Originally Posted by physmom
FWIW, the one thing that comes to mind that I do differently is not to put age expectations on her. We might introduce things early that we wouldn't have thought of otherwise (for instance, picking up longer books at the library or more difficult puzzles). Otherwise it might not have occurred to me to try that.
I'm not into putting labels on DD, but she too is a 20 month old who can spell her name, name her letters, animals, colours, shapes, count to ten, sort like things, and speak in complete sentences in two languages, and is delighted to sit through books that are meant for much older children. I rarely discuss this in real life, because I end up sounding like I'm bragging, which isn't the done thing in our neighbourhood.
It hasn't been an issue until now though. My DD gets frustrated playing with her peers because they can't communicate as fluently with words, so her questions and suggestions fall flat, so she ends up hanging back and not wanting to interact.
She also finds other toddlers unpredictable, and so doesn't want to get in there and play with them, which worries me.
I do think it's about going with their interests right now, and supporting them to access the resources and inspiration that will foster their excitement for the things that they are passionate about.
Right now, we spend a lot of time at the aquarium, learning about the various species there and watching the goings on in the big tanks. Lots of time at the library, where she picks the books she wants to read. Lots of time naming things and organizing things, which gives her pleasure.
I was in a toy store and asked about alphabet flashcards, thinking she'd love something like that, and was berated by the proprietor for "pressuring my child towards perfection when at this age they're just supposed to be playing." Well, for my DD, a box of ABC flashcards would thrill her and keep her happily PLAYING for ages.
I guess I'm nervous to be in this forum, but am here because I'm even more nervous in real life to talk about these things with my parent-friends. I don't want to be that 'stage' mama for giftedness. I just want DD to be engaged and excited about the world around her.
Thanks for listening, and thanks to the OP for being brave enough to open the discussion for us other nervous nellies!