40+ TTC Awesome Autumn for Starting a Baby Thread - Page 9

[alittlesandy]

Hello to a group of wonderful women! Read through most of this thread and I feel very moved and inspired. I also feel very lucky, and ready to focus on the positives and moving forward. Msgoodbuns, I especially enjoyed your positive post!

Here is where I'm at right now:

I will be forty in March. I have a wonderful son, age 21 months. Took me 2 years to conceive due to endo, had laparoscopic surgery and a successful pregnancy which ended in an emergency c-section (breech baby) after a planned home birth.

TTC #2 for the past 6 months or so (I've never used BC, but have been actively charting, using OPKs, etc. since summer). Had a BFP in November but lost the baby on Thanksgiving. Now I'm waiting for the all clear from my doctor to start TTC again.

Worried about advanced maternal age and being lucky a second time.

Also, I hate my job and am taking steps to be able to earn an income from home, but that's probably a ways off.

Looking forward to finding support, love, and laughter among a group of cyberfriends.

Best of luck to everyone!

[contactmaya]

Congratulations Bookwormommy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!-praying too :-)

[mamapajama]

Hi!  I joined this thread a while back, but I wanted to pop in.  I am now officially 40 (almost 40 1/2) and we have been trying for 8 months now after losing our baby in March at 19 weeks.  I am charting and looks like ovulating around day 21, so my cycles are really long.  I have had a bunch of tests and everyhting looks good, but for some unknown reason I am not getting pregnant. I have been feeling very discouraged and sad especially because a year ago I got pregnant on the first try with the baby we lost.  I don't think it is a cooincidence that I haven't gotten pregnant, I'm sure it must be related to my loss.  And every month I say I am giving up, but this morning when I got AF I came over to this thread because I thought maybe I could at least have a more hopeful attitude.  Maybe somehow that will help.  At least that is something I can control.  So, here I am and I am going to keep trying to get pregnant.   

[Buzzer Beater]

 mamapajama. I'm so sorry for your loss, and welcome back to our group.

Sara

[gumblossom]

Congratulations Bookwormmommy!Great news. Welcome to new members and sorry to hear of your losses. This is a great group, you are in good company. I'm going to see a naturopath today, hoping for some ideas on how to stay well-nourished whilst making this new baby and still BF my 27month old.I'm feeling really tired and wake up ravenous every morning at 5 a.m! I'm glad to be 6 weeks on Wednesday and hope this tiredness and nausea is a sign of a sticky baby.

[BHappy]

hi everyone! just popping in to say congratulations to bookwormmommy!!!

a very quick update from me: i am 13 weeks and all is well. :D

love to you all!

xoxo

[Kristin0105]

Bookwormmommy congratulations I hope it's a sticky one for you. Keep using that progesterone cream! 

Bhappy so good to see you stopping by. Wow time flies. I hope you are feeling well and enjoying your 9 months.

Gumblossom hopefully all your symptoms are good signs. :)

mamapajama so sorry for your loss. Welcome back. Hopefully, you will feel inspired and find peace with whatever direction life takes you.

I am still in the land of the whacky cycle CD32 and no ovulation. I think it's stress. And just when I think I have the stress in order and handling it someone comes a long and throws something else at me. Today I was having a great morning with my little one when my parent calls to yell at me. An hour and a half later I was finally off the phone and so shook up it wasn't funny. So stressed  out, ruined most of my day. I tried to let it go but it's so hard. Back to trying to reduce my stress level. No wonder my chart looks a mess. I am practicing some meditative breathing and going to try my inversion table to help relax.

[WaturMama]

 Bookwormy!  stickystickysticky babe.

Welcome Sandy!!  So very sorry about your recent loss. And extra sorry that it happened on Thanksgiving. That sounds tough. From my perspective (at well into 43) you seem to be barely advanced maternal age. Maybe it won't take that much luck and I'll be moving you to the BFP list soon to stay. We've had a lot of new and (ahem) longtime members getting BFPs lately. It's fertile forties fall! (And almost-forties.)

 mamapajama. Sorry AF came, but glad you came by here. I got pg the 1st time twice in a row, first time ds, 2nd time a late 1st trimester m/c. Since then it hasn't come as easily though I've had several chemical pgs and another late 1st trimester m/c. I'm another one of those people that is baffling my western and nonwestern health care practioners. It is interesting to me that so many of us are reporting that recently. Have you tried TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine)? I used to have long and irregular cycles (33-38 days on average but some shorter and some much longer). But since I've started TCM they have gotten shorter and much more regular--31 days for a while, lately 29. Nothing past 36 in a very long time. It both seems healthier and we get more chances to try. Good wishes finding the next steps on your path and may they lead you to your sweet little one soon. 

Bhappy!!!!! 13 weeks!!!!! That is so awesome!!!!  I'm so glad you stopped by. Thank you for reminding me of the possibility of happy surprises. May this be the start of a lovely 2nd trimester.

 Kristin very sorry to hear about the stress. Sending wishes that you find dear ways to care for yourself.

[saoirse2007]

Wonderful Fabulous news Bookwormy!!!!

Yahoo to all the PG moms!!!!

