30-something mamas TTC #2 or more - October - Page 3

[Marnica]

Callie - Glad you are feeling better!!

Barb - Hi and welcome

About me: I'm a clinical social worker and an alcohol and drug counselor who missed her true calling (bad timing) and dreams of being an ND or at least practicing some kind of holistic medicine. Finances and time and life in general prevents me from pursuing anything right now, but Im ever hopeful that one day I can make it happen.

AFM Im in the 2ww. Here's my chart http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2e0e86. Our timing was not great this month so I don't want to get my hopes up, but Im hoping if not preggers than at least a longer LP. I don't know if I can deal with the disappointment if AF finds me. I said a horrible thing the other day to my DH. It was a particularly crazy day. DS was acting up, lots of tantrums that day, I was SUPER irritable and DH has been sick and I'm very worried about him, but also annoyed that he has been out of commission yk? Anyway I said something to the effect of I hope Im not pregnant cause I can't deal with doing this all over again

UGHHH I totally didn't mean it at all. I feel like a idiot and hope I haven't jinxed myself. I tend to be fairly superstitious.

[tjjazzy]

Originally Posted by emski4379

I think that if you run all the time and your body is used to it, it's not a problem. If you just started running though and are TTC, it can mess with your cycle. Since I had just started in June, I decided to put it on hold.

Hi Barb, welcome!

oh no! i really don't want to quit running i started near the end of July. it was daily until the end of August and now i go a couple times a week probably. i was working out on Mondays and Tuesdays and walking a lot before i started running (a lot of cardio-Muay Thai kickboxing) though so i wonder if my body is used to the activity or if it's going to mess up my cycle? does anyone have any links to literature about this? the running is doing a lot of good for me as far as losing inches and increasing endurance goes and i hate to quit now.

[tjjazzy]

Originally Posted by Marnica

Callie - Glad you are feeling better!!

Barb - Hi and welcome

so, DH and i actually decided on our names it's going to be the same either way, boy or girl, but likely spelled differently. i was shocked when i approached him with the idea. he said "i like it! sold." lol so now all we have to do is actually conceive a child in order to name it...details, details, eh?

[Mama~Love]

Callie - glad you're feeling better! Doubly glad the TWW has gone by a bit faster for you too, that's the hardest part!

AF is easing up a bit, still kind of heavy, but luckily no more incidents at work. I just go to the bathroom frequently to double check things. I hope it's over in a few days.

Marnica - I think your chart looks great! I'll keep my for you.

tjjazzy - we have a name picked out that will be the same for either gender too! I don't share names beforehand though, so it'll be a secret. I thought DH would be totally against it for a girl (it's a boy name generally), but he loved it too.

[Tulpen88]

Mollie - I'm glad AF is easing up for you. Have you started Clomid? Aw, I hate that you won't share your baby name. My sister also had an "either gender" name. Her name is Casey Leigh. Will you find out if you're having a boy or a girl when you get pregnant?

tjjazzy - I really don't think you need to quit running. I think if you were to get pregnant and start running, then you'd have an issue. But if you already run some and you're maintaining your current level or very gradually adding distance or speed, you should be fine. Like everything else, as long as it's in moderation, you should be fine.

Marnica - Your chart looks nice! I really don't think your timing was bad either. You got O day and the day after. Even the 3 days before could be enough... you never know! It only takes 1 sperm! I'm sorry about what you said to your DH. I don't believe that we jinx ourselves, but it's awful when you find yourself saying something like that. Why not tell your DH that you don't really feel that way. Even if he knows it, say it out loud. Then say it out loud to yourself whenever you're alone. I think saying things out loud helps.

AFM - I ate breakfast and so far, so good. Unfortunately DH is getting sick now. I feel so bad for him. His students have all-county auditions today (he's a band teacher) so he had to go to school today. Then he has to take them all to auditions after school, and he probably won't be done until around 8 pm. Poor guy. I hope he survives the day.

I'm 6 dpo today. One week until AF should show.... I hope the witch stays away this time. I had a dream last night that I took an OPK and it was blaringly positive. Then I realized that a +OPK probably meant that I was pregnant, and I started to freak out. Don't you just hate dreaming about this stuff? It's so unfair!

[Mama~Love]

Callie - I 'll PM you the name , as long as you won't tell! I've started Clomid already, I'll take 150mg CD 3-9, just like last time. I think taking a lower dose for 2 extra days helped with Oing. I usually took 200mg on days 3-7. I think I'd want to know ahead of time, I did find out with the boys, but none of the girls. I don't think I could wait that long again.

Glad you're feeling better, but so sorry your DH is getting sick now! Oh, and the OPK dream - that's how I thought to take a pregnancy test! I had that dream that I got a very, very +OPK, and the next day found out I was pregnant. Yes, the OPK was very, very positive. I was like 20 DPO or so, but thought I was CD8 with all the bleeding and temp drops I had. I still think about what went wrong. I'll never know, which is hard to bear at times.

