Originally Posted by CarrieMF
anyone who is saying to just throw them away or "accidentally" lose them should really flip the situation & think about how they'd feel if someone did something like that to their child, even if the person doing it feels justified in doing it. How would people feel if another adult felt their child's hair should be cut & got it cut, or got rid of clothes that you purchased for them becuase they felt they could get better clothes. Then think about how you'd feel if that person had never brought the topic up to you first.
If the OP thinks the shoes are too small then she should talk to the parents about it.
I get what you are saying, but I don't think that the situations you are describing (cutting hair, getting new clothes) are comparable to this too-small shoe situation. For me this borders on a health and safety situation. Shoes that are too small are too small. Period. Black and white. This is not a case of "I don't think her boy
should wear pink shoes" or something like that. Cramming feet into shoes that are truly way too small is harmful, imo. It can affect foot development, walking/gait, and eventually (if the gait is off) knees, hips, etc. And it is so so very painful. Poor little boy.
THAT SAID... I do believe that the first course of action should, of course, be talking to the parents. But, it was my understanding that the OP had done that? (maybe I'm misremembering what I read a day or two ago). If I were in the OP's situation I would yes, talk to the parents, trying some of the great ideas upthread to get through to them. But if that failed I would absolutely "lose" (keep but return later) the shoes. This little boy should not have his feet crammed in these shoes any longer. I would do what it took to ensure that they stayed off his feet.