Every couple months, my ex-H/son's bio father will appear and stir up trouble. That's basically what he does...causes a scene, then disappears, doesn't attempt to contact DS, etc., until he's bored or his parents push him to try and make contact, causes another scene, then disappears again for another few months, etc etc.
Anyway, yesterday when I was at work my ex-H drove the several hours from the approximate area he's living (last address he gave me was fake) to my area and put in a "welfare check" to the police. They came here and saw that DS is perfectly fine and well taken care of, apologized to my sister and boyfriend for having to stop by, and left. I think they were here for literally a minute or less. They've dealt with my ex-H before and know that he has no real reason to suspect there are problems in our home. My ex-H also had his parents and sister texting me repeatedly and calling and hanging up while I was at work yesterday. His family has always tried to make themselves a fixture in our relationship.
My point in posting is, is there anyway I can stop him from making false reports? Because that's what this is, right? My ex-H, actually, has consistantly been neglectful in the care of our son, which is why he has no visitation right now. That makes it even more ridiculous that he tries to act like he's unsure if DS is being properly cared for by me. I've explained this to the police when they've come for "welfare checks" and they understand. Unfortunately, it seems like they deal with non-custodial parent drama a lot...they're just like, "Yes, we've dealt with this before, sorry to bother you, this is just the routine procedure."
In my eyes, to accuse or even imply that someone could be neglecting their child is a serious issue. Is there anything I can do, other than just keep showing the police that everything here is fine? Not only is this stressful for our son, but it is stressful for me and I had to leave work in the middle of some important things for me to take care of there yesterday. My supervisor was sympathetic, but I'm four days away from my new position/big promotion and I'd really rather not deal with this while I'm proving myself in the new position. We are so incredibly busy that quite frankly, I don't have the time or patience for this sort of game playing.
Anyway, yesterday when I was at work my ex-H drove the several hours from the approximate area he's living (last address he gave me was fake) to my area and put in a "welfare check" to the police. They came here and saw that DS is perfectly fine and well taken care of, apologized to my sister and boyfriend for having to stop by, and left. I think they were here for literally a minute or less. They've dealt with my ex-H before and know that he has no real reason to suspect there are problems in our home. My ex-H also had his parents and sister texting me repeatedly and calling and hanging up while I was at work yesterday. His family has always tried to make themselves a fixture in our relationship.
My point in posting is, is there anyway I can stop him from making false reports? Because that's what this is, right? My ex-H, actually, has consistantly been neglectful in the care of our son, which is why he has no visitation right now. That makes it even more ridiculous that he tries to act like he's unsure if DS is being properly cared for by me. I've explained this to the police when they've come for "welfare checks" and they understand. Unfortunately, it seems like they deal with non-custodial parent drama a lot...they're just like, "Yes, we've dealt with this before, sorry to bother you, this is just the routine procedure."
In my eyes, to accuse or even imply that someone could be neglecting their child is a serious issue. Is there anything I can do, other than just keep showing the police that everything here is fine? Not only is this stressful for our son, but it is stressful for me and I had to leave work in the middle of some important things for me to take care of there yesterday. My supervisor was sympathetic, but I'm four days away from my new position/big promotion and I'd really rather not deal with this while I'm proving myself in the new position. We are so incredibly busy that quite frankly, I don't have the time or patience for this sort of game playing.
