Originally Posted by mariekitt24
sorry for any confusion. the ultrasound incident I was referring to was actually from my first pregnancy. I caved in to dopplers and a visual ultrasound during my first pregnancy and I still regret that.
I would like to avoid both ultrasound and use of the doppler, and I dont know which one the doctor will want to use, but either way I would want to decline.
I dont believe the Dr. has a fetoscope in his possession (but I will ask), and I do not have one either. I wish I did now but dont have enough time to bring one even if he did happen to know how to use one.
getting a heartbeat from the midwife before the dr wouldnt really work because the appointment is early in the morning and they are 2 hours away from eachother. maybe I'm just making excuses, I dont know.
I have an anxiety disorder and freeze up any time I go to the dr. I become unable to defend my beliefs and just become one of those "yes ma'am yes sir." types and dont show how upset they are making me. then as soon as I leave the appointment I usually start crying. SO not looking forward to this! If I wanted to deal with doctors, I wouldnt be seeing a midwife!
but thanks for all your input ladies, I appreciate the support. The appointment snuck on me, its already tomorrow.
I'm sorry to hear you're so worried. I find it admirable that you are advocating for the care you want for yourself and your baby.
TBH, I have no idea how the licensing works in your state- I would suspect, tho, that your MW is telling you the truth (altho it seems rather an odd situation). Like another PP said, tho, you ALWAYS can decline. That said, the doc can also decline to treat you in a non-emergent case (as you know from prior experience, it sounds like). This time- If the choice is btwn MW care and limited US/doppler, might you be able to frame it as choosing one undesirable procedure so you might have a greater outcome?
I know you said the appt was tomorrow, but if you happen to postpone it, perhaps call around other MWs or find others in your area in the same situation to see what they have done? I'm sure you're not the only one who's ever been stuck in this crappy position.
Also, you mentioned doctor's office anxiety, something I used to have a problem with... can you take someone (preferable vocal
) w/ you to the appt as your advocate?
Best of luck.