Originally Posted by Mackenzie
I think it is just about respecting their level of comfort... My kids are comfortable with their bodies and know that "a body is just a body and everyone has one". However, they all desire different levels of privacy. I too have no issue walking around my house naked and my kids don't bat an eye, however the only one that is comfortable doing that himself is DS2 (this is also the kid who used to stand in the picture window with nothing but his yellow rain boots on and wave at people as they walked by
) DD is not uncomfortable or ashamed of her body but I am about the only one that she allows to see her when she is changing or whatever. She is generally comfortable with me talking about it (her development) but only to certain people. I don't think that reflects a hang up or anything, and she certainly hasn't had one instilled in her. I actually think it is healthy for her to know where her boundaries and be willing to assert them. I think as long as we are not raising our kids to be ashamed or to feel like there is something wrong, then we are doing okay...
You are right, thanks for pointing it out!
Even though I do believe that their level of comfort (or discomfort, for that matter) comes/forms from SOMEWHERE. A young child just wouldn't decide out of his/her head that she doesn't want people to see changing, it must come from somewhere. Maybe her teacher at school is giving them a message of this being important or grandma or something, it just doesn't come from nowhere. The kids are not born feeling shy of exposing their bodies. And yes, if they do have the need for privacy, I agree it needs to be respected. But I would try to find out where it comes from and eliminate the cause for the future (as well as talking about it and explaining to my kids that some people may have an issue with it because of the way they were broght up and unfortunately, sometimes they may even feel they have the right to project that on other people or kids, but that it is THEIR issue and my kids should take it (and perhaps even respect it) for what it is: THOSE PEOPLE'S issue.
I'd ask my son if he had a problem of me talking about his toes with other people. While I would still respect his comfort level, I would definitely challenge him to think...