I know adult children of alcoholics and al-anon both are free/(self supporting donations), but the fact that they are twelve step programs really bothers me. I guess they (from the website) feel a lot like all the AA meetings my mom dragged and cajoled and begged and bribed me into going to as a teenager. I don't want their big book, or their twelve steps. I don't want to say the lord's prayer like they do at AA. I know it's a non-religious organization, but the lord's prayer is a christian prayer. I'm not the one with the drinking problem, I don't want to have to "work the steps", I just want to find a few people to talk to, who have a similar history.
Are there any groups for the adult children of alcoholics that don't use the AA model? I can't afford to pay much if anything. My parents pay for my healthcare, and while they would pay for group therapy probably, I really don't want to ask.
ETA: I've been reading alternative/adapted twelve steps, and some of them really I find interesting. (particularly several pagan ones, even though I'm not pagan), so I guess, it's not that it's twelve steps that bother me, but that the way they are worded etc in AA and ACoA bothers me. That said, I may check ACoA out. Any expeiriences with it? tell me what to expect? did you like it? still looking for other groups too. thanks.