Support Thread for Taking Care of Ourselves and STOMPING FRUMPY OUT! (A spin-off) - Page 9

[sosurreal09]

hey! can't believe I havent seen this thread before! I feel soooooooo gross lately. we are a one car family now and DD and i are so isolated where we just moved. my idea of getting dressed is sweatpants and a baggy tee.........im 23 y/o!!!! what is wrong with me?!? DD is 15 m/o and of course not SSTN and im so tired all the time.

[kittywitty]

It was pretty inexpensive, imo. They have a mom kit that is cheaper than buying the things individually. I really like the frosting on taupe and goji shadows so far. The others I got are good, but too colorful for everyday.

[chely7425]

Yeah, it looks really good!!  I really like bright colors so I con't think that will be too much of an issue :)
 

Originally Posted by kittywitty 

It was pretty inexpensive, imo. They have a mom kit that is cheaper than buying the things individually. I really like the frosting on taupe and goji shadows so far. The others I got are good, but too colorful for everyday.

[maciascl]

Originally Posted by kittywitty 
How do you all handle trying to look decent and having disparaging comments made to you? My dh told me (I did not prompt this) that if he compared me to others-looks wise- I would do "reasonably well". Thanks, dude. I don't think I'm a looker, but by jove, you're my husband at least pretend I look good? I'm probably reading too much into that but he knows my self-esteem is rock bottom right now.

That is rough. I am sorry! I think you need to let him know that your feelings were hurt by his comment. He may have meant it in a complamentary way but he needs to know that that is not how it was recieved.

I have a beautiful deep brown sweater coat that I have had for YEARS but haven't worn for a very long time. It just feels too fancy/dressy for me, but I think I am going to force myself to wear it some this winter. The hard part is that it is hard to wear something like that with a baby attached to you all the time.  

[maciascl]

Originally Posted by maciascl 

I have a beautiful deep brown sweater coat that I have had for YEARS but haven't worn for a very long time. It just feels too fancy/dressy for me, but I think I am going to force myself to wear it some this winter. The hard part is that it is hard to wear something like that with a baby attached to you all the time.  

I just realized that it is a rather heavy sweater that has been hanging in the closet all this time so the shoulders are terrible stretched out.  I am going to wash it & hope it snaps back, but I am not counting on it.

[BettinaAuSucre]

Any other mommas who typically do not leave the house at all some days and never see anyone else besides their toddler and SO? 

I feel like most other moms have more of a social life/outside the house life and have a good reason to get dressed, whether it be to pick up the kids or shop or whatever and i have no reason at all to get dressed. :( 

If I did have a car, i'd be getting dressed more often and taking care of myself but since having kids, I just don't bother. my 3 year old doesn't care that mommy isn't dressed and neither does my husband. So i typically wear PJs all day, only changing to shower at night into another pair of PJs. 

*sigh* 

[suddenlyamama]

So,

I just found this for the first time today.

So happy I did. 

I am a first time Mama. DD is now 5 mths old. 

I had, for what feels like the 10th time, another breakdown last night about how gross I feel about myself. I don't think I was mentally prepared for how my body would appear postpartum. 

I also fit *awkwardly* into all of my old clothes. It is not that they don't fit, because some are even gaping in places they didn't before, it is just that my body has changed so much.

I am also a new stay at home mom. Before DD was born I was a preschool teacher, so you can just imagine what my wardrobe has been like forever! Blah!

I want to look good and feel good, but I am just all frump every day. We are on a tight budget since we are now on one income in the Bay Area.

Where should I start? Clothes, shoes that fit, new hair?? How do you find clothes that work well with nursing and are not nursing tops. They are too expensive. 

Anyways, good luck to all of you mamas, and I am impressed with those that manage to get up and shower before their kiddos awake. If only sleep wasn't so important right now!

[kittywitty]

BettinaAuSucre-I don't leave the house almost ever. Nowhere to go around here but the grocery store. So I don't have any external motivation to get dressed.

Jamie- It will get better as baby gets older! I also feel gross about myself. Wish I could help you there. I have terrible self-esteem, though. I would start with clothes and a hair style. I almost never buy nursing clothes-Majamas tops (can be found on diapers.com on sale often AND they have coupon codes out there. I got my last for a really good price) I have found to be AWESOME. They hold in my gut, but not too tight, they boost my bust so it looks nicer, is super easy to nurse in, and looks fantastic. I would splurge on one or two of these and a couple inexpensive knit sweaters for cooler weather and then some regular shirts-stretchy shirts like Old Navy's long sleeve v-necks or button up shirts work really well for nursing. I find "real" nursing shirts to just look weird and be strange to nurse in, honestly. I have found wearing a pair of earrings or nice necklace really helps me feel better about myself and makes me look "made up" with zero effort, too.

[autumnfairy76]

Originally Posted by kittywitty 

BettinaAuSucre-I don't leave the house almost ever. Nowhere to go around here but the grocery store. So I don't have any external motivation to get dressed.

Same here! We have no car and w/ toddler in stroller and baby in ergo, it just seems such a pain to go anywhere, except the grocery store which is a 10 minute walk away. I get so bored of the same old street I walk down too.

Somehow, I do manage to get dressed every day, even if I don't until noon or worse, then put the pj's back on in the evening. That and a shower helps me feel like I can start my day and be productive. Here in France everyone dresses nice all the time, even at the grocery store so even if I just do that, I feel the need to pay a little attention to what I wear. Though lately, w/ a newborn I just throw on a hat and don't bother even brushing my hair.

Suddenlyamama, I think a new haircut is a perfect place to start! I got one about 2mo after DS was born and it was such a mood lifter!