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post #41 of 317
Escher - I don't get a positive before 12dpo

Scarlett - Woohoo, PM me if you have questions about how our KD thing has worked out.

Welcome Miz Yellow and welcome back starling and diesel Hope your stay is short!
post #42 of 317
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And he's gotten 11 women pregnant already.
*dying laughing*
post #43 of 317
kgul & escher - thanks for the kind words. After reading everyone's responses, I am thinking that it's the clomid that's whacked this cycle. My uterus lining was VERY thin last month, so maybe there's not too much to shead. I appreciate the input.

Scarlett - Whoa! Such exciting news!

Tomorrow is day 2 on femara...and no side effects today!
post #44 of 317
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Starling&diesel- Welcome back! I added you to working on IVF along with me!

MissScarlet- That is such exciting news! What a dream come true!

AFM- I spoke with my RE today. She said my Vitamin D levels are really low, so I have to start taking ultra vitamins. The plan is in place to start IVF my next cycle. I have to go to another injections class specifically for the IVF cycle. I'm currently in mid cycle and it is so relaxing to not temp anymore. Just can't wait to get this started!
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Escher- With my son I didn't get a BFP until 14 DPO! You are in until AF arrives! Good luck, and I would love to get to know everyone better!

Scarlett- THat is amazing! Free sperm is nearly impossible to find! Congratulations!

Kgul- Thanks for the advice on the clearblues! I am a terrible planner, we ahve been talking about this for months and instead of beginning to chart I just waited til the month of action. Learned my lesson for sure! I am sure I will get it better next month. There is a lot to learn. As far as the metformin goes, I have type 2 diabetes (oddly enough because I am not overweight) and my dr told me that it is so much harder to get preggo when you have blood sugar issues and that metformin should help. I have been on it for years and I love it. If you have any ?s let me know!

AFM_ I have a little more hope because yesterday I have a super high and soft cervix with lots of EWCM. My temps were really low yesterday with a higher temp today. I am hoping for a higher temp tomorrow! I am terrible at not testing and imagine symptoms nearly immediately. Crazy much? DP is being so sweet and I think it will be harder on her than on me if I don't get preggo this month.
post #46 of 317
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Starling&diesel- Welcome back! I added you to working on IVF along with me!

MissScarlet- That is such exciting news! What a dream come true!

AFM- I spoke with my RE today. She said my Vitamin D levels are really low, so I have to start taking ultra vitamins. The plan is in place to start IVF my next cycle. I have to go to another injections class specifically for the IVF cycle. I'm currently in mid cycle and it is so relaxing to not temp anymore. Just can't wait to get this started!
fwiw, i had really low vit D levels back in june and my doc put me on 6000 iu and i conceived the very next month (and this one stuck!). hope that getting your level up helps you too!
post #47 of 317
Morning ladies~ I do agree we have a sudden influx of fabulous new people. I'm trying to think of a fun QOTD, but I'm having caffeine withdrawal brain today. Hmmm...

Scarlett~ I think that's an amazing bit of luck you're having there, and certainly the universe's way of telling you not to give up. Free fresh swimmers is about as good as it can possibly be. What are you learning about shipping freshies?

Escher~ I agree. A bfn at 10dpo means nothing. Keep on peeing!!

Max~ Not temping must be a relaxing relief. I'm so looking forward to hearing about your next cycle. Everything crossed!

MizYellow~ Good luck with this cycle, it sounds like you're learning as you go and that's not a bad thing. I'm interested in people's answers re the metaformin, and about your blood sugar/conception issues. Hope it's not too troublesome!

2ez~ I never had side effects with Femara. I hope it continues to go well for you.

Luck and love to all our ladies.
post #48 of 317
Good Morning, Everyone!

Library, Mizyellow, Painefaria, Krista, Scarlett: Thanks for the reminder that bfns at 10 or 11dpo don't necessarily mean bfns forever. I hope in this case that is true!

Scarlett: EEK! How exciting! I dream of free, fresh sperm. Hooray!

Max: Ultra vitamins sound intense! I hope they are exactly what your body needs. I'm so glad that you're excited to start IVF. I'm excited for you!

2ezforyou: Hooray for no side effects with femara!

Krista: Super sperm should be able to last 36 hours, I think. I have my fingers crossed for you!

AFM: So yesterday (10dpo) afternoon I got the lightest of light second lines (it did show up in five minutes, it is a pink dye test, but it is the kind of line you see only if you look up close at the stick under light). This morning (11dpo), nothing. I feel more pregnant than PMSish, but we all know that doesn't guarantee anything. So all I know is that in the next couple of days I'm either going to get amazing news or a huge disappointment. I will gratefully accept any crossed body parts, prayers, baby dust, whatever that you want to send my way.
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escher, I'VE GOT EVERYTHING CROSSED FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!! Come on sticky bean!!!
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Escher--- OHMYGOSH!!!!! I can't wait for your next test! *all appendages crossed, wishing, hoping & praying*

MizYellow-- It definitely takes awhile to learn your body, and it's ovulatory signs, and sadly, even then it's sometimes very ambiguous. Inseming early always beats insemming late, so fingers crossed for you!

