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[Chakra]

Edited by Chakra - 1/10/11 at 10:22pm

[FillingMyQuiver]

I'm not a single parent, but I saw this in the new posts and couldn't not offer you some s I'm so sorry, mama. What a terrible thing to be going through in such an already stressful time of your life. I don't have words of advice, just s and comfort.

[marinak1977]

so sorry... I couldn't read and not offer a sending you strength mama

[MammaG]

I'm so sorry. You and your children are in my thoughts. Strength and health to you all. I wish I could offer something more concrete. I guess my only advice would be to make sure you spend the next little while drawing a circle of supportive people around you to help you get through the medical stuff with your little one while still managing to process through the pain and anger that you'll need to deal with. Hugs.

[papayapetunia]

I'm so sorry about what you're going through. Please check out survivinginfidelity.com for support with this. They have a lot of good reading and resources there.

[mum4vr]

so so so sorry, and sorry is not enough



I have btdt, but w/o an ill child.

PM me if you want.

I agree w PP about supportive people right now.

I'll be praying for you.

[dakotablue]

I am so sorry I can't imagine

[BedHead]

I am so very sorry. Sadly I know exactly how you feel. It was 6 months ago that I discovered evidence on my husbands computer that he was doing the same - he was signed up for all kinds of sex search sites and had chats with women, plus he had spent thousands of dollars on 'models' he met on line.

huge huge hugs

[Jyotsna]

Sending you love and hugs. That is absolutely rotten of him. Your son needs both of you to help him. Hoping you will find the strength to pull yourself through. We all have had to do it in one way or another.

Hang in there, get yourself in a better place.

[lah7]

I'm terribly, terribly sorry.

[Juvysen]

[EFmom]

I am so sorry you and your children are dealing with all of this.

[Night_Nurse]

[kate42]

I'll be thinking of you.

[Purple*Lotus]

I am so sorry.

[DeerMother]

More hugs.

I was already separated when I found x exploring those sites. Barf. I can only imagine how hard it would be with a sick child while still married.

Please, if you do physically reconcile, use protection until he is tested.

I hope your ds finds a match soon. Peace and strength to you.

I have no income, dc and I live with my parents. It can be tricky at times, but ultimately better than living with someone who couldn't give what you needed or be honest with you.

[GranoLLLy-girl]

You asked for advice. I am in the process of a divorce. I did not want it, I did not ask for it, I am a good mom and I was a good wife...and I still cry over the loss of the family. Some days I get angry, but most of the time I am just in shock and disbelief. I still to this day do not understand how anyone could do what my x did.

So here's my advice: be aware--people you thought were your friends are going to abandon you. As if a cheating spouse is a communicable disease.
People you never expected to come to your side will step out of nowhere and be there for you.
People are going to give you so much advice (especially those who have never been there) it's going to make your head spin. Don't listen to 98% of it. Follow your instinct. Only YOU know what you are going through and every situation is different--even if there are similar elements.
So just be aware. Keep your eyes open.

For me--my parents were initially supportive and now (as usual) they have backed off and there is a lot of crap that goes with them. Some friends have stepped up. Some don't return calls...I just had to learn the hard way that I've made some poor chioces in the TYPE of behavior that I accept from people and what that means about me. And don't rush any decisions.

[DariusMom]

Forum crashing . .. . saw this in the New Posts and felt compelled to respond.

I'm so sorry. I went through this. You can read some of what I posted on a recent thread over in PaP. That was in the context of reconciliation after cheating. DH and I were able to reconcile but it was a long, tough road.

At any rate, if you've decided to split up, I know these fabulous ladies in the single mamas forum will be able to help you a lot.

Whatever you decide to do, take a look at www.survivinginfidelity.com

There are great resources and a lot of BTDT.

Hang in there. This is tough stuff.

[CherryBomb]

That's horrible, I'm so sorry

[sunsetdancer]

How awful! I have found traces of those sites on our computer and they make me sick! I have given my husband plenty (probably too many!) chances and now I'm done. The chances I have given him are not solely based on those sites but from my experience, even one chance was too many for me. I am currently gathering info and paperwork in preparation to file. It sucks but you'll get through it. Surround yourself with supportive people and let the rest go.