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post #41 of 117
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Originally posted by 3boybarians
Also guilty of raving about the same products over and over. I can't even begin to understand what's wrong with that. I don't see why it would bother someone if I give my opinion, and honestly, I only have a handful of diapers/covers that I consider "rave worthy," so obviously, I'm going to end up repeating myself.
I understand that. My stash is like 80percent sugarbums so I definitely recommend Heidi a lot just cause its good stuff. There is a huge difference between recommending a business you like and spamming. You can tell the difference between those posts too. Its pretty obvious.
post #42 of 117
I just wanted to comment being a new-ish person to cloth.

I dont mind the dipe talk at all, and also agree that just talking about care and such would be a bore, and I wouldnt come back here, but sometimes when a new person asks a question, either no one answers it, or very few do.
We love to try and convert sposie users to cloth, but yet, when a newbie comes in with some questions, it would be really nice of us to answer. Even if its a "where do I start" thread....of course it bores us to bits, but we could all really benefit that person by sharing our experience, and knowledge.

Thats all.

I love it here, take what I need, try to get some info, and leave the rest. IF I can
lol
post #43 of 117
i am almost never here anymore because of it.

i learned so much here, and loved this forum!

now all i see is the same members posting supposed raves dropping names (with hyperlinks- oh how casual of them :LOL) of their friends. Whole threads begun just to link to a few wahms and mention that theyre stocking or something. Sometimes i have to laugh thinking these people dont realize that were all here, every day, and NOTICE the trends in their posts? Or maybe people just think were all sheepish consumers.

Of course i dont think linking to someone is bad. But it is painfully obvious when people link over and over to their friends here. And it puts a bad taste in my mouth about this forum.

I love hearing about new diaper wahms and products. but i am tired of the clique-ish junior high drama. And thats why i only browse here every now and then, when im feeling nostalgic

tabitha
post #44 of 117
What's wrong with linking to friends? If they make a good product, I'd do it. I'd want others to enjoy the product as well.
post #45 of 117
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Originally posted by tabitha
but i am tired of the clique-ish junior high drama.
I see this stuff so much less here than in other forums I've spent time at in the past. Last night I went to amity's for the first time in ages (not to blast A, there's lots of good stuff there, too) and was kind of blown away by the drama. I have never, never seen anyone get ganged up on here, which I have seen repeatedly at other places. I don't think I've ever seen any arguments here, which is really kind of amazing actually. With the number of posts you see here in a day, it's amazing that in the four or five months I've been visiting here, I've never seen any arguing or meanness.

Come to think of it, this thread is about as close to controversy as I've seen here, and it's still pretty darned tame.

J.
post #46 of 117

I am guilty...

of posting about a friend of mine, but I guess I had never given it much thought. She makes an excellent product, I want her to do well, I want other CD'ing momma's to try what I consider a great WAHM diaper, and I do not get paid for it or anything - so I don't see the big deal?

Maybe I've missed something. I'm relatively new here, so I don't know all the history. I enjoy it here and spend a lot of time reading all the new posts and many, many pages of old posts. I like knowing what all the acronyms mean and what dipes you all are talking about! When I have access to the TP, I will already know what dipes are "hot commodities" and therefore should be snatched up without having to do any time-wasting research, because I have already read up on all of the popular items going around.

I can see how it would be frustrating not to be "in the know" about a particular stocking - but there is a cure for that! Sign up for email newsletters or a yahoo group, and you'll know well in advance that your fav. WAHM is stocking.

There's my two cents. I hope I didn't step on anyone's toes.

post #47 of 117
You are never going to please everyone all of the time. Period.

I think there is always room to improve, perhaps all the stalking/stocking threads could be lumped in to one, sorta like the "what did you get, what are you waiting on" threads. But overall, things run very smooth

I fail to see the drama here and the mods are *very* quick to remove something that even hints at being "wrong"...
post #48 of 117
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I can see how it would be frustrating not to be "in the know" about a particular stocking - but there is a cure for that! Sign up for email newsletters or a yahoo group, and you'll know well in advance that your fav. WAHM is stocking.
It's not that I find it frustrating, it's that I find it kind of rude to talk on a public forum about the stocking, but deliberately not post a link so that others won't find out about it. If it's so secret that you don't want others involved, then emailing or going to a chat room is more appropriate, IMO.

