Support Thread for Taking Care of Ourselves and STOMPING FRUMPY OUT! (A spin-off) - Page 3

[DaughterOfKali]

I'll have to think of something to make me feel pampered.

Can't do thrift stores/second hand clothing due to major allergies. Unless I know that it's coming from a pet free/smoke free home and hasn't been stored in the attic or basement, I have to stay away from it.
Plus, the rare times that I do get desperate and check out a second hand clothing store, I can't find anything in my size. Frustrating!

But I should at least start wearing makeup. And get my hair colored on a regular basis. And... use the flat iron on my hair so that it's not a frizzy mess.

[confustication]

Ok, I got up, managed to grab a shower (with a two year old playing in the bottom of the tub until he could kick me out to get to his bath and playtime!) and managed to pull off getting dressed.

I tried to do SOMETHING with my hair, but I suspect that may be a lost cause. *sigh* Any suggestions for shortish hairstyles that work with superthick/wavy hair?

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by confustication

I tried to do SOMETHING with my hair, but I suspect that may be a lost cause. *sigh* Any suggestions for shortish hairstyles that work with superthick/wavy hair?

Layers are probably your best bet. In any case, a really good hairstylist will be able to help you think through it.

[Kelly1101]

I showered today and dressed (in maternity pants, *sigh* but at least I had a bra on). Okay I had to because my post-partum check up was today, but I still am demanding points for it

Doc said give it another week before going full on back to sex and exercise, so I'm going to hold off on the exercise DVD for right now.

But my weight is looking good so that made me feel nice-- only 7 more lbs to lose to pre-recent-baby weight! (another 20 to get back to pre-both-babies weight, but that's another story)

I think this weekend I'm going to buy some nice underwear and another good nursing bra (need it desperately, I have ONE nursing bra and two sleep bras, that is it). My clothes may still be a maternity ill-fitting mess, but at least I'll feel good under my clothes.

[kittywitty]

Zulilly has *beautiful* Elle Macpherson nursing bras on sale today! And matching panties. Code PUMPKIN10 for 10% off, too.

[jess_paez]

can i just say how timely this thread is! i've been thinking about this and just today got up at 6:30 when my husband got up and i cleaned the house-this sets the tone for me to be able to take care of myself. i got everything out of the way so i could have time for exercising, showering and doing my hair.
i'm not really concerned about being in a t-shirt and yoga pants all day. i'm a sahm mom with a 5 month old, so i don't really have anywhere to be-as long as i feel clean and my hair is done, i really don't need makeup or to put on jeans when i go for a walk or to the grocery store.
to take better care of myself i started up my weight watchers again just today, so i went into the pantry and i wrote 'pointed' the items and wrote how many points a serving is on the container/box so that when i wanted to make a quick meal with a demanding baby it would be easy. i commited to having breakfast and lunch-this helps me better take care of myself and not forget to eat!! just a yogurt, bowl of cereal or something. i also filled up a pitcher with water, stuck it in the fridge and commited to drinking it all each day.
my hair-i started using henna to color it and i love it. makes my hair shiny, heavy and healthy with no chemicals. i NEED to make sure to do at least the roots every 3 weeks. i also need to get frequent haircuts-my hair is thick! if i let it go too long i feel like crap!
i have a lot of pre-pregnancy clothes and tried on a pair of jeans today-they fit, but not flattering, so i am working on fitting into them.
waking up earlier than my son allows me to have the time to work out (30 day shred), shower and do a quick clean of the house. definitely will set the tone of my day.
oh, and a great clothing store i love is Ann Taylor Loft.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by jess_paez

i'm not really concerned about being in a t-shirt and yoga pants all day. i'm a sahm mom with a 5 month old, so i don't really have anywhere to be-as long as i feel clean and my hair is done, i really don't need makeup or to put on jeans when i go for a walk or to the grocery store.

This made me laugh because when DS was 5 months he was still nursing all.the.time...So actually wearing a shirt was considered a productive day!

[jess_paez]

Originally Posted by confustication

Ok, I got up, managed to grab a shower (with a two year old playing in the bottom of the tub until he could kick me out to get to his bath and playtime!) and managed to pull off getting dressed.

I tried to do SOMETHING with my hair, but I suspect that may be a lost cause. *sigh* Any suggestions for shortish hairstyles that work with superthick/wavy hair?

i have the same hair......what i need to do (and am really trying) is to get a haircut every 4-6 weeks. i don't mind at all growing my hair out-so it's not about length it's about taming it. getting my hair thinned a bit helps. i have shoulder length hair with layers.

[confustication]

Originally Posted by jess_paez

i have the same hair......what i need to do (and am really trying) is to get a haircut every 4-6 weeks. i don't mind at all growing my hair out-so it's not about length it's about taming it. getting my hair thinned a bit helps. i have shoulder length hair with layers.

Yeah, the last time I had a *good* haircut was last February. I had my mom cut it a few months ago, and while she does a good job in general, she doesn't thin/etc.

I'm thinking of saving up for a couple months to get a cut before the holidays. Really, I like the length, but I need shaping. Maybe I can make a cut and a good eyebrow shaping a goal.

[jess_paez]

confustication-you should! i know for me it makes a world of difference in how i feel when i have nice hair-i'd rather not buy clothes or makeup very often as long as i can get frequent haircuts

[chely7425]

Can I join in? I am having baby #3 in 9 days (ACK!!) and I REALLY want to make it a goal to be less.. frumpy from now on. I am horrible about wearing my PJs around the house all day and sometimes wearing them back to bed that night DH is deployed right now and I should have about 6 months post baby to get back in shape before we see him again. I really want to rebuild a good NON pregnant wardrobe! I have been pregnant for basically the past 3 years. So yeah... I would like to look like my pre-kid self more!

