Baby coming 4 year old still in my bed

[alicia9178]

I feel like a HORRIBLE mother. Being 21 weeks pregnat almost I am getting really stressed about my 4 year old coming in our bed at night. First off she seems to move so much in her sleep that I am not getting a good night sleep. I cannot count how many times I get kicked in the belly Also, I am trying to tell her that when the new baby come it will be his turn to sleep with us and her answer is that she will just sleep on the other side of me...which is NOT going to work. My sleeping relationship with her is love/hate right now. I love cuddling with her and anytime I nap during the day I love her laying with me, but I just feel like I cannot handle it anymore at night and I am so worried it is going to cause a rift with the baby. I cannot imagine not sleeping with a newborn because I cannot get the 4 year old out. HELP!!!!!!!

[Kuba'sMama]

hi;
i was in your exact same position (my dd is 4 as well). I think it boils down to how badly you want them out, lol. We tend to ignore or let things go until it becomes unbearable and then we change it. I personally could not sleep with the baby and 4 year old at the same time. It was crowded, I was afraid the baby would get squished, etc. We actually did it for a couple of weeks postpartum. And then I told her (she's quite reasonable though) "that's it! Mommy's not sleeping, you're not sleeping, baby is not sleeping, we can't do it anymore".I tuck her in at night, and tell her we can cuddle in my bed in the morning (after daddy leaves for work). Surprisingly it worked out quite peacefully. She knew it was not a negotiable issue.

It's my opinion, and i can totally be wrong, but i think they can sense when we really mean business,and when we say we mean business but will still flake out when it comes down to it, lol.