But I don't really care, to be honest. Sure, I find it rude and a little exclusionary, but I'm a big girl and I can take it.
(the smilie is for ds who is bugging me to click on it)
post #49 of 117

Re: I am guilty...

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Originally posted by mellybellyplus2
I can see how it would be frustrating not to be "in the know" about a particular stocking - but there is a cure for that! Sign up for email newsletters or a yahoo group, and you'll know well in advance that your fav. WAHM is stocking.
Oh, I don't have a problem with that - but if I asked on a stalking/stocking thread "Which WAHM is stocking?" it would be nice if someone said, "Go to this Yahoo link for details: ____" or "PM me for details" if they didn't want to say who it was, but no one even did that on the thread I read

Sometimes WAHMs aren't listed in Yahoo's directory so you really do need the exact link.
post #50 of 117
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Originally posted by 3boybarians
Also guilty of raving about the same products over and over. I can't even begin to understand what's wrong with that. I don't see why it would bother someone if I give my opinion, and honestly, I only have a handful of diapers/covers that I consider "rave worthy," so obviously, I'm going to end up repeating myself.
I do that same thing and often many times in the same day, but only because there are multiple threads asking which would you buy, or which do you prefer, or talk to me about, ect and if they are all asking about a certain type of diaper than my response will be the same....raving about my favorite dipe. I don't think anything is wrong with that especially since I am answering a question 99% of the time!

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now all i see is the same members posting supposed raves dropping names (with hyperlinks- oh how casual of them ) of their friends. Whole threads begun just to link to a few wahms and mention that theyre stocking or something. Sometimes i have to laugh thinking these people dont realize that were all here, every day, and NOTICE the trends in their posts? Or maybe people just think were all sheepish consumers.
I drop names and leave links...want to know why? If you don't leave a name and link, you will be jokingly scolded for breaking a cardinal rule! I am not a "friend" dropping names....I am a consumer sharing my opinion of what works consistently, and is well made.

-Becky
post #51 of 117
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Originally posted by kellieblue
What's wrong with linking to friends? If they make a good product, I'd do it. I'd want others to enjoy the product as well.
I agree, I am friends with a lot of WAHM's because in the course of buying from them or working with them we become close and friends, I may post links to their stockings or rave about their products but I would NEVER post a rave or reccomend a product I didn't like/use/want/need. I have raved about certian products that I liked/used at one point in time and then found that they didn't hold up well, or had problems over all, and I have just stopped posting about them. I only post about things I like, so yes like Heidi for example, I love her stuff, and YES she is a friend, but one has nothing to do with the other. We became friends/close while I was doing her website and over the course of receiving her diapers, so it is natural that this type of business creates friendships, and refraining from posting about friends because it would be spam would just be silly, I mean I would be leaving out a LOT of great stuff (TDD, FCB, Sugarbums, LTK, and on and on).....
post #52 of 117
I'm guilty of plugging two particular WAHM's a few times (I would probably plug more but I am limited in my diapering experience and am loyal to what I like so far lol). They are not friends of mine, I never met them nor have spoken to them outside of emails regarding my orders. I was just very very happy with their service and assistance when I was new to cd'ing and had tons of questions. Some WAHM's go over and above the call of duty and they should be rewarded. I believe in "word of mouth" and feel that it is very important in the WAHM biz. They don't really have much other avenue of advertisement than that.
I also feel that if I can recommend something to someone that can help them as much as I had been benefitted it's a good thing.

(I'm still trying to find the spam post. I was "the post directly above" and I hadn't named any specific diaper or site. :LOL)
post #53 of 117
The WAHM diapers that are my favorite I post about because I love them and I know other people will/do. I don't get *anything* from mentioning them - except maybe less diapers when she stocks so I can't imagine how that would be spam....

I like the board the way it is but a hyena sub forum would be fun too. either way
post #54 of 117

Well...

maybe I have just come to the conclusion that there are little sub-groups on every message board and I don't let myself get worked up over "cliquey" or exclusionary posting. If I truly wanted to know who was stocking and felt like no one was telling me, I would PM the original poster and A.) ask for the link, then B.) ask her if it was her intention to seem cliquey. Sometimes a person doesn't realize they are offending until it is pointed out to them.