[emski4379]

tjjazzy-Like Callie said, you're probably fine to keep running. I'm just paranoid and stopped. BTW, our kids are almost exactly the same ages! DS is Nov '05, and DD is Oct '08. I think we may have been in the Sept '08 DDC together.

Callie-Glad you're feeling better. If your DH is like mine, it is no fun when they are sick. I hope he recovers quickly.

AFM-I think I will be Oing today or tomorrow. Big temp drop today. We've had good BDing timing this month. Just missed yesterday, but got a quicky in this morning. Hopefully it works!

[tjjazzy]

Originally Posted by emski4379

tjjazzy-Like Callie said, you're probably fine to keep running. I'm just paranoid and stopped. BTW, our kids are almost exactly the same ages! DS is Nov '05, and DD is Oct '08. I think we may have been in the Sept '08 DDC together.

Callie-Glad you're feeling better. If your DH is like mine, it is no fun when they are sick. I hope he recovers quickly.

AFM-I think I will be Oing today or tomorrow. Big temp drop today. We've had good BDing timing this month. Just missed yesterday, but got a quicky in this morning. Hopefully it works!

we likely were! i hope we're in the next DDC together too!! our cycles are a little off but we're close anyway...

[geek_the_girl]

Thanks everyone! Ill look into TCOYF.

[EllyMayMomma]

Since I am not actually TTC this cycle, I have not kept up with the thread so much this cycle - too much temptation! Instead, I am paying attention to my pms symptoms knowing I am not pg. For instance - yesterday (5 dpo) I had lower abd cramping and if I did not know totally better, I would be wondering about implantation. I am also irritable and craving salt. Just interesting looking at it knowing I am not pg - been a very long time that I have not faced this time of the month with hope of a baby. Can't wait until next cycle!

Good luck to all of you - as much as I want to "see" you all when I am ttc next cycle, I really hope for BFP's for you this mo!

[Tulpen88]

EllyMay - Thanks for popping in! Have you started the clinic to help your back? If so, how is it going? I hope you get great results! I'm sure it's helpful to know you're not pg and to observe your symptoms this month. I try to remember (and chart) my symptoms each month so that I can remind myself that it's normal for me to have some back pain and some nausea during the 2ww. It's so easy to obsess over each symptom.

Emma - Did you O? I need to go check your chart!

Mollie -

AFM - A friend of mine (from our Bradley class) had a baby girl last week. Yesterday, she posted on Facebook that she was exhausted from being up all day & night. I felt somewhat bitter about that... you know the typical "I would give anything to be up all day & night with a newborn" type of feelings, and so I didn't respond to her post. Later, I checked Facebook again, and another friend from our class responded and said that she'd like to bring dinner over & hold the baby so that the mom could take a nap or whatever. Seeing that post reminded me that no matter what's going on with my life/fertility, I can still be a good friend, right? So I made the same offer. So, it looks like on Sunday I'll be going over to hold a 10-day old baby. I hope I don't cry... and I hope I can give her back to her Mom!

Nothing worth mentioning in cycle news, as far as I can tell. I'm just hoping for the rest of this 2ww to hurry by.

[Mama~Love]

Callie - 's! I couldn't handle it, couldn't bear it. But being a good friend is important too. It's hard to set aside our own issues, but sometimes necessary.

I got 3 more days of Clomid to go, then the waiting starts. I hope I O as early as I did last time. As soon as AF is over, I'll be all over DH!

[callieollie]

Hi everyone! My name is Katie and I have 2 kids, ages 4 1/2 and 2 1/2. We're ttc#3. It's been frustrating because we conceived both my son and daughter the first month of trying and for this one we've been trying since January and still nothing. We had an early miscarriage in February and nothing since then. I just finished a round of hormone testing to see if anything is going on and will have my follow up in a little less than 2 weeks to get the results for that. Right now I'm at 11dpo and tested 2 days ago and it was negative. I'm not feeling too optimistic now so I'll probably just wait until AF shows up on Monday rather than testing again. I'm just really hoping I can get some answers at my doctor's appointment and then see what, if anything, we can do next.

Sorry for the long vent! It is nice to have others to commiserate with and to celebrate the excitement of BFPs!

[Tulpen88]

callieollie - I hear you on the frustration thing. I got pregnant on the first cycle with my son, and we're on our 10th cycle of TTC #2. It is tough! I hope you get some answers with the testing, if this cycle isn't the one. Is one of your children named Callie? Great name!

Mollie - I hear ya... If I had been through what you've been through, I probably wouldn't be able to go see my friend and her newborn either. My heart hurts for a baby we haven't conceived yet, but that's different than missing a baby that was lost.

