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post #101 of 116
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Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post
I am very happy to hear that they put some bigger shoes on him. However I don't know anyone who buys their kids Jordans that are snug at the tiem of purchase. Jordans are expensive. when I buy them, I get them as big as I can get away so they will last a long time.

That being said, my ds has three pairs of jordans and a pair of timberlands (three out of the four were hand me downs, but still--they are nice shoes). If I dress him to go out and he is wearing his jordans THAT FIT or are close to fitting, and someone thinks the sole is too thick for him and changes him into some kmart sneakers, we are going to have big, big problems. the kmart sneakers are for backyard romping. when he goes out, the nice clothes/shoes come out --- for a reason. I would find it incredibly rude if someone were to take his nice clothes or sheos off and dress him in cheap crap just because they thought it was more comfortable. ooooh, I would be mad.
I actually did have to change DN out of his clothes yesterday. He was in a velour air jordans sweatsuit two sizes too big- we were going to gymnastics and he was tripping on himself before we got there- no one had extra clothes for him at the house so I HAD to buy something that fit him. The poor thing couldn't walk, let alone climb the stuff at gymnastics.

I am happy to report that I have not again seen the old way too small shoes

Oh and I don't think they try the shoes on him when they buy them- his older 13yo sister goes to the mall (practically lives there ) and buys him matching pairs- I think she just estimates the size.. but the most recent ones she bought him (which he has been wearing daily) are still too small for him.. but not as small as the old ones.

I don't know if I should say something about these shoes or just leave it alone. His toes are right up against the front of the shoe (touching it).
post #102 of 116
Ok this is a long shot but...perhaps you could mention his proper size to his sister. Maybe for Christmas give her a gift certificate with enough to buy her and her little brother a matching pair (thats actually pretty sweet that she buys her little brother matching shoes...but holy crap. where is a 13 year old getting this kind of money?)

And I am right there with you at being annoyed about fashion over function. People used to bring their infants and toddlers to my day care dressed to the nines. Baby would get stripped down to sleepers or onsies and toddlers would get leggings and a t shirt. I had better things to do than mind their designer clothes and the hazards they presented (more often than not either way over sized or undersized). and i didn't have AC. Why on earth would you put your child in head to toe denim in that environment? I would change them back when their parents got there. If I didn't make it I would say a diaper leaked (and the worst offender also kept her dd in diapers that were too small by 2 sizes so not an unlikely story. )
post #103 of 116
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And I am right there with you at being annoyed about fashion over function. People used to bring their infants and toddlers to my day care dressed to the nines. Baby would get stripped down to sleepers or onsies and toddlers would get leggings and a t shirt. I had better things to do than mind their designer clothes and the hazards they presented (more often than not either way over sized or undersized). and i didn't have AC. Why on earth would you put your child in head to toe denim in that environment? I would change them back when their parents got there. If I didn't make it I would say a diaper leaked (and the worst offender also kept her dd in diapers that were too small by 2 sizes so not an unlikely story. )
So you lied to the parents? Why didn't you just tell them, "it gets so hot in here, would you mind bringing a change of playclothes for the kids, and I'll make sure they are looking cute again when you pick them up later?"

