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post #21 of 79
One out of three of my kids did this. It was awesome. Still, it didn't quite make up for my boys, who wouldn't sleep for anything!
post #22 of 79
I had two little insomniacs, and then, gloriously, had a natural sleeper. It's WEIRD. I nurse her, get her to 'sleepy', put her in her bed, give her a blanket, and then.. walk away. It feels vaguely neglectful, though really, if I push it and try to nurse her/rock her to sleep she usually gets worked up and then is a mess.

My older girls? They still fight sleep, wake up multiple times a night, and want to be touched all night long.
post #23 of 79
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Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama View Post
My babe bounced himself to sleep for his morning nap today.. weirdest thing! We borrowed a jumper from the inlaws (it's the fisher price horse, I think). He was quietly bouncing for 15 minutes, so I went ahead and made breakfast.. still bouncing.. I checked emails... still bouncing. Then I peeked over to say "hi" and realized he was asleep! His head was resting on the "saddle", eyes closed, yet every 20 seconds or so he'd bounce himself. Too cute. Amazingly he stayed asleep as I transferred him upstairs. Otherwise, he always needs help.
pictures:
http://oliverquinn.shutterfly.com/77#77
So cute!!!

Mine has just started to drift off to sleep in the last month on occasion....and by that I mean unlatching when he's nursing in bed and rolling away from me to finish falling asleep. Honestly, I'm just happy when he falls asleep easily with help...and he's a pretty good sleeper all things considered! Most babies need help falling asleep in some form or another, and if I'm ever feeling grumbly about it, I just think to myself how lucky my baby is to have a mom who can and will do that for him whenever he needs it.
post #24 of 79
My 6 week old has fallen asleep 2 times on his own. That's gotta be at least a 1% success rate!! Every other time I've been able to get him to sleep with nursing, rocking, shushing, ect.
post #25 of 79
When ds2 was about 2mths old, he started sucking his thumb. I would nurse him, put him down on the bed, he'd roll over and put his thumb in his mouth and go to sleep. It was INSANE! I was so happy.

It didn't last. Now he can't sleep without the boob in his mouth thru the nite!! lol He's now almost 1 year old.
post #26 of 79
I only have one- but I def. need to put him to sleep every time. But I think that is just how it is with babies. I think it is the parent's job to actually teach the baby how to go to sleep. This is why I think it is wrong to expect a little baby to "self soothe" themselves to sleep- I think we have to teach them how. That is why lullabies have been around forever! We use lullabies a lot. So the trick is having the patience to put the baby to sleep, knowing that this is the learning stage. I thin kit is like establishing good habits- teaching them now and then when they are older they can drift off to sleep!
But disclaimer- this is just my own experience with my one babe.
post #27 of 79
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Yup. I have one. We also have a unicorn and a leprechaun :
Here too.


I think that both are completely normal, there's such a wide variation in normal on this topic.

FWIW, Mine never had the chance because they fell asleep nursing as babies....and there was NO WAY I was waking them up to lay them down. Now, I suppose I could have just gently put them down and seen what happened, but I was always so glad they were asleep and I'd get a little free time that I waited 10 or so min and then put them down to be sure they were in a deep sleep and didn't wake....so maybe party of it is manufactured and if I would have put a freshly asleep newborn down they would have drifted back on their own, I dunno.

They both wanted company to fall asleep for the first few years, but now at 6-1/2 and 4 they go to sleep on their own and sleep all night, and those years of intensity are all but a happy memory. Well, a memory anyway.
post #28 of 79
My almost-10-month-old puts herself to sleep for naps, but not bedtime.

She plays in her crib for a few minutes, then just goes to sleep.

It's a new thing, and it's as though she's perfected cold fusion; it's that awesome.
post #29 of 79
Mine does and actually as a whole she needs to fall asleep "alone" if not she gets overly aggiated and ends up crying and frustrated.. We have to watch and learn when its time there is a point where shes is fed and calm and all that but still awake if we time it right I can lay her down and she just drifts right to sleep. If I insist on countinuing to hold her shes gets mad if I try to lay her down before shes is ready she quickly wakes crying... Its rare we can put her down fast asleep... My first was just like this. Come to think of it DH and I are the same way.. You can come keep us company hold and caress us but when were ready to really sleep GET BACK! we need space..

Deanna
post #30 of 79
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Originally Posted by Ellp View Post
Mine never have but a friend of mine's daughter apparently does. She just goes up to her parents and says "I'm tired, I'm going to bed" and DOES! FWIW though, she's just turned 3 and they keep LATE hours in that house. Its not unusual for the kids to go to bed till 9:30/10/11pm.
With my first by 2 she would basically just grab her blanket climb into my lap nurse then kiss me and go upstairs choose a bed and put herself to sleep. We did have a bedtime but she seemed to naturally do it around the 7-8pm hour.. Shes did similiar for naps.
I give birth to ridiclously easy sleepers... I'll admit this..

