|I know hypnosis can work for people having surgery, and I don't think that surgical pain is 'all in their mind' or just 'due to the expectation of pain', so I figured there was no reason I couldn't help with childbirth.|
One thing that does give me hope is that during DD's labour, I was able to get through contractions for a while by thinking "mind over matter". During the contraction I'd squeeze my eyes shut and kind of think "This isn't real, I'm me, I'm in charge, I'll just ignore this and it will go away". Not very nuanced! But I think it did help for a while - definitely not forever, but then I was in a very bad headspace with fear and unhappinesss and a generally pathetic cringing suffering mentality. Which was largely because I'd pinned all my hopes and way too much of my planning on a "perfect" home waterbirth, so when I ended up being induced for pre-e it threw me completely off.
I'm definitely planning to address that this time. The hospital's been redone since then, and apparently the birthing rooms are way less hideously depressing than last time - so even if I do end up there again (very possible, due to pre-e's tendency to repeat), I'm hoping it won't be quite as bad. And I'm actually planning a birth centre birth this time. I don't want to invest all the emotional energy in preparing for a homebirth if it might not happen - so I figure that as I'm less "attached" to the birth centre, I'll be less upset if I have to transfer. Anyway, I transferred there for recovery after DD's birth and it was really lovely. I feel vaguely sad that I'm "over" the homebirth thing, and distinctly peeved that my MIL will no doubt rejoice that I'm not trying "That" again (even though a birth centre birth is really no safer than a homebirth, statistically - but well, that's another rant!): but I think this is the better way for my none-too-robust mental health. Returning the unused birth pool last time was just... depressing.