and it is my fault. 
This year, we have had a new baby, sold our town house and moved and for the last 6 weeks have been doing a major kitchen reno. The baby has had 3 serious food reactions from different foods and has been not feeling well for about 4 weeks. In that time baby has become extremely clingy to me too so even putting her down results in crying and crawling up my legs.
DD is extremely extroverted and needs constant interaction and wants someone to play with her from 6 am when she gets up until she falls asleep at night. I dread taking her to the park because if there are any other kids there, she will. not. leave them alone. She tries to completely monopolize them and their parent's attention.
I have so little patience at that the constant demands are wearing on me and I am finding myself snapping at my older dd. She's only 4 but she acts like a much older child. She is very articulate and knowledgeable. She also likes to be the boss. (fairly normal I think) These things make me forget she's a baby too.
I know she is craving attention. And the baby being ill is not helping. Yesterday E was not feeling well and was screaming in pain and DH and I were trying to help her. And above the din, we hear K going "can I have a chocolate" asking over and over again. At the time I snapped at her, and now I'm feeling terrible. I know K must be feeling pushed out and neglected and I don't know what to do to fix it.
The kitchen reno needs to be finished, baby needs me because she's ebf and won't take a bottle or cup. We are scared to give her food...I left the baby on thursday for 2 hours to do my duty day at K's preschool and MIL fed her bananas. E had a reaction and spent the rest of the afternoon vomiting all over me till she passed out asleep in my arms.
Huge long story short, I'm not sure what to do. I'm not getting sleep or a break ever so I'm feeling on edge so the demanding four year old very typical behavior is getting a snarky response.
This year, we have had a new baby, sold our town house and moved and for the last 6 weeks have been doing a major kitchen reno. The baby has had 3 serious food reactions from different foods and has been not feeling well for about 4 weeks. In that time baby has become extremely clingy to me too so even putting her down results in crying and crawling up my legs.
DD is extremely extroverted and needs constant interaction and wants someone to play with her from 6 am when she gets up until she falls asleep at night. I dread taking her to the park because if there are any other kids there, she will. not. leave them alone. She tries to completely monopolize them and their parent's attention.
I have so little patience at that the constant demands are wearing on me and I am finding myself snapping at my older dd. She's only 4 but she acts like a much older child. She is very articulate and knowledgeable. She also likes to be the boss. (fairly normal I think) These things make me forget she's a baby too.
I know she is craving attention. And the baby being ill is not helping. Yesterday E was not feeling well and was screaming in pain and DH and I were trying to help her. And above the din, we hear K going "can I have a chocolate" asking over and over again. At the time I snapped at her, and now I'm feeling terrible. I know K must be feeling pushed out and neglected and I don't know what to do to fix it.
The kitchen reno needs to be finished, baby needs me because she's ebf and won't take a bottle or cup. We are scared to give her food...I left the baby on thursday for 2 hours to do my duty day at K's preschool and MIL fed her bananas. E had a reaction and spent the rest of the afternoon vomiting all over me till she passed out asleep in my arms.
Huge long story short, I'm not sure what to do. I'm not getting sleep or a break ever so I'm feeling on edge so the demanding four year old very typical behavior is getting a snarky response.
