My mom is careless and hurts my baby! Help! - Page 2

[texmati]

Originally Posted by Latte Mama

I have to agree with PoppyMama, I think these are safety concerns. Why on earth would anyone think a baby would want to lie on hard glass/granite? That sounds so uncomfortable! Of course they would bonk their head, that is almost a given.

And opening an oven door with a baby on your front is just plain unsafe. Can you have a discussion with her about safety concerns? Will she see that her actions are um, clueless? Or will she just get defensive and upset?

Bottom line, this is not about your mom or her feelings, it is about the safety of your kids.

I'm really, really gooing out on a limb... could it be that your mom needs a hand at these times? If you are around, why does she have to cook and hold the baby?

I get it-- i'm pregnant and exhausted, and sometimes when I need a break, dh will make some tea while ds is in arms. But DH is very coordinated, and DS has never gotten hurt with him.


I'd put up some gates, and make sure that my mom could cook in peace while I take care of DS.

[lilyka]

If your mom is doing everything else so you can focus on the babies why is she still doing so much with the babies? Why don't you do some of the cooking etc while she is relaxing with the babies so she can actually focus on them. in a safe place.

I agree make rules about the babies that apply to everyone. N o babies i the kitchen (this is just a good rule. My dd has a huge scar above her lip to prove this is a good rule. I did everything right, she was just in the wrong place at the wrong time.)

Also don't shout at your mom when she does something careless. I am a clumsy person and don't always see the danger in things and have a pretty laid back attitude about bumps and bruises (although dangling a baby over an oven is not a mistake I would make....). However when people are hovering and nit picking I make so many more mistakes, so many more accidents. I get careless because I am thinking more about the person hovering than I am about what I am doing. if you know there is a problem area (the kitchen) better to just keep the babies out of the area. Phrase it as the area being the problem, the danger zone. Not your mother. And try to relax a little. At least correct her gently.