Mothering › Forums › Parenting › Adoptive and Foster Parenting › Possible situation - talk to me about...
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Possible situation - talk to me about...

post #1 of 8
Thread Starter 
We got a call today about a possible situation. There is an extensive history.

**deleted details**

Any prayers, info, good thoughts, vibes, anything would be helpful. We have until Friday to decide.
post #2 of 8
Are you able to get a statement from her doctor about the baby's prognosis? I would want to know the effects of the Percocet, Xanax, and heroin use during pregnancy (in addition to the prescribed meds.) Crack usually doesn't have lasting effects (at least not to the extent previously thought.) Alcohol use isn't a good thing but I'm not sure how much is to much, especially in the beginnning.

My son's birth father is severely schizophrenic. His birth mother has an undiagnosed mental illness. My STBAD's birth mother is mentally ill and likely drank throughout her pregnancy. My kids are wonderfully healthy. There are no guarantees that they will escape mental illness but I've been told that being in a stable home greatly decreases the likelihood.

My gut feeling is that I wouldn't accept the placement. I would need a lot more information before I made a final decision, though.
post #3 of 8
Hmmm.... that's a tough one. Will be sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

We had an option like this on at one point then it fell through and we didn't end up having to make the decision after all, which made me kind of glad because it would have been a tough one to make, but we were leaning toward a "yes" if that helps.
post #4 of 8
Thread Starter 
We said no. I won't be around for a while.
post #5 of 8
Oh, Beck.
post #6 of 8
Quote:
Originally Posted by BeckC View Post
We said no. I won't be around for a while.


Im so sorry

What a hard place to be. I know how intense the desire to parent is, and I can only imagine what a tough call this was for you. I hope you feel peace in your decision, and I hope your baby comes soon.
post #7 of 8
I'm sorry.
post #8 of 8
Quote:
Originally Posted by BeckC View Post
We said no. I won't be around for a while.
I'm sorry.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting
Mothering › Forums › Parenting › Adoptive and Foster Parenting › Possible situation - talk to me about...