100% agree with you. I guess I'm just anti-labels/description of something that seems to separate them from their peer at such a young age. I just know it's 100% possible to meet their needs, without tossing the term gifted around. Meeting thier needs is what's important--the label/desciption is not always needed to meet those needs.
If I said my DD was tall, would that be a problem for you? I just don't get why descriptive words separate kids from their peers. Of course if I said my kid was tall and as a result I expected her to become a star basketball player and then was heartbroken when she ended up being a short pro-golfer, that would be a problem. But that's not why most people describe their kids as tall. Most people describe their kids as tall because it helps them to find clothing that will better fit their tall children. Likewise, I haven't seen many people on this forum or elsewhere use the word "gifted" as a way to separate children from their peers or to place inappropriate expectations on their kids. IME, most of the time when people use the word "gifted" they are doing so to help them find resources that will better fit the needs of their gifted children. Perhaps your experience has been different, and if that is the case I would love to hear about it.