Deanna
post #31 of 79
The thought of a child that will just go to sleep is enough to make me cry. I say this because not 4 hours ago I was walking my screaming 14 mo old around in the ERGO so that he would take a 45 min nap. And that's pretty much been my life for the past 14 mos. I will say that he does a pretty good job of nursing to sleep quietly for the first part of the night. Maybe my next one will be the magical child.
post #32 of 79
That is just how it is with babies.

DS2 need to be put to sleep - usually in the sling with movment or at the boob.

DS1 - used to drift off to sleep. But then he was bottle fed and had a dummy which is what I feel helped him be able to do this. Looking back, I do feel sad about that personally.
post #33 of 79
My three didn't really do that until close to age 2, and it wasn't consistent. After nursing, rocking, whatever, they'd finally lie down and then sometimes just drift of to sleep. Nothing I can count on. But it's so nice when it happens!

I think very few babies can do that under age 1 (if they haven't been forced to CIO), it's just a personality thing they're born with.
post #34 of 79


My DD1 would do that. She started falling asleep alone at about two days old-- I would put her down, to go to the bathroom or whatever, and the next thing I knew, she'd drifted off. She used to do it at night, too-- I'd feed her, and lay her down in a little bassinet, and she'd go to sleep. And I was so naive that I thought that's how it WAS with babies, and I used to get all sorts of judgmental about mamas whose babies needed a lot of help to get to sleep.

I think probably God was laughing at me, for being an idiot.

Then I had my DS and DD2.
post #35 of 79
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Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama View Post
My babe bounced himself to sleep for his morning nap today.. weirdest thing!
I have a friend whose youngest (third) child would happily jump in a Jolly Jumper for ages, easily up to an hour, and I did on occassion witness him falling asleep, upright, while still in the jumping harness. I guess he would have been around 6 months +/- a couple months at the time. I don't think I'd have believed it if I hadn't seen it myself.

OP - I've heard that there exist babies who will just put themselves to sleep, but that certainly wasn't the case with mine. My oldest was fully three before she would go to sleep unattended (and still, at nearly five, prefers someone to lie down with her while she goes to sleep). My little one is nearly two and nowhere near falling asleep without help.
post #36 of 79
My youngest has done this, but he only started in toddlerhood. We'd suddenly miss him, and go look for him...he'd be asleep scrunched up on top of a stool, flat out on the floor, hanging halfway off the couch...

All of mine nursed and got patted to sleep until at least 12 mo, often longer.
post #37 of 79
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Originally Posted by octobermom View Post
Mine does and actually as a whole she needs to fall asleep "alone" if not she gets overly aggiated and ends up crying and frustrated.. We have to watch and learn when its time there is a point where shes is fed and calm and all that but still awake if we time it right I can lay her down and she just drifts right to sleep. If I insist on countinuing to hold her shes gets mad if I try to lay her down before shes is ready she quickly wakes crying... Its rare we can put her down fast asleep... My first was just like this. Come to think of it DH and I are the same way.. You can come keep us company hold and caress us but when were ready to really sleep GET BACK! we need space..

Deanna
My son is the same way. If I try to hold him he gets agitated and starts crying. We just try and watch his cues to find that magical balance where he's tired but not too tired, then we set him in his crib, he "talks" to himself for 5-15 minutes, and falls asleep. FWIW he was not always this way - the first 2-3 months he required bouncing, rocking, patting, etc...and if we set him down before he was sound asleep he would start screaming. While I'm certainly not complaining about how easy it is to get him to sleep now, sometimes I wish he would fall asleep while I hold him because I miss those cuddly moments. Can't have the best of both worlds I suppose.
post #38 of 79
My last three did this. They would get tired, real calm, and pass out.

The first boy would walk to his crib and want up and in at around 9 months old, the second boy would just tell me "nigh-nigh" and go sleep somewhere (usually his bed), and the third boy (18 months now) falls asleep wherever when he gets tired...yesterday it was on the rug in the living room, a few days ago he climbed into my lap outside and fell asleep.

My FIRST child though, a dd, did not do this AT ALL. She still fights sleep all the time, so I've been pretty spoiled since her.
post #39 of 79

One of Four

We have four kids. Number three was like this for awhile as a small baby. I'd put him down on the bed after a bath and he'd fall asleep while I was getting his clothes or his diaper.

As an older baby he would not nurse to sleep. He'd break the latch and crawl off to the crib that we had side-carred to fall asleep on his own.

If I offered the breast when he wasn't hungry, he'd bite. No comfort nursing.

Now, he also went through a period of needing to nap in the carrier on my back when he was an active older baby and was easily distracted.

Overall though, if we'd been into using a crib he is a baby who have slept in one without a lot of trouble.
post #40 of 79
I discovered a couple of weeks ago that DS will do this as long as he is tired, in a good mood, and I lie down next to him. However if he is in a bad mood I do have to bounce/rock him. Swaddling helps but sometimes he will fall asleep unswaddled. He once fell asleep on the changing table, diaper off.

Sometimes he wants to nurse first but rarely falls asleep at the boob, just lets me know when he is done, I lay him down and fix his swaddle, lie down next to him and he falls asleep. It might take 15-20 minutes before he is asleep to the point that I can get up and leave.
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