Originally Posted by JosieAK
Man, if nursing makes m/s easier, than I'd hate to feel what life would be like without nursing! It's interesting that the milk might diminish after the first trimester. We will have been nursing for nearly 22 months at that stage, and I really think I'd be okay with it, although whether SHE would is a different story.
I read a story about a recently weaned little boy who saw his newborn sister nursing and went ballistic with envy, insisting on nursing at the same time, every time, day and night. I think it might seem like a betrayal to her. However, she is understanding so much more every day and maybe by that time, snuggles, book reading, and games will be enough to fill in the gap nursing used to have for us.
that may have happened to that little boy, but everyone i know who tandemed, that was not the case. sometimes the toddler picks up more sessions, but these typically lessen after he realizes that it's boring to just sit there and nurse all of the time (it's hard to keep a moving toddler down!) with my toddlers (i tandemed twice), before the baby came, i used to talk to them about how newborn babies nurse, poop, and sometimes cry. that's it... that's all they do. so when the newborn came, it was no surprise that the baby wanted to nurse AGAIN!!! i tried to keep the newborn in the sling sometimes throughout the day, so while the baby was nursing, they were portable. i'd sit down and color with the other kids, or have a snack with them, so they didn't feel like nursing the baby was ALL i had the time for. once i felt they were all secure, i didn't need to do that as much. (and neither ever showed any sign of insecurity or jealousy. i just wanted to make sure it stayed that way, yk? validate their feelings of wanting mommy, b/c i know they did.)
i just wanted to reassure you that that is not what generally happens, ime.