It hope people are not misconstruing privacy and embarrassment.
I find it interesting that people think privacy of our boys (in this regard) is or should be a non-issue. The reality is, many developed countries have laws against FGC. Many under-developed countries have laws against it and many more are working on laws against it. Now, that isn't to say it isn't done, even in the United States, and it isn't to say there doesn't need to be more done in that area. But, comparing male circumcision in the United States (or other countries where it is prevalent) to FGC (in the United States or developed countries) in terms of parenting discussions is apples to oranges, IMO. I would venture to say a lot more people end up in discussions about male circumcision versus FGC.In my experience
, only living in developed countries, it is assumed I will not have my daughter cut. With sons, that is not always the case, specifically in the United States. I'm not going to debate that because it is what is true for my experience. (I understand it is not necessarily true for other people.)
That said, I definitely try to engage in discussions about circumcision when I can because I do want to normalize it. I do think it should be assumed males are not circumcised. As I previously stated, I will start using language that does not include my son specifically.
Originally Posted by Quirky
I really think we have to "de-privatize" circumcision and get it out of the closet. It's not a "family issue" that is no one else's business. We've made it our business what women of completely different cultures do half-way around the world in terms of opposing female genital cutting and we don't see that as "private, parenting, personal" decisions -- why isn't the same true for male genital cutting? Until it's seen as an open topic and something that all people can have an opinion about whether or not a) they have a son or b) they have a penis, because it's a human rights issue, then it will continue under the cover of "privacy."
I can "de-privatize" circumcision without specifically discussing my son. That is what this thread was about.