[callieollie]

Is one of your children named Callie?

No, my cat is! lol! We had her pre-kids! It is a great name. Thanks for the welcome!

[myorianna]

Just popping back in everyone. Welcome to the new people! I have no time since my family is staying with us to help organize DD's big birthday bash tomorrow morning. After the party is done, I will catch up on everything! DD turned 3 on Wednesday and we did a little cupcake thing at her preschool, but the party is tomorrow. Its been a very looong day.
Whats sucks is that I know I will O today or tomorrow, but we can't dtd with a full house, and all the preparations for the party. I hope I am wrong and that O will delay, but otherwise we only got in yesterday morn and the night before...I hope those little guys can survive!

[emski4379]

Welcome callieollie!

Callie-Good luck tomorrow with the baby. I know that for me being around someone else's baby is so hard. Being around others who are preggo is hard too.

myorianna-Happy Birthday to your DD! My DD just turned 2 on Monday.

AFM-not much really. My temps are looking good. I think I am 2dpo. Had EWCM last night, so we DTD (just in case) before I passed out from taking Benadryl. I'm feeling more optimistic about this cycle for some reason.

Anyone if it's safe to diet while TTC? By diet, I mean following something like Weight Watchers, not an extreme diet or diet pills. I need to loose about 25 lbs and would love to get some off before getting preggers.

[Mama~Love]

Originally Posted by Tulpen88

Mollie - I hear ya... If I had been through what you've been through, I probably wouldn't be able to go see my friend and her newborn either. My heart hurts for a baby we haven't conceived yet, but that's different than missing a baby that was lost.

Yeah, it's really hard now, my would-be-EDD is only a couple months away. December is going to suck, that's for sure. I don't know how I'll make it through it with my sanity still intact.

[EllyMayMomma]

Don't have much time at the moment - but just had to say Callie - so kind of you to go hold the baby. I know it will be hard and will be thinking of you.

Momma Love - hugs to you. I know when I lost my baby, that due date month was so hard. I still remember my baby on both my dd and the date I lost him (too early to know but I always felt it was a boy.) That year was the hardest year of my life - and considering my childhood that is really saying something!

Emski - I hear you on wanting to loose a few pounds before getting pg. This month I am really trying to remember there is no chance of being pg so no excuse to go for eating high fat foods! We have gone on a vegetarian diet due to my dh needing to loose weight and lower his cholesterol and blood pressure. I have lost almost 10 lbs in about 6 weeks - and that is with cheating by eating a bit of chicken and cheese now and then. DH is eating no dairy or eggs but I am so I am still getting some fats and a good amount of protein between that and the beans.

AFM - I am not using progesterone cream this cycle and my temps have been high until today - much lower than my other cycles at this time. Curious to see how the rest of the cycle goes without it.

I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. A RE told me that about 6 mo ago but I kind of was in denial about it. Last week a doctor doing my nerve testing in my arm said the same thing. So, I guess the diagnosis sticks and I am going to just have to learn to live with it and move on. I posted a question on TTC and Fibromyalgia and for those of you with it, I would really appreciate information on how your docs are helping you manage it and what meds you are on while TTC and when you get preg.

[heavensearth]

Thanks everyone for sharing

Johnaroo, do you have a blog?! I would love to read about your adventures! Sounds like we have a lot in common cooking wise! I also love yoga

myorianna, I work with acrylics mainly.. I do painted collages, usually on canvas, but sometimes on heavyweight paper and wood. I also make pendants with my art on them
I hope you can find a way to stay home more, or stay home all together!

Mollie, im terrified of cows, but that is so cool that you made your own cheese! we've been making goat cheese here, its been great! (we don't have a goat! heeehee). We also have/had a wonderful garden, the season is over here now.
How are you handling the Clomid? I hope its not too bad!

Emma, I paint! and then use my paintings in all sorts of things from cards, to jewelry to printing them onto fabric to use in sewing projects.
Awesome that you're homeschooling!!! we keep going back and forth on the idea of it.

tjjazzy, sorry about AF

Callie, s im so sorry you were sick s
Good luck on Sunday!
Imi trying to be a good friend also.. a friend of mine MC about three weeks ago and now she thinks she's pregnant again! I don't even know if its possible, but she is very very sure. Im happy for her but so not happy for me... I hope its this month!

Barb, welcome! we have a wonderful group here!

Katie, welcome too!!!!

AFM: nothing to report, OPK's are getting darker but my temps are down, I hope I O soon because sexfest is getting to be a bit much!
DS is sick for the first time ever! he has croup they gave him some meds at the doctors and he's doing a million times better now.
Monday is Thanksgiving here, should be pretty good. I plan on starting the cooking tomorrow so im scrambling on Monday..