Do It For His Future Wife??!!??

[alicia9178]

So now everyone is stating that girls are going to be mortified to see an uncircumcized penis. Any other excuses people can give me?

[2xy]

Since just as many (or more) boys are being left whole, an intact penis is not going to be the shocker it once might have been. I might add that a young lady's first penis is going to be an awkward thing whether it's cut or not.

[elanorh]

And some girls won't know whether it's circumcised or not. Seriously. Dh and I knew so little about circumcision that we didn't know whether HE was circumcised, when we were first learning about circumcision. Given the rate of circumcision in the USA today - it's quite likely that half of his classmates (or even fewer) will be circumcised. In some areas, the circumcised males will be a definite minority.

On the other hand, as we learned more about how infant circumcision can affect the adult male penis, we realized that some of the intimacy issues we've had are a direct result of dh's infant circumcision. We will be dealing with these challenges for the rest of our married life, and it is lousy on every level.

Continue to research that aspect of circumcision (make sure you're not visiting circ fetishist sites). There is quite a bit of research out there which talks about the negative impacts of circumcision on sex for both the man and his partner. [Caveat: Some men and partners find no problems and no difference - but what if your son and/or his partner(s) are among those who do have problems?]

So maybe the thing to do, is DON'T circumcise - for the sake of your son's future wife. I sure wish someone had talked my MIL out of circumcising my husband, and I know he wishes that too.

ETA: What if you put the $$ you would have spent (or your insurance would have spent) on a circumcision, into a fund -- and when your son is 18, if he wants a circumcision, he can have one on his adult penis,with adequate pain care, and with no worries about fecal matter etc. on his healing penis. I suspect that your son will tell you he'd rather apply the funds to his college education, but you're covered if he wants a circumcision at that point in his life, and it would be HIS decision as an adult.

[Greg B]

Now that I have mostly restored my foreskin, I can say my wife has experienced both circumcised and foreskin sex. She much, much prefers foreskin sex. So much better feelings, no lube needed, more to enjoy.

So RIC him for his future wife is not a valid arguement...unless the parents know what his future partner's preferences will be when their son is an infant. Since there is no way they can know that, there is no way they should RIC.

His body, his choice.

[Mackenzie]

I got that from the nurse in the hospital when I had my first son. I got the "he can give her cervial cancer" line repeatedly. I just while inside...

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by alicia9178

So now everyone is stating that girls are going to be mortified to see an uncircumcized penis. Any other excuses people can give me?

How about not doing it for the sake of his wife. Have you mentioned to these folks that the US is the only industrialized country where circumcision is even common? What do they have to say about that?

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by Mackenzie

I got that from the nurse in the hospital when I had my first son. I got the "he can give her cervial cancer" line repeatedly. I just while inside...

He can get a vaccine for that if he or she wants it. Or choose any other option to avoid cervical cancer which may also be available. Is what I would have told them.

[Mrs-Mama]

Originally Posted by Fellow Traveler

How about not doing it for the sake of his wife. Have you mentioned to these folks that the US is the only industrialized country where circumcision is even common? What do they have to say about that?

I'm very grateful that my in-laws left my husband the way he was born.

[Mackenzie]

Originally Posted by Fellow Traveler

He can get a vaccine for that if he or she wants it. Or choose any other option to avoid cervical cancer which may also be available. Is what I would have told them.

Well, this was 10.5 years ago... And I don't advocate for vaccination either

[lynsage]

IDK who this "everyone" might be that you're referring to, but my response to them would be that you've decided to leave him intact and it's not up for discussion.

I have had more than one intact partner and I strongly prefer intact men.

Would you get labioplasty on a baby girl if "everyone" was telling you men wouldn't like the look of her intact vulva when she grows up?

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by Mackenzie

Well, this was 10.5 years ago... And I don't advocate for vaccination either

Which is fine but imfind it ironic that medical professionals would make such a claim when we know there are other options that the individual can choose from down the road. I am certain that once there is an HIV vaccine and it is all but eliminated from the population we'll still be hearing about circumcising for that too.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by 2xy

Since just as many (or more) boys are being left whole, an intact penis is not going to be the shocker it once might have been. I might add that a young lady's first penis is going to be an awkward thing whether it's cut or not.

Yup. And I personally (TMI coming) prefer intact men.

[Fyrestorm]

How about leaving it up to him and his future partner???

They might have a preference that is different than yours and I would hope you don't plan on taking advantage of your son's penis - why would your preference matter?

[Mackenzie]

Originally Posted by thyra

Yup. And I personally (TMI coming) prefer intact men.

[Yulia_R]

Originally Posted by alicia9178

So now everyone is stating that girls are going to be mortified to see an uncircumcized penis. Any other excuses people can give me?

Oh my...no words!
I could have told you SO much about the "future wife" thing if I heard someone giving me that reason. As a wife, I SO wish my husband were intact...

[texmati]

I always thought cir started to inhibit pleasure, not enhance. i don't see the logic in this at all. Plus, he likely won't be married for years and years. Why put him through pain as a defenseless baby?

[AFWife]

Isn't it hard to tell the difference at first glance when the penis is erect? The foreskin "pulls back" or something, right? (please correct me if I'm wrong!!!) So, it wouldn't make THAT much a difference unless they're just lounging around naked...

And, as others have said, the first few times I dealt with a penis it was awkward...it wouldn't have mattered if he were circ'd or not! It's not like lacking a foreskin is going to make a girl feel right at home or anything...

[annablue]

Such a silly argument. You're going to cut your son's penis just because of what some mystery person in the future might or might not think? The intact penis is not gross, disgusting, or weird, and someone who thinks so isn't the kind of shallow person who needs to be with your son anyway. My husband is intact and I love it.

[Fyrestorm]

I was at one time my husbands future wife - had I been asked how I prefer my penii I would have told my FMIL "whole" - she didn't ask me now we both get to suffer for that arrogance.

[ancoda]

Originally Posted by Fyrestorm

How about leaving it up to him and his future partner???

They might have a preference that is different than yours and I would hope you don't plan on taking advantage of your son's penis - why would your preference matter?