I'm one of those parents who dresses my kids cute. I think it may be a cultural thing, but where I grew up people kind of judged you based on your kids. So if you took your kid out in a sleeper or onesie (which, incidentally, why keep a baby in a SLEEPER all day when it is for SLEEPING?) it was like, oh she can't or won't even take decent care of her kid. So even if the kid only has one nice outift, you put that outfit on her and do her hair nice. Like a good mom. Might be silly to you but that is how lots of folks roll.
post #104 of 116
Tell your niece to trace his foot on a piece of cardboard or sturdy paper then cut it out and take it shopping with her.
post #105 of 116
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Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post
I'm one of those parents who dresses my kids cute. I think it may be a cultural thing, but where I grew up people kind of judged you based on your kids. So if you took your kid out in a sleeper or onesie (which, incidentally, why keep a baby in a SLEEPER all day when it is for SLEEPING?) it was like, oh she can't or won't even take decent care of her kid. So even if the kid only has one nice outift, you put that outfit on her and do her hair nice. Like a good mom. Might be silly to you but that is how lots of folks roll.
You sound like my Grandma! LOL I think there are socioeconomic issues at play (for my family anyway). My family growing up was on the really low end of middle class, and I think a lot of the dressing the kids up was about demonstrating social status. When my mom found out I didn't take my son to the pediatrician in his best little suit (that she bought), she was horrified because she thought it would mean we'd get worse treatment.
post #106 of 116
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You sound like my Grandma! LOL I think there are socioeconomic issues at play (for my family anyway). My family growing up was on the really low end of middle class, and I think a lot of the dressing the kids up was about demonstrating social status. When my mom found out I didn't take my son to the pediatrician in his best little suit (that she bought), she was horrified because she thought it would mean we'd get worse treatment.
lol...reminds me of my ds' first well baby check. He was like three days old and it was his first outing. I had him dressed in jeans, a long sleeved tee with matching orange and white nike sneakers and a matching hat (not a baby hat, but a fitted--like a baseball cap). I jsut wanted to show him off in all his cuteness....of course first thing they told me when we got there was to strip him naked and keep him that way, wrapped in a blanket so he could be weighed/examined. I was so disappointed, I wanted to show off his outift! It had never dawned on my that the doc only sees the baby while he's naked....
post #107 of 116
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lol...reminds me of my ds' first well baby check. He was like three days old and it was his first outing. I had him dressed in jeans, a long sleeved tee with matching orange and white nike sneakers and a matching hat (not a baby hat, but a fitted--like a baseball cap). I jsut wanted to show him off in all his cuteness....of course first thing they told me when we got there was to strip him naked and keep him that way, wrapped in a blanket so he could be weighed/examined. I was so disappointed, I wanted to show off his outift! It had never dawned on my that the doc only sees the baby while he's naked....
Seriously? You put jeans and sneakers on a three day old baby? That doesn't sound very comfortable for the baby.
post #108 of 116
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(which, incidentally, why keep a baby in a SLEEPER all day when it is for SLEEPING?)
I did because it was cozy and comfortable for my baby, and easy for me. I didn't like him in uncomfortable clothes, makes for uncomfortable cuddling.
post #109 of 116
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(which, incidentally, why keep a baby in a SLEEPER all day when it is for SLEEPING?)
babies spend most of their time sleeping anyways (except the ones who simply won't sleep of course). And if they're not sleeping they usually need their diaper changed, so I always found "cute" outfits more trouble than they were worth. Besides, babies don't really need accessories to be cute, they've got that covered.
post #110 of 116
I had a couple of babies in my house. I had better things to do than mess with their clothes. Think of it as a uniform. The offending mom was ridiculous about lots of things and knew how hot it was in my house. She complained and asked why I didn't turn the air on. Um maybe it was that the $75 a week she was paying me just didn't really cover the cost of running it. My response was you get used to if you dress appropriately.... The clothes were a status thing for her. not for me. My kids lived in sleepers and onsies their first year. Warm, cute, easy. Her kids diaper usually leaked anyway (because she kept her in ones too small) so if it had stayed on it probably would have had poop on it eventually. Like I said, her kid wasn't the only one and I had better things to do than fuss over keeping her outfit perfect. Easier just to take it off and put it on right before her mom got there.
post #111 of 116
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Seriously? You put jeans and sneakers on a three day old baby? That doesn't sound very comfortable for the baby.
I always roll my eyes when I see a tiny newborn baby in anything but a onsie/sleeper. I know that jeans and sneakers cannot be comfortable for a little tiny one. Its about the parents showing off not the comfort of the babies.
post #112 of 116
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Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post
So you lied to the parents? Why didn't you just tell them, "it gets so hot in here, would you mind bringing a change of playclothes for the kids, and I'll make sure they are looking cute again when you pick them up later?"

I'm one of those parents who dresses my kids cute. I think it may be a cultural thing, but where I grew up people kind of judged you based on your kids. So if you took your kid out in a sleeper or onesie (which, incidentally, why keep a baby in a SLEEPER all day when it is for SLEEPING?) it was like, oh she can't or won't even take decent care of her kid. So even if the kid only has one nice outift, you put that outfit on her and do her hair nice. Like a good mom. Might be silly to you but that is how lots of folks roll.
If there's a cutely-dressed-kid contest, I'd probably win it. But I can't imagine putting other people's opinions about my children's clothing over my own child's comfort. I can't even fathom putting a 3 day old in jeans! I don't even think they're comfortable for my 3 year old. She wears leggings or lightweight corduroys or flannel or fleece pants, mostly.
post #113 of 116
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I always roll my eyes when I see a tiny newborn baby in anything but a onsie/sleeper. I know that jeans and sneakers cannot be comfortable for a little tiny one. Its about the parents showing off not the comfort of the babies.
My four year old had fits every time I ever tried to put jeans on him as an infant (received some as gifts) and still tells me that they are uncomfortable. I have to say that I agree with him.

His preschool actually sent out a dress code this year which stated that they believed the ideal clothing for preschoolers was sweatsuits (for colder weather) or t-shirts and "soft" shorts (for warmer weather), and asked that parents please stop sending kids in uncomfortable/unplayable clothing.
post #114 of 116
My kid and baby wear jeans & sneakers almost every day & I have not heard any complaints in 2+ years. I also agree that sleepers are pajamas, & I don't take my kids out of the house in pajamas. I don't "do" sweatclothes, either, for myself or the kids. Or velour tracksuits, swishy track pants, leggings, blech. It really is no trouble to dress the kids every day. All of dd1's clothes are quite nice & I am okay w/ her getting them dirty. We do dress our v young babies in onesies most of the time & that is b/c dh and I find it difficult to put pants on newborns. They still wear nice new onesies w/ long socks, nice dresses, etc.

OP, great to hear that they are finally putting him in shoes that fit. I wouldn't worry too much about the fit of the current shoes b/c they do still fit. Since his sister is buying so many of the shoes for him, I would def tell her his correct size. If his shoes get too small again, I agree w/ others who have said to take a hard line and refuse to take him out in the small shoes. If this means that you keep a pair of shoes for him at your house, so be it.
post #115 of 116
DD always gets a choice of clothes and picks jeans about half the time.

That said, she sweats like a faucet when she sleeps so I just assume that a baby in a sleeper was put in a fresh one in the morning/after their nap.
post #116 of 116
There are one piece outfits for newborns and small babies that are not pajamas.
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