AFM: It was around this time in 2008 that I found out I was pg with dd....seemed to be a lot of bfps...must be a good time of year for baby making.....I should O this weekend and Af is due the 18th....lets hope for some great news for us all this Christmas!

[BelovedK]

I haven't posted in a long while, DH changed his mind, but month after month, he is so not being careful..... even when I tell him to be.  Most of the time he doesn't even ask.

I have had trouble getting pregnant, and had 2 m/c since I've been trying :(

I am finding myself with the huge urge, but I am 44, and reluctant. I am wondering if it is even a good idea. I also am feeling a bit negative and sad with this whole issue :(

Thought I'd check in, now to go back and read this thread :)

[Kristin0105]

Thanks Waturmama yesterday was hard, today I woke really tearful. I think I just need to release all the stress and move beyond it.

BelovedK good to see you again. Sorry to hear you are feeling so down. Hopefully, you will find the peace and positive energy you are seeking. I know I am working on it myself. Waturmama not sure how you stood these long cycles this one is getting a bit annoying 33 days and no o. :( 

Have a great day everyone. I am going to go swim and make it a great day.

[alittlesandy]

Thank you SO MUCH WaturMama! I'm feeling better, both physically and emotionally, and now looking forward to January when we can actively TTC again (I'm going to wait until my period starts up again before TTC). However, I am a little disappointed today, because I thought the mc bleeding was tapering off, but I got a whole new round of fresh blood today. Sigh. I know it takes time.
 

Originally Posted by WaturMama 

Welcome Sandy!!  So very sorry about your recent loss. And extra sorry that it happened on Thanksgiving. That sounds tough. From my perspective (at well into 43) you seem to be barely advanced maternal age. Maybe it won't take that much luck and I'll be moving you to the BFP list soon to stay. We've had a lot of new and (ahem) longtime members getting BFPs lately. It's fertile forties fall! (And almost-forties.)

[fuller2]

Hi ladies -- has this come up before?  Earlier this year they discovered that progesterone is in walnuts. I don't know how much or what dose you'd have to take to be therapeutic, but.  Before the conventional wisdom was that progesterone was only in animals.  (BTW wild Mexican yams contain a precursor to progesterone and can be made into progesterone and other steroids in the lab, but do NOT contain actual progesterone.)

PubMed:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20108949

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/02/100204144815.htm

News articles:

http://www.livescience.com/strangenews/plant-progesterone-100204.html

In luteal phase, gonna go get me some organic walnuts tonight...

[bookwormommy]

Thank you all for your enthusiastic good wishes!  I'm sad to be leaving you, and hope many of you will follow soon.  Welcome/welcome back mamapajama, BelovedK, and alittlesandy - may you get as much great advice and support here as I have. 

  

[WaturMama]

Bookwormommy, before you go too far away, please let me know your EDD if you are so inclined. It think it is fun to see them on the BFP list. And I hope you will stop by occassionally and let us know how you are doing. Sending tons of good wishes for a wonderful pregnancy and sweet babe in your arms next summer.

[bookwormommy]

Thank you WaturMama.  See, I'm already lurking here!  Hardly anyone IRL knew that we were ttc, and this thread has been such a sweet, safe space for all my emotions  (I know I didn't express them, but I felt them!)  So I won't go too far away.  My EDD 8/8. 

[WaturMama]

Bookwormommy, I'm glad you're lurking and that this is a sweet, safe place for you. I love hearing how the pg mamas are doing. What a neat due date! I like that we have 8/8/11 and 6/6/11 on the list (karmab). Definitely good luck, I think!

AFM, I am 9 dpo. I am having pg symptoms--nausea, senso-boobs, lots of ovary twinges. But I am feeling a bit pessimistic about it, verging on melancholy. I have been down this road so many times now. This negativity is different for me--I am usually a bit over the edge in my optimism. I hope it can be attributed to moodiness and that is a "good" hormone thing. I'd love a Hanukkah miracle.

[gumblossom]

Waturmama, I had that melocholia feeling just before I got my BFP. I hope it is a good sign for you!

My EDD is 27th July 2011. I'm still here because I'm worried about making it to 12 weeks, so haven't joined any pregnancy groups. I'm going to see a doctor next week(7 weeks) and ask for a dating scan. I'll feel more confident once I see my little one.

Best of luck to all of you.

[saoirse2007]

I love hearing all the bfp stories!!!!

dh keeps waffling back and forth....2 days ago he was all for it...great sex...yahoo!

then last night (prime O sex time) pull and pray....grrrr

I am happy with not charting etc, letting nature take its course...or not, but preventing....grrr

[Kristin0105]

Waturmama fingers crossed for your Hanukkah Miracle! Saorise fingers crossed for you too.

I am on CD39, no ovulation, no AF sigh... I emailed my acu who is out on maternity leave she says "historically stress and being out of my routine" has lead to whonky cycles but "it could also be peri-menopause and that herbs can still help keep ovulation available if pregnancy is still the objective." Physically, I feel great, I feel young and vital, and love my dd sooo much I really want another child and yet here my body is just not doing what I want it to do. I have some weight to lose so I am really going to concentrate and trying to ditch some of this extra baggage and hope something changes for the good. I have a friend who got pregnant at 42 without trying. So I know it can happen. I just want it to happen to me too!!!

I think I'll go head to the gym for some exercise :)