October 30 Somethings TTC #1 - Page 5

[birdie.lee]

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[Hykue]

Thanks for all the good thoughts, ladies. I have myself very close to accepting and moving on . . .

Meander, I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry. Even when AF was just barely late, it was hard to come to terms with for me. I wish I had some words that could help, but I don't think they exist. Try to think of the bright future. Hugs.

Taxlady - Papua New Guinea, fun birth story!

Mine is not super-fun . . . the way I was told it as a child, my mom was in labor for 30 hours (I don't know how long the pushing stage was), and I "wanted to see where I was going" and wouldn't put my head down - I was trying to crown face-first. Which of course, doesn't work. They moved my head twice, but I moved it back. So they had to do a C-section. Sounds like the demerol was nice, though . . . sorry, mom. On the plus side, I was easy to conceive - their first month trying. My older sister took 10 months . . . but was a relatively easy labor.

[Teetina]

Meander - My heart wrenched when I saw you post in the loss forums. I'm so sorry you're back here with us. I hope you recover well and you're out of here in no time. We're all here for you.

Val - It seems to me either one could be an O date. What are your normal patterns with regards to CM and opks and O timing? I like the 15th better because it means you got more chances to BD in. If you didn't get pregnant this month, your luteal phase length will give you a clue as to when it really was. If you did get pregnant, well, you have an extra day before doctors start pressuring you to induce. I know its hard now to be one day further behind than what you thought you were, but it seems like the better day in other respects.

Boots - The cycle I got pregnant I had lots of little cramps. I hope its a good sign for you too! Thanks for the tip on Ravelry, I'm gonna check it out. "The bajingo juice rules!" That cracked me up. I think it should be our new thread motto.

Taxlady - I'm sorry you're feeling so awful. Don't give up hope on conception though, you still have a chance. People conceive all the time under all sorts of stressful circumstances, so why not you too? We too have an unused room that is just waiting for a baby. I have gifted baby clothes hanging in the closet and then just a bunch of boxes of our stuff everywhere that we haven't gotten to since our move. I love your idea of making it more inviting for good luck. I think I might do that.

I'm loving all the birth stories. I didn't have a very remarkable birth. It was pretty typical for a first born actually. My mom's labour was on the longer side and began two weeks past her due date. She was scheduled for an induction during the following week so I guess the eviction notice came through loud and clear to me. I was vertex and apparently I looked past due when I came out. Clearly I didn't want to face the world yet. Sometimes I still don't.

[ValH]

Originally Posted by Teetina

Val - It seems to me either one could be an O date. What are your normal patterns with regards to CM and opks and O timing? I like the 15th better because it means you got more chances to BD in. If you didn't get pregnant this month, your luteal phase length will give you a clue as to when it really was. If you did get pregnant, well, you have an extra day before doctors start pressuring you to induce. I know its hard now to be one day further behind than what you thought you were, but it seems like the better day in other respects.

Thanks for the input on my O date... my patterns seem to be a bit "off" this cycle. My temps lately have been doing the slow-rise thing, which is what leads me to believe CD 14, especially considering the previous temps were probably a bit higher than they would have been if I'd been sleeping at home (i.e. sleeping with more clothes on when I'm not at home = higher temp). But, I don't usually O until CD15 at the earliest, and I usually get one + OPK before O, so that would tend to lean towards CD15. Oh, who knows, guess it doesn't matter now anyway! O is definitely done, so now it's just a waiting game. I'm having some cramps today, not sure what that's all about. WAY to early for AF cramps regardless of which day I O'ed.




Oh, and I completely second "The bajingo juice rules!" being our motto!

[Blanca78]

Just wanted to say to Hykue and Meander that I was so sorry to read your news. Hykue, I'm glad you're feeling okay. Meander--no words here, really, except that I am really sad for you and thinking of you.

[ValH]

Taxlady - Just wanted to check to see, how are you feeling? I hope you're back to normal sometime soon!

AFM - I'm 5 (or 6) dpo. Not much to report, except for some cramps yesterday (not sure what was causing that).

Baby Dust to All!

[Taxlady]

OH Hi guys.. I have the really really bad flu.. I'll be back soon. I promise, thanks for asking Val.

[ValH]

Taxlady - glad to see that you are still out there! So sorry you have the flu - ! Feel better!

AFM - More cramps today, but they're gone now. But, since they've disappeared, my fever is back. I'm supposed to be getting better, not worse! Ugh.

