circle time, lots of playing, I want to go they have so much fun! The teacher is amazing, I have known her for 6 years, she is wonderful with small children. DD2 is in a different building then DD1 but the entire school plays at morning recess together, which DD2 really enjoys.
She was excited to go, we started gradual, me arriving at 1pm to pick her up, she refused to go with me those 2 days, telling me to come back later. After 2 weeks I think I pushed it too far too soon, I had DH drop her off in the morning so I could work. we tried it twice on days I couldn't do drop off, neither time was he successful. He ended up taking her back to his office, when I got out of my meetings, then I picked her up and took her back to school. The anxiety has gotten worse. Once I leave then she has fun, plays all day, when I return she never even notices for 10 minutes, talks about it all night, until the next day. Then she doesn't want to go. Drop offs are a 40 minute process. She has started not wanting to go her dance and gymnastics classes because she is afraid I am going to leave.
Monday I had to work, I had to hand her off to the teacher while her face fell and escape.
I ran out and then crept back into the hallway a minute later because she if was crying, I was just going to take her. She was fine. I HATED doing that, I never want to force my children to go to school I should say that I am a strong supporter of hsing and did HS our 1st for a while, now school is our path, but I am not about forcing it upon them. Today was picture day so it was crazy, I had volunteered to help, once they were all done, DD2 was clinging and crying so I took her home with me.
If I didn't have to work then I would pull her out completely. I do have a very flexible work schedule, I work mostly from work very part time, but I am committed to 3 meetings a month on Mondays, that is one of her preschool days. 1 meeting I can take my 1 year DS with me for another couple months, other two I have to find someone to watch him for me. It it a scramble every single month to find sitters, I am never find anyone who can commit because it is so part time. I have two different "professional" sitters who we have used in the past that can longer work for me on Mondays. If I just have DS rather then DD2 and DS then it is easier to get someone to agree just to take him for a couple hours, a friend, grandma, etc... My plan was to do paperwork and calls on Wed from home and then when DD2 is off the rest of the week, we can have fun. Instead she is watching a movie while I type this and then work.
I am ok with her going some days and not other days, expensive price I pay for guaranteed childcare I guess but I don't know if this is worth it for her. She just keeps saying she doesn't want to go, she is too little, etc... Then she has so much fun when I am not there. I don't want to push the issue too much, but man, I just wish she would go. Insight? BTDT, did it work out or not?
DD2 will be 4 next month, she just started 2 days a week a preschool at the end of August. She goes from 8:30am-3pm, half day is till 1pm but isn't an option because DD1 goes to the same school and has to be picked up at 3pm. DD2 has to go all day or doesn't go at all. The school is a small, crunchy, private school, it really is amazing, less then 100 kids PK-8th grade. The preschool is completely play based, they cook their own snack everyday, do circle time, lots of playing, I want to go they have so much fun! The teacher is amazing, I have known her for 6 years, she is wonderful with small children. DD2 is in a different building then DD1 but the entire school plays at morning recess together, which DD2 really enjoys.
She was excited to go, we started gradual, me arriving at 1pm to pick her up, she refused to go with me those 2 days, telling me to come back later. After 2 weeks I think I pushed it too far too soon, I had DH drop her off in the morning so I could work. we tried it twice on days I couldn't do drop off, neither time was he successful. He ended up taking her back to his office, when I got out of my meetings, then I picked her up and took her back to school. The anxiety has gotten worse. Once I leave then she has fun, plays all day, when I return she never even notices for 10 minutes, talks about it all night, until the next day. Then she doesn't want to go. Drop offs are a 40 minute process. She has started not wanting to go her dance and gymnastics classes because she is afraid I am going to leave.
Monday I had to work, I had to hand her off to the teacher while her face fell and escape.
I ran out and then crept back into the hallway a minute later because she if was crying, I was just going to take her. She was fine. I HATED doing that, I never want to force my children to go to school I should say that I am a strong supporter of hsing and did HS our 1st for a while, now school is our path, but I am not about forcing it upon them. Today was picture day so it was crazy, I had volunteered to help, once they were all done, DD2 was clinging and crying so I took her home with me.If I didn't have to work then I would pull her out completely. I do have a very flexible work schedule, I work mostly from work very part time, but I am committed to 3 meetings a month on Mondays, that is one of her preschool days. 1 meeting I can take my 1 year DS with me for another couple months, other two I have to find someone to watch him for me. It it a scramble every single month to find sitters, I am never find anyone who can commit because it is so part time. I have two different "professional" sitters who we have used in the past that can longer work for me on Mondays. If I just have DS rather then DD2 and DS then it is easier to get someone to agree just to take him for a couple hours, a friend, grandma, etc... My plan was to do paperwork and calls on Wed from home and then when DD2 is off the rest of the week, we can have fun. Instead she is watching a movie while I type this and then work.
I am ok with her going some days and not other days, expensive price I pay for guaranteed childcare I guess but I don't know if this is worth it for her. She just keeps saying she doesn't want to go, she is too little, etc... Then she has so much fun when I am not there. I don't want to push the issue too much, but man, I just wish she would go. Insight? BTDT, did it work out or not?