Kgulbransen-- I kept getting ovulation confirmation multiple times on my OvaCue on the clomid months. I realize that all science says this isn't the case, but it makes sense to me that when there are that many active follicles they maybe don't all spit out the egg at the exact same time? I wish I had more info for you. As far as the Metformin, we use it daily in our practice for diabetics, but I'm a little unsure of which blood sugar tests I should draw on myself to check levels. There is straight glucose, but that just tells you what your blood sugar is at that moment and is very much affected by food, time of day, etc. Hemoglobin A1C tells you an average of you glucose for the last 2-3 months, and it what we use to diagnose diabetes. Then Fructosamine is used in newly diagnosed diabetics to adjust medications because it gives you a two week average of blood sugar levels. I also had a friend that did a glucose tolerance test to judge possible insulin resistance. Keep us posted!

Painefaria-- Expect a PM soon

AFM-- I could hardly sleep last night. I'm so stinking excited, but already a little nervous about timing with fresh sperm since it will have to arrive the very day we need to inseminate, no sitting in a tank for a few days. The donor is in North Carolina, and I'm in Texas. I am thinking about starting out using the BioTranz semen shippers. My tentative plan is to go ahead with the clomid, u/s monitoring, and then have him overnight a sample the day I trigger so I can insem the following day. Does that sound viable to y'all? The other option is me flying to NC, but my cycles are SO hard to judge, I'm afraid I'd have to be sitting up there peeing on things for a week. Anybody have any experience shipping fresh sperm?
post #51 of 317
But the thought just occurred to me in the shower that I could have him send me a sample every day for that whole week if I wanted BWUAHAAHAHA MWUAHAAHAHAHAA BWUAHAAHAH ahem ::sorry::
post #52 of 317
Escher—Yep! Looks like it’ll be around the end of the month, although it might move over into November, depending on what my body feels like doing. At this point I almost hope it takes a little longer so I’ll be able to try again at the end of November. We’re going to be gone for Thanksgiving, so if my O could just move to the week after I’d really appreciate it. Everything is crossed! That test is such a tease!

Carmen—Glad to hear your meeting with KD went so well! It sounds like he’ll get there, but I’m sure he appreciates you listening to his feelings and encouraging him to take his time rather than rushing him into it. I hope it continues to go well!

Starling—Hi! Welcome (back)!

Library—I’m sure you’ll start feeling good and pregnant soon! Have you felt any little kicks yet, or is it too soon?

Ruby—wow, that doesn’t sound fun at all. And certainly not like he was trying to impress you (whoa! That is an impressive amount of junk you just ate!). Do you have a plan for another donor if you need one?

Scarlett—Yay! Just when you needed something to go a little RIGHT for once! Can’t wait to hear how the details all work out! (also--hahahahahaha about every day for a week! Hell, have him send one every day for a month!)

Kgul—that’s so frustrating! But if he’s got super-sperm, maybe it won’t matter? Fingers crossed!

MaxK—you’re going to have a degree in injections by the end of this, from the sounds of it. Glad to hear you’re relaxing and getting excited!

MizYellow—I’m no good at the tracking, either, yet. But all of those signs sound like you’re on track!

AFM—well, my temp has been up for three days, so I must have O’d the day after the positive OPK, but my cervix hasn’t gotten firm again yet. Strange. It’s a little reassuring that the dr’s schedule (12 and 36 hours after pos OPK) would have the insems at what look like the exact right times, but I still wish this were a little more clear-cut.

Today I’m going to try to talk to the benefits office at work and see about getting signed up for short-term disability, and funding a healthcare FSA. I’ve never done the FSA before, and I hate the idea of putting in a bunch of money and then losing it at the end of the year, but it seems like next year I’ll either get pregnant and have that to pay for, or not get pregnant and spend a lot of money trying to get there. Does anyone have any advice on this kind of stuff?
post #53 of 317
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Carmen-- How EXCITING!! I sure hope you TTC goes super quickly! How old is your little one now?

SO now, for any of you using KD, I have tons of questions. Legal question, logistic questions, etc. Halp!
She is 9 months Yes, we may end up with 2 under 2 if all goes well lol

Ask away re: KD!

The first thing I would do is have him go for the usual tests to protect yourself. And a contract is good. You can use a lawyer, or not. We have a contract but didn't use a lawyer as the contract wouldn't hold up in court regardless (law protects the child not you) but it does show intent and is good for outlining the details with you and your kd.
post #54 of 317
Scarlett~ I like your plan of having the goods sent on the day of the trigger shot, then you can get started with the insems. Such a wonderful luxury to have ALL of the swimmers, rather than the meager, washed amount.

Escher~ That's SO Frustrating about the vanishing line, but I still think we might have good things this cycle. I think the lack of symptoms is also a good symptom. My success cycle, I felt NOTHING until I felt the implantation cramps. EVERYTHING CROSSED!