[confustication]

I need to fit in some exercise. Other than walking (not exactly a workout as my little ones like to explore more than walk) what are you finding that works well?

I think I can probably make time for *something* and I think that, after swearing at the process while I get into the habit, it would be a really positive change for me as I have become pretty lazy in the past couple years about working out.

[gabbyraja]

Originally Posted by jess_paez

my hair-i started using henna to color it and i love it. makes my hair shiny, heavy and healthy with no chemicals. i NEED to make sure to do at least the roots every 3 weeks.

I want to do this! Can you please share how you did it and where you got it?

I too need to get on board. Yes, I'm less than 2 eeks postpartum, but I feel like H-E-double hockey sticks and look even worse. On the bright side, I'm back in my pre-preg jeans. On the not so bright side, they are the largest clothes I own, at a size 18, and based on my weight at 4 days post-partum (haven't weighed myself since) I figure I have 60-80 lbs to lose before I hit my goal weight. That's a long hard road, but being this is my last I'm committed to making a little time for myself and my health at some point in the next year.

So, I've been reading this thread for three days. When I started I went through and began purging my closet. I got it down to things that fit now and things that don't fit now but I would actually wear when I lose enough weight to fit back into it. That didn't leave much... So, when I got my email today with a 30% off code for Newport News I ordered some stuff. 2 pants, 2 shirts, 2 sweaters and 3 jackets for $90! I LOVE Newport News. Their sizing is generous, they have slightly longer-length shirts that cover new-mommy-tummy (and even lots of tunic lengths), and while they have plenty of old lady clothes they also have some trendy stuff and just good-looking staples.

In case you wanted to check it out, the site is newport-news.com and the code to enter for 30% off an order of $75 or more is "538". It's good for 2 days, but they are ALWAYS having another sales of some kind if you're on their mailing list.

[jess_paez]

Originally Posted by gabbyraja

I want to do this! Can you please share how you did it and where you got it?

i'm going to PM you, if anyone else is interested let me know and i can send you a pm as well.

[Jaxinator]

Originally Posted by confustication

I tried to do SOMETHING with my hair, but I suspect that may be a lost cause. *sigh* Any suggestions for shortish hairstyles that work with superthick/wavy hair?

I have thick, sorta wavy hair and I just got this cut:

http://images.fanpop.com/images/imag...2_766_1024.jpg


I absolutely love it! It's pretty easy to do in the AM, I just blow dry it and it looks decent. Naturally it's not as pretty as Alexis Bledel's hair though
I know it's not short, but it's a thought and it can be made shorter of course.

[angela1435]

Thanks for the ideas on how to dress for the ball. I bought a dress and I am a little concerned it may be a little too young for me but I love it!! Do you guys ever have that problem??? I am a little in between where I want to dress stylish but I also want to dress my age as well. It's hard for me to differentiate young and stylish.

[confustication]

Ok, I failed the frump test today, a hoodie and yoga pants took over somehow. I claim it's because I'm doing laundry.

Oh, and for the hair issue, this is what I'm working with.

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pi...&id=1593128659

Henna sounds like a lot of fun, but it intimidates me.

[confustication]

Originally Posted by angela1435

Thanks for the ideas on how to dress for the ball. I bought a dress and I am a little concerned it may be a little too young for me but I love it!! Do you guys ever have that problem??? I am a little in between where I want to dress stylish but I also want to dress my age as well. It's hard for me to differentiate young and stylish.

I have this problem at times as well. I feel like I alternate between 'teenybopper' and 'ma'am' far to often.

[aloha girl]

Originally Posted by jess_paez

can i just say how timely this thread is! i've been thinking about this and just today got up at 6:30 when my husband got up and i cleaned the house-this sets the tone for me to be able to take care of myself. i got everything out of the way so i could have time for exercising, showering and doing my hair.
i'm not really concerned about being in a t-shirt and yoga pants all day. i'm a sahm mom with a 5 month old, so i don't really have anywhere to be-as long as i feel clean and my hair is done, i really don't need makeup or to put on jeans when i go for a walk or to the grocery store.
to take better care of myself i started up my weight watchers again just today, so i went into the pantry and i wrote 'pointed' the items and wrote how many points a serving is on the container/box so that when i wanted to make a quick meal with a demanding baby it would be easy. i commited to having breakfast and lunch-this helps me better take care of myself and not forget to eat!! just a yogurt, bowl of cereal or something. i also filled up a pitcher with water, stuck it in the fridge and commited to drinking it all each day.
my hair-i started using henna to color it and i love it. makes my hair shiny, heavy and healthy with no chemicals. i NEED to make sure to do at least the roots every 3 weeks. i also need to get frequent haircuts-my hair is thick! if i let it go too long i feel like crap!
i have a lot of pre-pregnancy clothes and tried on a pair of jeans today-they fit, but not flattering, so i am working on fitting into them.
waking up earlier than my son allows me to have the time to work out (30 day shred), shower and do a quick clean of the house. definitely will set the tone of my day.
oh, and a great clothing store i love is Ann Taylor Loft.

Does Henna work on coloring grays? And can I ask what brand of henna you use and what method? I'm really interested in trying it out, as I am ttc baby #2 and don't want to use chemicals on my hair. My hair is dark brown/black with about 10 percent gray...

[maciascl]

What about the emotional side to this? I am so burnt out and in need of a break to really care or put energy into how I look. How do you fill your emotional needs?