Overall I would say that I am a pretty chill individual, albeit easily frustrated. But I've had a lifetime to deal with my everyday petty frustrations and I think I handle it pretty well. What I handle less well is anger...especially anger that comes from me seeing people around me acting inappropriately. Let me explain:
I live on a college campus; at a place I would not choose were there better options available. However DH is a professor at this university and our (university subsidized) housing is amazingly cheap for the area in which we live. I should be grateful. The house itself is great, has a nice yard etc., but the street where we live is full of stupid people that infuriate me.
During the day when there are classes our street is prime parking territory, and as such there are constantly people parking in front of my driveway. Ok, no biggie, if I see them I ask them please not to, and if I do not see them (and its egregious) I call the cops and have them towed.
People are constantly circling looking for parking, and driving like a0holes, which includes whipping down the street going way too fast, whipping around the corner without looking to see if anyone is crossing and the like. Its like this every day. I've almost been hit while crossing the street twice now and I've only lived here for a year.
Another issue is there is a popular college bar at the end of the block which leads to many many nights of very drunk people yelling (and worse) in front of our house. Sometimes there are fights. This is always at about two in the morning when the bar closes. As a result of one recent fight some crazy wailing girl advanced on me when I went out on my porch and told her to be quiet and go home. She told me she was going to kick my ass. I was holding me baby at the time (who her wailing had woken up).
One last thing is that the local professional soccer team plays across the street at the university while they are negotiating a contract for their city-built stadium. The games are loud and annoying (and often start at eight at night) but what is worse is the behavior of the obnoxious fans as they leave the game and head for the bar at the end of the block. Which brings me to my anger...
Tonight there was a group of these fans who were whooping loudly to one another as they walked up the street and ultimately passed my house. They were way too loud..it was ten PM on a Wednesday fer cryingoutloud, and I probably would have just gritted my teeth in annoyance and waited for them to leave...but they woke up the baby. Which put me into a blind fury and I went out and screamed at them instead. I find that I do this way too often since living here, but the constant dealing with really irritating entitled people just wears me down. I mean, who in their right mind thinks its ok to make that much noise in a neighborhood just because they can? (and yes, I realize that by yelling at them I was making just as much noise, and I'm pretty embarrassed by this).
I don't want to live like this anymore. As I write this there is a big group of fans at the bar singing at the top of their fool lungs and beating a drum. I am sitting here hating them because they are making so much noise. The local police station is right across the street and they do nothing. Campus security also does nothing (although with fairness the bar is not really part of their responsibility...unless the annoying people are students). But it makes me so freaking mad. So mad.
How do I deal with this anger?? I'm afraid that at some point someone is going to retaliate against me and that puts my son in danger. I mean whenever I yell at people (I yell at folks to slow down, I yell at folks to be careful, I yell at folks to shut up) they know where I live. But this is my house and my neighborhood and I don't see why I should just take people's inconsiderate behavior as just part of living here. Especially drunk snowflake students' behavior.
Oh, and I am stuck in this house for five years, so please don't advise me to move. I am unemployed so we couldn't afford to anyways.
I live on a college campus; at a place I would not choose were there better options available. However DH is a professor at this university and our (university subsidized) housing is amazingly cheap for the area in which we live. I should be grateful. The house itself is great, has a nice yard etc., but the street where we live is full of stupid people that infuriate me.
During the day when there are classes our street is prime parking territory, and as such there are constantly people parking in front of my driveway. Ok, no biggie, if I see them I ask them please not to, and if I do not see them (and its egregious) I call the cops and have them towed.
People are constantly circling looking for parking, and driving like a0holes, which includes whipping down the street going way too fast, whipping around the corner without looking to see if anyone is crossing and the like. Its like this every day. I've almost been hit while crossing the street twice now and I've only lived here for a year.
Another issue is there is a popular college bar at the end of the block which leads to many many nights of very drunk people yelling (and worse) in front of our house. Sometimes there are fights. This is always at about two in the morning when the bar closes. As a result of one recent fight some crazy wailing girl advanced on me when I went out on my porch and told her to be quiet and go home. She told me she was going to kick my ass. I was holding me baby at the time (who her wailing had woken up).
One last thing is that the local professional soccer team plays across the street at the university while they are negotiating a contract for their city-built stadium. The games are loud and annoying (and often start at eight at night) but what is worse is the behavior of the obnoxious fans as they leave the game and head for the bar at the end of the block. Which brings me to my anger...
Tonight there was a group of these fans who were whooping loudly to one another as they walked up the street and ultimately passed my house. They were way too loud..it was ten PM on a Wednesday fer cryingoutloud, and I probably would have just gritted my teeth in annoyance and waited for them to leave...but they woke up the baby. Which put me into a blind fury and I went out and screamed at them instead. I find that I do this way too often since living here, but the constant dealing with really irritating entitled people just wears me down. I mean, who in their right mind thinks its ok to make that much noise in a neighborhood just because they can? (and yes, I realize that by yelling at them I was making just as much noise, and I'm pretty embarrassed by this).
I don't want to live like this anymore. As I write this there is a big group of fans at the bar singing at the top of their fool lungs and beating a drum. I am sitting here hating them because they are making so much noise. The local police station is right across the street and they do nothing. Campus security also does nothing (although with fairness the bar is not really part of their responsibility...unless the annoying people are students). But it makes me so freaking mad. So mad.
How do I deal with this anger?? I'm afraid that at some point someone is going to retaliate against me and that puts my son in danger. I mean whenever I yell at people (I yell at folks to slow down, I yell at folks to be careful, I yell at folks to shut up) they know where I live. But this is my house and my neighborhood and I don't see why I should just take people's inconsiderate behavior as just part of living here. Especially drunk snowflake students' behavior.
Oh, and I am stuck in this house for five years, so please don't advise me to move. I am unemployed so we couldn't afford to anyways.
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I feel for you too.
These are my same conclusions. This sound enormously frustrating and disappointing. I'm so sorry.
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