Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama
We've always faced any lying head on -- we don't ever try to "catch" DC in a lie and I always pretty bluntly say if I think she's not telling the truth. Sometimes I'm wrong. Sometimes I think DC thinks I have magical powers. Sometimes DC is confused.
If my instincts told me that DC was outright lying I would have just said, "That is untrue. I know your teacher would not say that. You are either confused or not telling the truth." If I really wanted to drive the point home and be a bit "punish-y" I would follow by saying, "I don't appreciate you trying to tick me into buying a toy...it makes me pretty angry, actually." Hearing that from mama would be more than enough punishment, IMO.
Thanks for this! Your post made me laugh too...heavy, indeed!
Anyway, magical power-wise I did see right through it, it was the most ridiculous lie. She looked over at the doll she has and I could literally see the gears turning in her head when she then told me that her teacher said we needed to buy her another doll in the playseries. Then DH and I pressed her on it, but she insisted she needed a new one for school. So I sent a note to the teacher just to ask if she actually did need to bring in this particular doll, or any doll for that matter, and the teacher responded no. I am 99.9% sure they did not have any conversation about it. I think she just thought it was an expedient way to get us to buy her something she wanted at that moment. That said, once she got into the lie, I do think she started to believe it. And I agree with most of the posts about development and how lying is normal, but it is important to me that we do what we can to help her understand the difference between the truth and a lie.
Anyway, we just ended up having A Serious Discussion about lying. I'm sure it will happen again and then DH will feel convinced that she is one step away from juvie if we don't intervene.