Pregnant and feeling....like *only* children have it better...and sad about it - Page 2

[Norasmomma]

I was an only(lonely) child. My parents never gave me half that stuff. I had more Barbies than most of my friends, but what I really wanted was a sibling, I did actually get them when I was 12. I have good relationships with them now as an adult, but didn't when they were little due to my parents divorce.

I swam when I was ready, learned Spanish in High School and when I went to Mexico.

For us when I was pg with DD I thought she was gonna be an only, but then right after her birth I knew that wasn't gonna be the way it was. I am soooooo happy to have 2 children, and I am a BETTER mom to the two of them than just DD. DS adds balance to our family. I think that the things you mention are dependent on the family and not the number of children.

[Smokering]

I don't see why your DD1 has more rights than your other kidlets, just because she came along first. She turned up in the world through no merit or asking of her own, just like the others: and I seriously doubt that onlies are statistically more able to swim in the big pool than siblings.

As the third of six, who DID miss out on a lot of enrichment activities due to being in a (poor) big family... I got five siblings. That's not "missing out". That's awesome. We were still way, way more fortunate in terms of education and activities than millions of kids around the world (many of whom also turned out fine).

I dunno, I just find this idea that our children are such precious little snowflakes that we're depriving the world of their great genius if they don't get to attend every class under the sun and glow in the light of Mummy's loving eyes 24/7 kind of... obscene. Look at "little emperor" syndrome in China. Those kids get the undivided attention of two parents and four grandparents, every opportunity money can buy - and they've coined a term to describe the dysfunction that that causes. I doubt many of them are growing up to be Einsteins and Jane Austens anyway.

She'll be fine. They'll all be fine.

[scottishmommy]

I don't think family size has anything to do with children being happy or not; responsible, loving parenting does.

[EdnaMarie]

Those pregnancy hormones really can throw you for a loop!

Totes. At least the OP is upset about a real issue. I used to cry about historical injustices.

[momtoS]

Thanks again everyone...reading the replies has really helped me.

Yes pregnancy hormones are taking me for a wild ride. Couldn't sleep last night because I dreamt that a man took an ax to my house and murdered my children.

Today I was on a carseat kick again...had to clean them etc and put them back in the car.

Now I am worried about dealing with my separated pelvic bone for the next 16 weeks... OUCH