did having HG stop you from having another baby?

[kfillmore]

Moms who had HG or REALLY bad "morning" sickness. Did it stop you from having another baby?

How did you manage with taking care of your other children?
How did you manage in general?

thanks

[Mama Mko]

I took medication this last pregnancy because I was unable to keep even water down. The medicine made it possible for me to function.

[JessieBird]

Even with drugs, I've had a rough time and have been in hospital with HG. 37 weeks now and functional but still vomiting. I was almost as bad with DS1 so I know there's a good chance that it could happen again.

I don't think it will stop me from having a third but I've told DH that we have to start saving now for nine months of a full time live-in nanny just in case it's as bad. I'm not joking. DS was in daycare while I hid in my office and pretended to work for this pregnancy and honestly I don't think I could have taken care of him for the first six-seven months. We're not planning on going back to work/daycare any time soon so we won't have that escape and I'll need help if there is to be a next baby. I am wary that being so sick again could mean missing several months of my kids' lives and that does make me think twice. Siblings are precious but I would hate for them to resent a new baby because of what it did to mama. There's so much to consider.

I'm sorry if you're going through this right now. I know how horrendous and emotional it can be.

[tallulahma]

i was in the hospital with HG twice with dd1... dd2 & ds i had morning sickness, but no where near what i had with dd1.

my diet changed significantly as well after dd1... so i always think it was that.

[One_Girl]

I threw up six times a day until I started my second trimester, then I was just naseous. I still remember thinking I was going to die and praying for my pregnancy to end and I never had a second pregnancy. The decision to only have one child was one that had many things contributing, but my pregnancy was a major piece of the puzzle. I am not sure how I got through and I can't imagine having something worse than bad "morning" sickness."

[Mackenzie]

I had it with babes one and two. I will admit that it was verrrry difficult to function, and to care for a 18month old. My house went to crap. With #2 it eased up earlier than it did with my first so that helped. I tried medication (compazine) but the side effects from that were worse than the sickness. It made me feel like what I would imagine heroine to be like. Ugh... We were at the point of discussing hospitalization (I was a single parent, which is why that was delayed so long) when it nearly instantly went away. Like in the matter of three days I went from laying on the bathroom floor to being perfectly fine...


With #3, I got pretty sick for a while but not nearly anything comparable to #1 and #2...

And I would do it again.... I'm a masochist, I guess.

[JollyGG]

Yep. The horrible nausea for over 1/2 of both my pregnancies was the reason I got my tubes tied. I felt miserable with DS but decided for another anyway one because I thought perhaps I wouldn't be as sick again and because it was important to me that DS have a sibling. I was just as sick with DD and decided that I would not be going through it again.

I felt miserable, I left pretty much all the parenting of DS up to DH as well as all the housework. And while the way my husband stepped up and did what needed done made me fall in love with him all over again I couldn't imagine doing that to DS again. Plus if I did it again there would now be two children I was essentially ignoring who didn't understand what was wrong with Mommy.

I couldn't do it. I originally wanted 3-4 kids.

We haven't ruled out expanding our family in the future through adoption/foster care. But I don't intend to be pregnant every again.

[Strong Mama]

No. I had HG in 1996, so severe I lost 30 pounds in amonth, and lost the baby.
I waited 8 years before I had another one,and was prepared. If you have had HG before, the likely you will get it again is 50%, so just prepare. Save up for childcare/housekeepers. Freeze food, get meds lined up, etc. If you do this, you can handle it.
I had Hg with my second son, in 2004. I threw up from week 8 to week 16. I had a zofran pump early on and did nothing but lay on the couch, which I think helped me.
Now, I am pregnant again. I did not have HG this time. I prevented it, with meds from week 4, and doing nothing buy laying flat and having people bring me meals/food/ 24/7. I am 18 weeks now and just fine. Hg sucks, but I wouldnt let it stop me from having another child. Hg lasts at most 9 months, you have a child for a lot longer.

[K1329]

I didn't have HG - but had a terrible pregnancy with #1 for other reasons. I didn't let it stop me from having another. I just planned for the worst - lined up help with family, waited until dd was 3, out of diapers, and in a preschool she loved, and also relied heavily on dh. Like a pp, I did no housework, and did very little of anything else. Being mentally prepared and recognizing that it was a temporary state really helped. For me, it was worth it to go through another awful pregnancy. I have two beautiful dc, and wouldn't change a thing.

[Evergreen]

Kind of. It took 3 years for me to even be ready to have another baby and 4 years for the next one.