FWIW, my husband was mostly public schooled but his curiosity and enthusiasm for life was not squashed by school.
He is one of the most interesting, creative and persistent people I know.
He has accomplished a lot, is always learning and is just a confident, content person.
When asked how that could be, even in the face of creativity-crushing public school, he explains it this way:
"My parents engaged me. My Dad showed me his computer and let me use it a lot. I had lots of opportunities to learn and try different things. I could play video games all summer. I read a lot of Louis L'Amour novels. Also my Mom took us on trips. Like to Japan. She just found the money. They helped me see that the world is available to me and that I could do things in it. They encouraged me and rarely limited or discouraged me. My grandparents were a part of my life and seeing the things they were doing inspired me to do things too. My grandpa took me out to explore the deserts and I learned about geology and archeology that way. I knew school was a system and I worked it to my advantage and I always had a life outside of school. Sometimes I would just go out in the desert behind our house and explore."
The way I see it, as his wife, he had a strong family support with his parents first, then his grandparents, and scouting and church, etc. He knew who he was and his place in the world. And then he was engaged by his family. They actively sought to participate in life. It made a big difference. (I did not have these advantages always). We have chosen to unschool our own kids. I think the perspective he gives helps me stay balanced in the way I view learning for my children and what really matters.
Speaking of "What Really Matters", a book by that same title has recently been published. David Albert and Joyce Reed are the authors. I want to read it. Maybe it would help you to find the focus and give ideas for you and your daughter.http://www.lifemedia.ca/altpress/Wha...ly_Matters.htmPosted via Mobile Device
ETA: For anyone not 'in the know'...both Albert and Reed are well-known authors who write about life learning/unschooling.