17 month old won't nurse to sleep....Help!

[Eclaire]

My 17 month DD will not nurse to sleep at night anymore. She naps for about 1 hour. At night she seems tired, we do a bath, say goodnight to everyone, turn lights out and nurse in her bed. (she has a montessori bed) She nurses well...seems to fill up, but then she get's up, starts talking and say's by and get's up and runs out of the room. When I lay her back down (before she get's out of bed) she cries and kind of flips out. She is staying awake until 9:30-10pm and I am concerned that she is not getting enough sleep and I am not getting any time alone!
I feel like after 3 kids I should either be more relaxed and enjoy all the time with her or have a system that works to get her to sleep.
I feel lost.

[peabean26]

You could try laying down with her during her nursing then rubbing her back once she unlatches. That way she's already lying down and knows that you aren't going to leave the room right away.