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post #21 of 27
miso_soup Let go of the guilt mama!! Just love that little one up - all is well
post #22 of 27
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How are you feeling today? I just wanted to give you some love. <3
Aw, thanks! I'm feeling pretty good today. Each day I get a little less anxious and a little more confident. I think once things settle down a bit at home and we get into some kind of vague routine, all the guilt and uncertainty will just fade into the background. It's funny though, because I'm definitely noticing a cyclical pattern to my moods - I'm good in the mornings, okay in the afternoons, but my tough time hits around 5 or 6pm. Maybe it's tiredness, or hormones, or both? I had my placenta encapsulated, so I'm making sure to take three at my 'low' point each day.

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miso_soup Let go of the guilt mama!! Just love that little one up - all is well
He is lurrrrved up, for sure! I'm working on the guilt thing. Time will help, I think. Also, as I grow more confident in my ability to look after Dylan (self doubt has always been one of my demons), I think the guilt will naturally just dissipate.
post #23 of 27
My little guy is six days old today and I truly can't believe how much better the newborn days are compared to with my first kiddo! My surprise c-section the first time around left me positively reeling, and then I had a TON of breastfeeding complications within the first two weeks. (Bleeding nipples, mastitis, staph infection, breast abscess, hospital stay to drain abscess...all in the first two weeks!!! It was AWFUL.)

This time...so far, so good! Breastfeeding is going pretty well, and I seem to have enough milk in spite of the ducts that had to be cut for my abscess two years ago. Arlo is just a few ounces shy of his birth weight already! My nipples are really pretty sore, and the first 30 seconds of nursing hurt, but I'm being proactive and using lanolin CONSTANTLY and letting my nipples air dry as much as possible (and rubbing milk on them). I hope hope hope I can beat the nipple pain soon. I am thinking positively. I know Arlo's latch is good, I think my skin is just sensitive and needs to readjust to a newborn.

Also my mental health is so much better this time. On the way home from the hospital with my first, I sat in the backseat with her and she and I cried the whole way home! This time I have only shed happy tears and my mood is WAY more stable. I am grateful. So so so grateful.

Oh, and here is a pic of Arlo:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/colfax/5060991678/
post #24 of 27
boxcar: those pictures are amazing!
post #25 of 27
We're still hanging in here. Naomi is 13 days old today...will be 2 weeks old tomorrow already! Sleep and me have not been meeting often enough, unfortunately. I think it more sleep would do wonders to help me get through the "blues". I have a referral from my midwife to call for a post partum mental health evaluation which I'm going to follow up on. They may get me involved in some mom and baby post partum groups which I feel could be beneficial. I also feel like I haven't been eating enough (fatigue and disinterest in food) and have lost 20 pounds already and feel a little weak. It's Thanksgiving here in Canada this weekend though, so I hope to be fed lots of yummy food from both the in laws and my family.

DH has been a really great help. We bought a breast pump and I'm going to pump and see if Naomi will take an occasional bottle to give me a little more sleep. I seem to have ample milk production and at today's Midwife appointment, Naomi had gained a pound from our last visit on the 30th. She is 9lbs1oz now and was 8lbs2oz at birth.

Naomi is making all sorts facial expressions and grimaces and is getting chubbier.

We're just having some late lunch now and then maybe a nap for me. I'll try but I'm still unable to nap during the day.
post #26 of 27
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We're still hanging in here. Naomi is 13 days old today...will be 2 weeks old tomorrow already! Sleep and me have not been meeting often enough, unfortunately. I think it more sleep would do wonders to help me get through the "blues". I have a referral from my midwife to call for a post partum mental health evaluation which I'm going to follow up on. They may get me involved in some mom and baby post partum groups which I feel could be beneficial. I also feel like I haven't been eating enough (fatigue and disinterest in food) and have lost 20 pounds already and feel a little weak. It's Thanksgiving here in Canada this weekend though, so I hope to be fed lots of yummy food from both the in laws and my family.
Oh, big to you! I know exactly how you feel - I'm wrestling with the blues, too - suffering from nowhere near enough sleep (baby likes to nurse every 1.5 to 2 hours throughout the night), reduced appetite, etc. I'm gradually starting to feel better - less run down, more optimistic - but I still feel overwhelmed at times. I think that getting involved in some 'mom and me' type groups would be a really good thing - I'm looking to do the same. It's amazing how much better you feel when you have other people to talk to and empathize with! It can be a lonely feeling, this whole 'blues' business.

Regarding the weight loss: I too have lost about 20lbs since the birth, (2 weeks ago now) and I only have another 8 to go before I'm back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I suppose I should be happy about this, but I'm honestly not - it's too much, too soon, imo. Plus I'm breastfeeding and I really need the calories. I'm trying to increase the amount that I eat; and at the moment I'm just kind of stuffing it in there regardless of whether I'm hungry or not, lol. Certain things are easier to eat, I'm finding - smoothies are a life saver for me right now. A couple of bananas, some frozen fruit or milk... blend it all up and chug it down. It doesn't feel like 'food', so you don't have to be 'hungry' to eat it, if that makes any sense. But it's very nutritious and filling. I'm also eating lots of soups - chicken noodle, that kind of thing - for the protein.

Regarding the sleep issue: I am not a 'natural' napper, and am slowly learning to nap in the daytime when I can. Is there a particular reason that you can't nap during the day? Not enough time, or are you just finding it too difficult to relax? For the first few days, I found it almost impossible to relax enough to sleep at all. I really have to force myself to lie down and clear my brain a bit and let sleep take over for a while. Even just 10 or 15 minutes helps. If you can, try to at least give yourself that time a couple of times each day - you may find that as you slowly start to feel better in general, the naps just 'happen'. But in the interim, at least you are resting.

Hang in there - it will get better, I promise. I am well versed in the 'blues' in general (not just the baby blues!), and as the saying goes: this too shall pass. It really will.
post #27 of 27
miso_soup - Thank you so much for your response. It does feel good to know that there are other people in the same boat experiencing the same things.

About the napping, I'm not able to relax enough to nap, it seems. I finally napped yesterday but I was feeling pretty good emotionally at the time so I napped...it was short but a nap. When I lay down to nap, I find myself thinking about everything that is upsetting me...or I worry that baby is going to wake up at any moment so why bother napping?

I'm hesitant to go into this aspect too much, but I worry that I'm not enjoying the baby enough and I hate thinking about the past and mourning how easy things were when it was just DH and me.

The amount of guilt I feel for feeling this way is terrible! I do know that getting a better handle on sleep and feeding myself will do wonders for my mood. Just getting outside of the house for our midwife appointment was wonderful.
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