Just stumbled across this thread. I've been no poo for right at one year now. It has been a huge learning process for me, but I am glad I stuck with it. There is a no poo forum that helped me tremendously:
http://community.livejournal.com/no_poo
It is my go-to site for no poo questions. There is a GREAT spreadsheet linked on the site somewhere that has an extensive list of herbs and other things and their effect on your hair/scalp. It is a fabulous resource.
I started off using the usual BS wash AVC rinse recipe, and it worked really well for a while. The BS really cleaned my hair well, but I soon realized that it was making my chest break out after showering, and my scalp was angry. So, I set out to find something else that would get my hair clean and not leave red splotches all over me. I tried so many things, and many of them failed miserably.
Finally I read about ayurvedic herbs (Indian herbs). Went to a local Indian grocery store and had to have the guy behind the counter help me find what I was looking for. I am very obviously not Indian, so I think he knew I was kinda lost. Anyhow, I bought a box of neem, shikakai, and aritha. I spend something like $7 or $9 total. WOW! And the boxes lasted me a good while. To my great happiness, they cleaned my hair well! The neem helps my scalp since I have quite a bit of dandruff/flaking issues.
Another favorite of mine is honey-- seems to really help moisturize my hair. I also use egg from time to time for shine, but it seems that I end up with a little bit of scrambled egg in my hair no matter how cold I seem to think the water is!
It took me a while to realize I was going through the "transition" period. I had to wean myself into washing my hair less and less, and the more I would stretch out my washes, over time I noticed I could go longer between washes. I have long hair and so ponytails are always easy for me if my hair is yucky. Sometimes I only wash my hair because I think my scalp is getting smelly or my hair is really flaky. I can now get away with just a vinegar rinse on some days when my hair isn't particularly oily.
Oh, and adding good smelling essential oils to the vinegar rinse is a must for me. DH hates the smell of vinegar in my hair, so masking it with something nice like lavender is great! Rosewater in a spray bottle is good, too.
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