[birdie.lee]

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[meander]

Thank you all for being here...I really appreciate it.
Taxlady, I really hope you feel much better soon. Nobody needs the flu!

If my insurance company calls and asks me AGAIN if I am 'still pregnant'? I am going to have to hurt someone, because honestly, who asks that? Ever? There is no possible reason for that question.
Sorry I posted and then disappeared for a while...We ran off to the woods to escape for a few days, camping and hiking and generally being away from the routine...I have just been feeling very cooped up waiting at home for this to happen for some reason. I still feel rather like I want to go do a 2 week long hike somewhere and just be.
But I fell a lot more centered, now, and last night I actually got through the miscarrying part of the miscarriage. It was...surprisingly painful... but also surprisingly untraumatic compared to the D&C, physically and mentally, for me. And I am oddly pleased that my body *took care of itself correctly* for a nice change. Fingers crossed this is not a fluke and something that was broken is back on track now. Maybe.
I'm dealing. I'm not happy, but this loss is not kicking my ass in the same way the last one did, for whatever reason. I cry, I can't manage to get much done, I'm moping about...but I can handle it...last time I was dangerously close, in retrospect, to not being able to do that.

[Taxlady]

Hi guys - thanks for all the well wishes. OMG, I was sick. It's really subsiding now. Yesterday, I felt like I wasn't living on this planet. Val, this fever that you are talking about is what happened to me. I seemed to be fighting it off and then.. BLAM.. Monday was awful. But I'm on the mend and happy to return to my friends. I hope you feel better. And for that matter, please be extra careful out there you guys, I've noticed more people coughing. It's still way hot here, I can't wait for it to get (that's like 40 degrees).

MEANDER, I am right there with you, seriously - don't they have training manuals with the proper ways to phrase things?? That is so crazy! I cannot stand the roboticness of healthcare. Escaping to the woods sounds like a dream to me.. I am sooo glad you got out there to recenter. What a great thing to do. You're going to be ok and I think it's a really good sign that you're healthy.

Birdie.lee- HIYA! Like Bruce Lee I'm sorry you had a craptastic day. Everyone who's ever had a day like Birdie - raise your hand! Things have just been off kilter lately, maybe I'll go look at the moon pattern? ON THE BRIGHT SIDE.. you have almost made it through the TWW! Hooray!

Bootsvalentine, this morning when I was dragging myself to work, the radio announcer called February 14th as the big money winner. I'm sure you've heard of that radio game - sooo I thought, that's Boot's lucky birthday!

Cute story about the eviction notice, Teetina.. I still see your name and think she must be a really good golfer named Tina..

So with all the talking about knitting.. nobody used this I just love the icons..

THE BAJINGO JUICE RULES! I dare the threadkeeper next month to use that as the title.

[ValH]

birdie.lee - Sorry you had such a crappy day yesterday! Hopefully today will be better for you.

Meander - I think getting into the woods to recenter and relax was a great idea! And I'm glad your body is doing what it's supposed to... hopefully it is a good sign of things to come!

Taxlady - I'm so glad you're feeling better and back with us!

AFM - My temp skyrocketed this morning... but it's the fever. 99.73. It made my chart look interesting, but I disregarded it, so it's back to plain again. Other than the fever, not much to report. I'm currently trying to decide if I want to go to work. I don't feel as bad as last night, but that temp this morning has me a bit concerned.

Anyway, I'm thinking about using reflexology next cycle if this cycle doesn't stick... but DH is resistant and called it a waste of money... anyone have any tips on how to talk DH into some alternative treatments?

[rubygirl36]

Originally Posted by ValH

Anyway, I'm thinking about using reflexology next cycle if this cycle doesn't stick... but DH is resistant and called it a waste of money... anyone have any tips on how to talk DH into some alternative treatments?

oh, honey, you don't need to spend a lot for reflexology. i bought a book and do it for myself. get a book with nice real-hand pictures, play around a bit, and you'll be ready to go!
it's a grand investment, not just for fertility, but for digestion issues, headaches, backaches, sinuses and allergies . . . you name it. i feel like a commercial! haha. good luck!

[birdie.lee]

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[Taxlady]

If I remember correctly our friend Rubygirl posted the yoga poses - what book are you using about reflexology? I'm really interested in it, and Val the reply you got to your post is really promising. As for spending $$ on alternative treatments - I run into this with DH. Luckily, I'm the money person in our relationship; but I usually ask by saying I'm just going to try it once. Also, alternatives are more expensive. I guess, you could download pictures from the internet and ask him to give it a shot.

