I don't hide the fact that I don't vaccinate. I don't tiptoe around the subject. When I am discussing vaccination with people I tell them flat out I don't vaccinate. It's legal for me to refuse, so why hide it? There's nothing wrong with not vaccinating.
I don't just say "We don't vaccinate" and leave it at that, though. People are typically curioius as to why... not always to attack your choices (though I've certainly experienced people like that), because they don't understand it.
I'm able to do this spiel inside and out about the statistics involved in vaccinating... the statistics of children getting the vaccine preventable diseases, the statistics of reports of vaccine reactions, the statistics of vaccine effectiveness, the statistics of duration of immunities... I explain it in a step by step manner that is easily understood, engages the other person, and gets them to really think about the choice to not vaccinate. I show them it IS a choice, and not some decision I made haphazardly. I know my shit, man. :LOL
Now, all that is about telling people in general. I can use this spiel with family members, too, and I have. But, my family is more understanding of my choice. My cousin died after receiving a vaccine.
My father was vaccinated against polio (live vaccine), and my grandfather got polio from it. He ended up spending the rest of his life in a wheelchair. But, that's not the end of it. My grandmother was exposed to it, and while she didn't get polio she was pregnant at the time and it caused a permanant genetic mutation in her unborn child. He was born with emidermolysis bullosa (breaks out in blisters and sores especially at joints, anywhere bending or where skin would be touched).
(WARNING... THIS LINK HAS DISTURBING PICTURES OF THIS CONDITION!!!)
EB Kids
This mutation is PERMANANT and will go on for generations in my family... all because of one vaccination. Five out of my uncle's 6 kids have EB. One child was stillborn because of this condition. Another got cancer and went blind.
The reactions I've gotten from people because of my choice to not vaccinate has varied greatly. I've had CPS called on me because I choose not to vaccinate. I've received threats that I couldn't put my children in daycare or school. I've been pushed into switching doctors. I've also encouraged MANY MANY people to do their research. I've had people agreeing with me and discovered they were anti-vax, too. I know of at least one person who chose not to vaccinate after hearing my spiel and doing her own research.
My mother vaccinated me fully. I've had slight reactions to vaccines, and I've gotten whooping cough even after being vaccinated. My parents aren't offended that I choose not to vaccinate. They know where I'm coming from. Whenever the subject is brought up, they often say how at the time I was born everybody just did it. Nobody in that area questioned vaccinations. They still don't for the most part. It was just thought that since the doctors went to school for so many years the doctors knew more than them so parents had to listen to them.
At least my parents admit they chose to be ignorant, and they often sound regretful even though I didn't have severe reactions.
s! I agree it sucks and its so unfair we have to second guess ourself . I really havce no advice. I tell my mom how it is, i really dont care about her feelings when it comes to MY CHILDREN
I m very grateful for finding a ped who respects my decion. I bring that up to her, like well dr so and so doesn't have a problem with it 
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