Freaking out a little!!!

[Tres]

So this morning I must have eaten something bad (or maybe last night?) since I have been running to the bathroom off and on all morning. Anyway, I put my 4month old in her swing with some white noise and her lovey while I ran to the bathroom. I would have left her on the floor but we have 2 dogs and I didn't think it was safe. I was probably in the bathroom for 5 minutes maybe a little longer. I could hear her screaming in the swing, but I had to finish since my stomach was KILLING me. I have never left her to cry anywhere, maybe a total of 5 minutes in the car when I am just trying to find a place to pull over when she is crying.

I finished up and went in to check her and she is FAST asleep (still is). Did I just let my 4 month old CIO? I know, of course, I didn't do it on purpose, but did she just cry herself to sleep??? I want to wake her but then I think of the last time she napped on her own was maybe 3 months ago, so I left her there sleeping. Tell me she won't hate me when she wakes up!!!

[ckberkey]

It sounds like you did the best you could in that situation. You put her in a safe place and she did get upset, but she probably would not have fallen to sleep in a few minutes unless she was tired anyway. I would let her sleep, then as soon as she wakes up, nurse her, change her, and put her in the sling. Keep her close and secure and you'll both feel better.

[aramat]

Originally Posted by ckberkey

It sounds like you did the best you could in that situation. You put her in a safe place and she did get upset, but she probably would not have fallen to sleep in a few minutes unless she was tired anyway. I would let her sleep, then as soon as she wakes up, nurse her, change her, and put her in the sling. Keep her close and secure and you'll both feel better.

It happens... Especially when you have multiple children: Once my preschooler had a bloody nose in the middle of the night and was crying and running around half-awake and bleeding everywhere, while the baby was in bed screaming for me to come back...I had to put priority on the bleeder! But my baby did NOT fall asleep; she stayed awake, red-faced, with a snotty nose, miserable, crying, and she wouldn't sleep in the bed for a week after that! (Ugghhh, so sad!!) Your sweet little one sounds like she'll be fine with just a few extra snuggles when she wakes.

[sunnygir1]

I agree. I don't see what good waking her would do?

Sometimes you just CAN'T respond to your baby in the ideal way. My babies have cried on the floor, in the bouncy seat, in the saucer, in the crib, even in the sling, while I used the toilet, scrambled out of the shower and dried off, put on clothes because it was just too cold not to do that first, etc. These things happen, and babies thrive anyway.

If this goes on, you could find a way to have her in the bathroom with you so you can at least talk to her even if she's screaming.

[ann_of_loxley]

Hun....parenting is not a guiltless job - but there is no need to worry about something you can't un-do. (unless of course you have some sort of magical time machine you arn't telling us about!)...what I am trying to say is: don't beat yourself up about little stuff. You can only do your best (and you clearly are trying to do that) so try not and worry!

[Llyra]

What matters in parenting is the total picture. Not one incident, especially one where you did the absolute best you could. Trust me-- my second two were twins, and I had a toddler also, and sometimes they just HAD to wait while another's more urgent need was met. It would suck, so bad-- they'd be crying, and my heart would hurt knowing they needed me, and I would try so hard to get there when I could, but sometimes it just didn't happen soon enough. And they're fine-- they're confident, resilient, affectionate kiddos, who understand that mom is human, and imperfect. She'll be fine. And I agree-- I don't see that waking her at this point is necessary. When she wakes, you'll be there for her, same as before.

No worries. And I hope you feel better soon-- that sounds like it was miserable for you, too.

[busymama77]

Originally Posted by sunnygir1

I agree. I don't see what good waking her would do?

Sometimes you just CAN'T respond to your baby in the ideal way. My babies have cried on the floor, in the bouncy seat, in the saucer, in the crib, even in the sling, while I used the toilet, scrambled out of the shower and dried off, put on clothes because it was just too cold not to do that first, etc. These things happen, and babies thrive anyway.

If this goes on, you could find a way to have her in the bathroom with you so you can at least talk to her even if she's screaming.

Um, yeah, I totally agree. Nothing you could've done so please don't worry about it. Your babe is gonna be just fine!

[julie80]

This reminds me of the times when I couldn't even go to the bathroom without my DS screaming at the door. I finally gave up and for months I held him on my lap. but luckily that ended and now I can have a little bit more privacy!