Isa~ No kicking yet, I think it's still too early, alas. Hopefully soon, I'm ready.
post #55 of 317
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Escher--- OHMYGOSH!!!!! I can't wait for your next test! *all appendages crossed, wishing, hoping & praying*


AFM-- I could hardly sleep last night. I'm so stinking excited, but already a little nervous about timing with fresh sperm since it will have to arrive the very day we need to inseminate, no sitting in a tank for a few days. The donor is in North Carolina, and I'm in Texas. I am thinking about starting out using the BioTranz semen shippers. My tentative plan is to go ahead with the clomid, u/s monitoring, and then have him overnight a sample the day I trigger so I can insem the following day. Does that sound viable to y'all? The other option is me flying to NC, but my cycles are SO hard to judge, I'm afraid I'd have to be sitting up there peeing on things for a week. Anybody have any experience shipping fresh sperm?
Hi, all. Welcome to the newbies! I'm trying to get a breather from ttc madness for another few days, but I wanted to drop in to say...

GOOD LUCK to Escher!! Appendages crossed! I really hope this is it, and that it is a healthy, sticky bean!

Scarlett AWESOME about the fresh sperm. I do have fresh shipping experience. Northwest Andrology and Cryobank sells the same kits as BioTranz for a little less money and more supplies. Rainbow Flag health services in Alameda, CA, also has overnight shipping supplies, also for less than BioTranz. Apparently, there is only one company that manufactures the test yolk buffer that keeps the spermies nourished and happy, so you are getting the same thing no matter who you buy the kit from. The kits run around $80-100, plus express shipping, so it isn't exactly free...but it is definitely cheaper than buying frozen vials from a bank. Getting the timing right can be tricky, but with u/s monitoring and a trigger, you should be great! Yes, I'd have him ship it out the day that you trigger for use the following day. My RE says to aim for 36 hours post-trigger, but with fresh, you could probably do more like 24 hours post-trigger and be fine. If you triggered at night, you could have him ship the following day and use it the next (3rd day) morning--about 36 hours post-trigger. But you should do what you are most comfy with, and early is better than late! Good luck to you!

AFM We made the hard decision to let go of our KD for now and to switch over to a willing-to-be-known donor from PRS. We got to see a video recording with the donor, which made the process SO much easier. We love him! He is a sweet, sweet, warm, caring, smart, happy guy. He kept talking about how important various strong women have been in his life and has quite a feminist outlook. AND he is a history teacher (I'm a history prof) and has all sorts of idealistic (ok..naive...but he is young ;-) ideas about changing the world through education. I love it! The other cool (or weird?) thing is that he looks a LOT like my brother. My DD is blond/blue eyed, and this babe would probably be brown/brown, but I'm actually excited by the variety. I don't feel that they need to look obviously alike (though hopefully they'll share some characteristics...). I spoke with my RE today, and he said that I've responded ideally to the Clomid and that on my end, everything looks perfect, so he was encouraging about the likelihood of pregnancy with the new donor. Here's hoping! Started clomid last night, hoping for no more of the scary visual effects I got last time. Ugh!
post #56 of 317
Miz Scarlett: here's another one for you...

Fresh sperm lasts longer so even if you didn't get it spot exactly on there is still lots of hope! BWUAHAAHAHA MWUAHAAHAHAHAA BWUAHAAHAH

Believe me, I love thinking of these things too. There is still stress around it (as you can see I'm not sure my timing was all that great) but it does feel darn good to have a new option and thus, new hope!

Krista
post #57 of 317
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Starling&diesel- Welcome back! I added you to working on IVF along with me!
Thanks everyone for all your welcomes and welcomes back. And thanks, Max for slotting us in alongside you.

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Originally Posted by escher12 View Post
I will gratefully accept any crossed body parts, prayers, baby dust, whatever that you want to send my way.


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Originally Posted by AmandaHope View Post
AFM We made the hard decision to let go of our KD for now and to switch over to a willing-to-be-known donor from PRS.
That's a big decision, but it sounds like you're solid in your choice. May this one be the one that takes!

AFU: Made the appointment with the fertility clinic! It's for real! Already daydreaming about names! Another dyke couple down the street had a baby on Friday, so I'm getting some newborn adoration in.
post #58 of 317
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escher12- Keeping everything crossed for you!


Anyone else testing soon?

MissScarlet-
I like the overnight idea as well. Those suckers can live for a long time!

starling&diesel- Do you know when your IVF cycle will start? I think mine will begin in a few weeks.
post #59 of 317
Escher !! I *so* will be stalking you tomorrow morning ! A line is a line !!!

Coco
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Question: how many of you have been monitored through a natural cycle (i.e. you didn't take Clomid, Femara or any injectable other than a trigger shot) with blood work and u/s daily? Did it work to help pinpoint your ovulation? Was it something your doctor's office normally does or did you have to push for it?

Krista
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