i have 10 neices and nephews on dh's side, of those, i love 3, really like 2, and can't stand the rest.
do you like your neices or nephews? do you love them? does it matter if they are blood or not?
My brother from my father's side who I've never met, but have been Facebook friends for a long time, has a 1 1/2 year old son. I don't know him, never met him, so I can't honestly say I love him, but he is my nephew, so I would do anything for him.
My sister has a 9 year old daughter, a 2 1/2 year old son, and one month old twins. My oldest neice, I was her second Mother until she was 2 1/2, then I moved out of state. In all honesty, I love her, but she has severe behavioral problems, so sometimes I don't like her very much. My nephew, I never really had the same relationship with, but he likes to talk to me on the phone, and even though I only see him a couple times a year, for some reason, he's crazy about me... and I'm crazy about him. I love him and I like him. The newborn twins, I haven't had a chance to meet yet. I love them because they are my nieces, and I like them 'cause I can hear them squaking when I'm on the phone with my sister, but I don't know them yet, know what I mean?
I had neice (Husband's brother's daughter) before my (ex) Husband left me. I never really knew her, so I can't accurately say whether I loved her or not, but she was a sweet little girl and I liked her.
From my family's perspective... my son is the nephew. They love him and they like him, very much. My former stepdaughter... the loved her and they liked her, however I can see a bit of a difference- it was easier for some of them to drop her when my (ex) Husband left, then it would be for them to drop my son. This does NOT apply to all my family, though, just some of them- some of my family miss my stepdaughter as much as I do, never thought of her as "step", just family.