Originally Posted by vbactivist
She was prostituting herself. It just doesn't seem like she is in a very good place right now. Esepcially if she is concerned about getting child support from a guy who was paying her for sex - there was no indication that he was wanting to co-parent with her either. Good luck, OP. I'm sorry you are in such a bind.
It really isn't your place to make that judgment for her. It's really easy to come to that conclusion when you look at things from the outside. From within someone's life, the process is never that clean and simple. A lot of people accept that sex is a sale-able commodity. That should not be the basis for determining whether or not someone should parent their child.
OP, I think you should agree to the paternity test with your ex and go from there. Whether or not you want to involve the other man if the test results indicate that your romantic partner was not the baby's father is a bridge you don't have to cross today.
Yes, the path you took in your life that brought you to this point was bumpy, but it does not have to stay that way. You do have the ability to forge a different life for yourself and this child if that is what you choose to do. You can also consider whether you do want to parent this child, but it sounds like you have already made that decision.
Also, fwiw, my daughter's bio-dad was the product of his mom's experience with a 'john' and his knowing that throughout his childhood was incredibly detrimental. *If* that is the situation, I urge you to tread carefully with how much information you share.