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post #1 of 28
Thread Starter 
"Wow, you look more uncomfortable every time I see you!"

"Still getting bigger, huh?"

Add to the list, bonus points for snappy comebacks.
post #2 of 28
"you don't have to eat that dessert, you can just throw it out." Said to me last pg by my grandma.
post #3 of 28

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Edited by BF124497 - 6/1/12 at 8:18pm
post #4 of 28
I actually got "you must be overdue" from a stranger at the library the other day! No snappy comeback, I just had to laugh.

I didn't mind that much because I've been worried that I'm too small. I'm measuring right on track but once again I'm all belly sticking straight out like a bullet and I feel like it looks too small to be full term. I must be delusional, but in a very good way!
post #5 of 28
What they SHOULD say:

"You're glowing!"

"Pregnancy is so beautiful!"

"You look great!"

"How are you feeling? May I help you with that?"

What they DO say:

"You're about to pop! That baby must be ready to crawl out of there by now!"

"Another month? I sure hope you make it!" *disbelieving stare*

"You're aaaallllllllllllllll belly! Are you sure you can drive with that thing?"

"What did you gain, 100 pounds?"

post #6 of 28
I agree. There are definitely nicer things that COULD be said instead of what is said.
post #7 of 28
What I come back with:

"No, I'm not expecting - I think its just all the beer I've been drinking..." lol and then I wink so they know I'm kidding.


Actually I get "You are sure packing on the pounds. Maybe you should lay off some of that" in the cafeteria every day now because I played a mean trick on one of the workers there. He and I had a friendly, flirty rapport going on and I wanted to see how long I could go without telling him I was pregnant before he would finally break the cardinal rule and ask. lol He would usually tell me I look good, and then gradually it was a little harder and harder to sound sincere... I can see him looking at me trying to figure out "Is she...???" and I'm dying laughing at him behind his back because he's trying so hard not to be rude and ask... FINALLY at about 6 months he breaks down and asks, and I laugh and I'm like "yes, I'm pregnant, about 6 months" and he's like "Damn! When were you going to tell me???" "Never! Was having too much fun watching you wonder" lol

OMG pregnant ladies can be mean! So now every day he tells me I'm fat. And I deserve it. lol
post #8 of 28
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NO I HAVENT SO LEAVE ME ALONEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE argh
post #9 of 28
From my boss (who I'm good friends with):

"You look like a Sumo wrestler"

"MY GOD!!! You're HUGE!!!!"

DW calls my feet muffins and says she wants to eat them. They're not even that swollen.

From a cashier:

"Well, don't you look comfortable. HAHAHAHA!"

Oh I have a sorta nice one too (from my mom- today actually):

"You look a lot slimmer from the back than before you were pregnant". I guess that could be taken good OR bad.
post #10 of 28
I gained 52 lbs when I was pregnant. People asked me all the time if I was sure it wasn't twins. My DS was 10 lbs 5 oz.

It got to the point where I would tell people, "Watch out, I'm hungry. I might eat you next."

I was not a pleasant pregnant woman.
post #11 of 28
i have no problem seeing myself objectively and poking fun, but come on, where are the nice comments to balance it out?

i've heard all of the above plus, "wow, your feet are fat", "you sure that chair can hold you?" "you look like you're gonna burst".

and my husband--whatta gem this was: "so-and-so has gotten so big--no really, he's bigger than you." thx dear.

our culture sux and is so clueless w/ how it percieves pregnancy and this sacred time in a woman's life. i've always told women how beautiful and glowing they are...
post #12 of 28
my preceptor told me last pregnancy (a midwife of all people) when i went in to have her do a gender scan, "wow, your face really filled out, but you've always needed to put on a little weight anyway". um, thx?

funny how pregnancy automatically qualifies a woman to be subject to people's observations.
post #13 of 28
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Originally Posted by lotusma View Post
my preceptor told me last pregnancy (a midwife of all people) when i went in to have her do a gender scan, "wow, your face really filled out, but you've always needed to put on a little weight anyway". um, thx?

funny how pregnancy automatically qualifies a woman to be subject to people's observations.
When I was pregnant the first time, my MIL (whom I adore, but who can be a little tactless at times) made one too many fat jokes. They'd been going on for months and by the third trimester I was sick of it. Before I could stop myself I asked her how menopause was treating her these days. She didn't make any fat jokes after that.

During that pregnancy I also rudely retorted, "I'm pregnant--what's your excuse, Chubs?" but I only did that once and it was to a (fat) drunk guy at a party who was really mean and totally, completely deserved it.
post #14 of 28
Thread Starter 
Ha!
'This is probably the last time you are going to be able to wear that shirt."
And this one, when I was only like 20-some weeks-- "Wow, your feet are already starting to swell, and you have months to go!" that was helpful.
post #15 of 28
Just yesterday, I went to get my nails done. A person in there told me how big I was. I told them that no, I was not big and the correct thing to say to a pregnant woman was how great they looked. They were kind of shocked.
post #16 of 28
Today someone told me "you reallly look ready to have that baby!" I'm not sure if they meant I was huge or looked like i was in pain or what

I got the twins comments all the time with my other pregnancies, but not this time for some reason. With dd3 I was about 5 months and some lady at a LLL conference was all "Are you having twins?" I said no and she got snotty with me and said "Well I've had twins and I'm pretty sure you are." I was like well I've had two ultrasounds and they both showed ONE baby! Geeze.

With dd1 someone asked me when I was 40+ weeks if I was having twins and I burst into tears.
post #17 of 28
Yesterday, I was asked "Are you fat?" but it was by a 5-year-old, so I wasn't too offended.

Earlier in my pg, my MIL kept going on about how I must be having a girl because "girls make you ugly" and why did I think my face was so broken out? When I got home, I looked in a mirror and saw I had a few little pimples on my nose, but that was it. I thought I looked fine.
post #18 of 28
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Originally Posted by honeybee View Post
Yesterday, I was asked "Are you fat?" but it was by a 5-year-old, so I wasn't too offended.
One of the little girls in our preK class at our homeschool co-op kept staring and my belly. Finally she said "are you having a baby?" It was so cute lol!
post #19 of 28
Add to that

"Wow, you really have a ways to go being that big!"

Yeah, if I wasn't already counting down the last 30 days incessently
wondering if can make it through.

"No wonder preganant women don't like their hair short during this time,
the face just plumps out."
post #20 of 28
"I never gained more than 15 pounds with any of my pregnancies. So how much have you gained?"
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