Also, ValH, my doctor told me yesterday that really you should stay inside for 24 after your fever breaks. I did not follow that advice, but we have the final filing deadline on Friday and I know my boss was going postal when I stayed home on Monday. He was acting a little passive aggressive until he saw how pale I was and that I have lost like 7 pounds! Under normal circumstances, I truly think you are doing everyone a favor by staying home. You maybe already at work, so hang in there. Being sick is nooo fun.. but I'm impressed you continued to temp. I stopped temping on Friday.. can I pick it back up tomorrow? I was up a lot less through the night. It's going to be such a bummer next week, when I have no idea what my cycle is doing.

Hykue, I forgot to ask you - HOW ARE YOU FEELING? And Bel718, what CD are you on.. do you have a chart you'd like me to add?

Birdie.lee - I hope you wore your black belt and are taking names today.

[rubygirl36]

Originally Posted by birdie.lee

I think somebody on mothering.com posted yoga poses for fertility and I think I bookmarked it so I could try them out later.

that was me! i think the title was "fertility yoga poses!", if i remember correctly. reflexology is awesome. i do it on myself all the time, as long as i can remember where the points are.

[Teetina]

ValH - I'm sorry you're still so sick, I hope it doesn't last too much longer. Maybe that cramping was an early implanter? I sometimes get cramps at odd times and I make up reasons to myself over what they could be. Maybe my fallopian tube is contracting to propel the eggy through to the uterus... maybe that's my cervix clamping shut in a hurry to keep the eggy all safe, etc... I know they are all probably so wrong, but i find it fun. I've never tried reflexology... you'll have to let us know how it goes.

Livingsky - That sure is a pretty chart. I'm so excited for you. Any symptoms?

meander - I understand wanting to escape to the woods. After my miscarriage I had calls from people wanting to reach out to me but it took me a while before I could manage being in the real world again. It was traumatic and painful, but I'm still impressed how my body knew what to do, even though things weren't going right. I think it helped my case to DH for homebirth a bit too.

birdie.lee - I'm glad you made up with DH. I hate fighting with anyone, but worst of all DH. I can handle stress at work, but if its at home I feel like I have nowhere to run to and recharge. About pregnancy tests... Its probable to get a positive at 12dpo but there is still a chance of false negatives, according to this site. That wouldn't stop me from testing though!

rubygirl - Keep doing those fertility poses!

AFM - My eggies seem to be taking their sweet time this cycle. We started BDing earlier this month since we almost missed it last time, so I hope we don't get too burned out. Maybe my ovaries just need a little more cheering. GO GO OVARIES, DO YOUR THING!

[ValH]

Thanks for all of the well-wishes. I'm feeling a bit better. I work from home, but do have to go out for meetings during the day. I only had two today. My fever was down by the time I had to leave at 8:30, so I couldn't justify not going. Besides, if I didn't go, it would just make the rest of the week even busier. Now I'm home, and planning on a "power nap" for my late lunch break.

rubygirl36 - Thanks for the info on reflexology! I'll definitely have to check into self-reflexology, especially if I can't get DH to agree.

birdie.lee - A lot of ladies get BFPs at 12dpo... however, there's still the posibility of a false negative, as some people are just late testers and won't get positives before 14dpo, or ever later. But that sure wouldn't stop me from testing, especially if it's past your normal LP length. Good luck!

Taxlady - I didn't know that about staying in for 24 hours after a fever. I stayed in for about one hour... oops! I'm glad you're feeling better though, and try not to get too stressed out with your work deadline!

Teetina - Your excuses for cramps made me laugh... I do the same thing! Every twinge or nudge in my body during the tww has to be "a sign." Of course, it never is, but it makes me feel better at the time! I even told myself yesterday maybe I got a fever because an eggie implanted, and my weak body diverted all the energy to the eggie, so that's why I relapsed. In all reality, my meds probably aren't strong enough, or I pushed myself too hard at work. But I like my first excuse better. And I'd like to add a cheer for your ovaries: GO TEETINA'S OVARIES, GO! YAY OVARIES!

[ValH]

Taxlady - I meant to address this in my last post, but forgot... I think you can pick up temping at any point. Some information is better than no information, right? And at least you can compare it to previous charts, and see if there is a temp rise or drop. So if I were you, I'd definitely start temping again now that you're feeling closer to normal.

[meander]

I took a nap in the recliner this evening and had a dream in which one of you ladies posted pics of your nice, dark BFP, but sadly, now that I'm awake I cannot remember which of you it was...
So here's hoping for somebody!