Why can't I accept this "good fortune"? - Page 2

[EnchantedMamma]

I think you need to ask yourself honestly, "Self, what is it exactly that you are worried about if we quit work to stay home?"

If there are no worries, than ask if it's a guilt issue.

Get a conversation going and allow yourself to answer from the heart until you hit that sensitive spot. Give it room to talk, to take up space. Acknowledge it without letting it take over emotionally.

Consider that there may be a perfectly good way for you to deal with whatever you feel might be lacking if you stay home.

Also consider that maybe a part of you just wants to be heard, and that maybe after you let those feelings exist you will be able to accept a decision to stay home a little easier over time.

There's no reason you need to squash down your feelings when clearly they are begging to at least be heard. That may, or may not, be all you need.

[tana'smama]

oh to be lucky enough to have the option of going home and raising my babies. I wouldn't give it a second thought. There will be other jobs but only one chance with your children. Unfortunately I don't have that option and I have to deal with people that take there bad days out on everyone. I do envy you

[mamasaurus]

It's been three weeks since I made my "decision" to stop working. And have I?

NO!

I continued to take on work over the past three weeks. People call me and I just can't say no to them.

I think the only way to stop this is to change the message on my voice mail. It still says that I am working. I am going to have to change it.

[pumpkin]

If you care about your clients and you don't want to work then the polite thing to do would
be to change your voicemail and website (if you have one) to reflect
your hiatus. That way you won't be wastig their time and you won't feel
bad turning them away.
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[shelley4]

yes, change your voice mail! and just don't answer the phone for a while.. let your clients hear from the voicemail that you're not working.. then you won't feel so pressured while on the phone to do "just one more thing"

[mamasaurus]

It's so hard to actually change the voice mail! I haven't done it yet...

I keep thinking, "What if a really cool job comes in and I want to do it? Then I'll miss the opportunity!"

[mamasaurus]

Ok, I changed the voice mail. I'm not ready to say "I'm not working", so I said that I would be doing X type of work, but not Y type of work.

That will weed out the majority of the clients, and leave the door open for the type of work I really like to do.

And then if someone wants that type of work, I can talk to them and find out their needs and decide if I want to accept the job, assuming I have the time and interest.

I think this is the best compromise for me at this time.