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Originally Posted by alison77
 I guess I'm worried at one level that taking him out may be teaching him the wrong thing - that he can just stop something instead of needing to work through what the different issues that he has with it are. In this case, he doesn't want to go b/c he's afraid we'll forget to pick him up, or that we won't be able to find him when we do pick him up. So I wonder, will keeping the schedule reinforce the concept that we will always pick him up no matter what. While taking him out says that we don't have to deal with the cause of his concerns.
In my heart I think the right thing to do is take him out, but I want to make sure I'm considering everything . . . . |
I think it is best to take him out, because the program is unnecessary for your family at this point. If it were necessary, there would be steps you could take to increase his comfort level and reduce his anxiety. But it isn't necessary, and you both know it. Realizing it isn't necessary--that he could be home playing with the neighborhood kids--may make it more difficult for him to accept the situation and effectively deal with his anxiety. There will be many, many opportunities for him to work on his anxiety regarding this issue when the need to be apart from you (or the desire, in the case of playing with neighborhood kids) is genuine.