I really tend to try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. And as I said before, I'm pretty new - so there is probably a lot of history between you all that I don't know of. I feel welcomed here, and I have always had numerous responses to all of my posts.

post #55 of 117

Re: I am guilty...

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Originally posted by mellybellyplus2
of posting about a friend of mine, but I guess I had never given it much thought. She makes an excellent product, I want her to do well, I want other CD'ing momma's to try what I consider a great WAHM diaper, and I do not get paid for it or anything - so I don't see the big deal?
I think this used to be a bit more blatant than it is now, but you can usually tell when friends are raving only their friends' products. Like, say there are two wahms reciprocally raving each other's stuff and posting when each other stock and you know they chat together and are friends and have links to each other on their sites. It ends up seeming like they're plugging each other's businesses for the sake of making a plug rather than b/c they truly like, use, and wanna endorse a product. It is also easier to spot when wahms do it vs. when non wahms do it, imo.

I'm personally not bothered by spam and I actually ask for it at times, and like it when wahms pm me when I'm looking for something in particular, but in cases like I'm talking about above, it makes one tend to question the motive behind all the raving and leaves one to wonder if the product is really that great or not. Plus, it does eventually get to the point when you see X post, you *know* she's gonna say something about Y, and that can get old...I've actually annoyed myself recommending the same wahm over and over, lol.


FTR-I'm not friends w/any wahms and do not gain anything by raving about them. If I make a rave, it is b/c I truly like the product and hope others can share the joy too.
post #56 of 117
Darshani, I see your point, but I see all of the others as well. I like things the way they are. Some days I come here and don't find anything exciting (imo) and don't post. Some days I post 10 times. It's just the way it is. I don't think this board is dramatic at all... sure it has some controversy, but if it were all rainbows and hugs, then what fun would that be?

I still dislike the idea of subdividing up this forum any more than it is... a subforum for pics, fluffy mail, etc. Just too much to wade through and I honestly think that subforums do not get as much traffic as the main one.

Anyway, just had to chime in.
post #57 of 117
Gosh, maybe i am just incredibly dense, but i have never noticed that any particular person was constantly plugging a WAHM friend just for the sake of advertising her product.

In my case: Elizabeth of KnitInYourPants is one of my very best, dearest IRL friends. I happen to think she does outstanding, artistic work on her soakers, but i make a point of not going on and on about her stuff constantly, even though i legitimately could. However, there is no need for me to do that anymore, as so many of us have come to salivate over and adore her products without my intervention .

Another WAHM i have plugged a few times is an online friend of sorts, but i happen to think her product is so outstanding (and also she is a relatively new wahm w/o a 'hyena' following yet) and clever and well made that i want everyone to enjoy her stuff as much as i do. She is going to stock in the next day or two - should i not post a link and tell y'all to go try her stuff simply because she is an internet friend ? I hope not - you'd all be missing out greatly .
post #58 of 117
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Originally posted by chemigogo
Another WAHM i have plugged a few times is an online friend of sorts, but i happen to think her product is so outstanding (and also she is a relatively new wahm w/o a 'hyena' following yet) and clever and well made that i want everyone to enjoy her stuff as much as i do. She is going to stock in the next day or two - should i not post a link and tell y'all to go try her stuff simply because she is an internet friend ? I hope not - you'd all be missing out greatly .
Do share!
post #59 of 117
Oh great - now I'm curious! I just got my CC paid off as well, so I'm dangerous!
post #60 of 117
Chemigogo-you should always share.

I knew my post wouldn't come across quite right. Like, where I was going with the blatant stuff was like when someone would ask about a wahm and then suddenly 4 brand new members who just joined that day w/a whole 1 or 2 posts to their credit would rave it? Yeah, that is my idea of blatant. And wasn't there one time when a wahm raved her own product and then denied she was herself but her email was her web site's email addy? Something to that effect. That's what I mean by blatant plugs. I'm certainly not saying that folks shouldn't rave their friends' stuff. That would indeed be silly.
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