This attitude is what I run up against all the time when I say I am a homemaker.
Being a homemaker and caring for your family, including your husband, doesn't make you a maid. It doesn't mean the husband doesn't contribute to the household. It doesn't mean I tramps around the house while my husband rings a bell for tea. It means that I make sure the needs of everyone in my house are met, to the best of my abilities, that we have a clean, warm and inviting home for us and guests to enjoy, and that I'm always around for my children and husband.
My husband and I have traditional roles, and he is the head of the house. That in no way means that his needs "trump" anyone elses. It's in no way an "oogy male environment". My husband and children respect that while my duties are different then theirs, they are equally, if not more so, important.
Yup. Totally agree. Except my husband would probably crack up if I said he was head of the house. It would just be funny to us to say that. We both feel equal as a team.
I think it comes down to picking the right mate. I can't imagine why any woman (who didn't want it) would pick a demeaning, demanding, jerk of a husband. We are liberated people! We get to pick our own mates, as far as I know there isn't much arranged marriage in these parts, kwim?
The hostility of some of these comments is really sad to me.